Being Alone

Ever since I was very young, I've preferred being by myself. It's not that I'm antisocial or don't care about any one, it's just the way I've always been. I've never had more than 2 or 3 friends at a time, I don't keep a phone, I don't do any sort of social networking, or hang out with anyone. But lately, my family and my fiancé have started to worry about me and my social skills. My family asks me about my friends and why I don't talk to anyone and my fiancé been trying to get me to go "have fun" with someone other just him. Although I understand the general concern, I don't understand why this is suddenly an issue.
I do sometimes become lonely, but when that happens I just go see my family.

I like that it's quiet and there's no drama.

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  • Hmmm... You sound perfectly normal to me.

    I'm a very successful salesman. I travel most of the country selling my product to the top 100 furniture retailers. They say I have a silver tongue. I listen very well and if you sell by listening to your customer they will pretty much tell you how to close the sale. I take them out to dinner or drinks to thank for their business so I have all the social skills one needs.

    However... When I'm at home I love my privacy and being alone. I rarely invite friends over. I love to cook even if it just for myself. I have a lady friend that comes over a few times a week. She loves my cooking too.

    So... Guard your time you have to relax and be alone. It is not a weakness!

  • Sounds like you're simply introverted to me. As a fellow introvert, let me tell you that no one should try to push you to "come out of your shell". If it's what you want to do, then it will happen on your terms. Anything else will be uncomfortable and awkward, at best. You probably know that. If you never want to meet other people, that's just fine. Live how you are comfortable. Personally I have been making an effort to push /myself/ to maintain connections, with friends and professionally, because I've found that it's beneficial when things get rough. My nature is to shed connections over time and go back into my "bubble" but it's good to have friends, in my opinion. But not good for everyone, you see? :) You are very lucky to have a family that is quiet and drama-free. That's a rare blessing!

  • There's nothing wrong with enjyoing your own company. However, it's still good to see people other than your family from time to time.

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