I'm scared

I have been going out with my girlfriend for just over ten months now in a long-distance relationship (she lives in Poland, and I in Britain). She is in the middle of her exams at the end of the two BAs that she is studying, and is incredibly stressed. Our normal conversations over Skype have seemed increasingly fraught, and pointless arguments have cropped up more than they need to.

We love each other very much indeed, but I am just worried that the stress of studying for these exams, combined with the fact that we see each other very rarely, will start to tear us apart. I couldn't bear to lose her - I know we haven't been together very long by many people's standards, but what we have is so special, I would hate to lose her.

Our love is strong, so it isn't by any means a rational fear, but I am just scared. She is the love of my life, and I hope one day to marry her (I'm 23 and she's 22, so it's not stupid to think of such things), so I want what we have to continue to grow and be strengthened. Thinking rationally, I know that going through tough times will help us in this, but my imagination always comes up with the worst-case scenarios.

Thanks for listening to my rambling.

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  • Cop on shes f**** around b carful she dont giv u dose

  • I've been in this situation and I'm still in it now. If seeing each other isn't possible, working on giving a little benefit of the doubt when these silly arguments crop up will really help. It's easy to take things the wrong way when you can't see the other person. Just believe you both mean things in the best way.
    A little bit of romance can't hurt either - occasionally have her flowers delivered or organise a surprise, write a love letter and post it..... And don't forget to focus on the future and the reason you're working hard!

    HOWEVER, if you find you are really fighting all the time or you're being pretty unfair to each other, don't just brush it off. Being understanding and I being a walkover are totally not the same thing! You might need to talk about it together or, if it really isn't working, accept that it might not be destined to work out the way you hope.

    Best of luck. :)

  • You have to give her a surprise visit while she is in this time. Believe me it will do wonders for both of you and it will show that you care about her more than she ever thought..!!

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