Allow my daughter to smoke

My husband and I are both heavy smokers. My 11 year old daughter was smoking in her room when I unexpectedly walked in on her. After the awkward moment passed, we talked and found out she has been smoking for nearly half a year and is addicted. I told her it was OK for her to smoke. I feel a bit guilty but not too much, for some reason. My husband flat out didn't care if she smoked or not. I wonder if I did the right thing. I know smoking isn't very healthy, but at her age, I guess it isn't doing all that much harm. Besides, how can I tell her not to smoke if I keep puffing away at 2 packs per day. Neither my husband nor I are about to quit. We love smoking too much for that. So instead I watch my little girl puffing away at the rate of 1 pack a day. She smokes like it's nothing. She reminds me of myself when I was around her age.

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  • I really understanding you. Oud daughters are 8 , 10 and 11 and all are quit heavy smoker now. The youngest puffs a pack a day, the eldest each 2 packs. My girlfriend and i are both very heavy smoker, around 4 packs a day. We like to see our daughters smoke so young and so much. They were all from the start heavily addicted. Maybe it helped that my girlfriend smoked like h*** throughout all her pregnancies.
    Did you smoke too during your preg teen mom?

  • That is great to hear your daughters are all smoking! They are really smoking a lot!! I am curious as to how they started, such as did they ask you if they could smoke, or did you suggest they try it? I was also wondering what were the ages they first started smoking and if they coughed and you had to teach them to inhale etc.. I think it is great you allowing them to smoke at their age. So many people in this world stereotype it is a bad move or as being awful parents for having their kids smoke which I think is a shame. I think it is great that they are smoking so much. Is there any way you could send a video of them smoking? It is not often that parents are as great as you allowing smoking

  • As an ex smoker who had a tia stroke and gum disease not to mention heart problems. You people are insane to allow them to smoke and that is without mentioning cancer which so far i dont have
    Have some guts you idiot

  • It's great that you let your kids smoke! I think ALL kids should smoke! Don't limit how much they smoke, and don'the let them ever quit!

  • I'm a young teen parent, fully support by my mum and dad. Me and my bf can't wait to see our baby boy grow into a smoker.

  • I am glad to hear that you want your kid to smoke. I assume you are smoking pregnant which is a great thing. Have you thought about how you are going to get him to start smoking or at what age? You could get him getting used to it by holding the cigarette to his lips often right after he is born. Smoke around him a lot too another way he could get used to breathing the smoke, then as you keep putting the cigarette in his lips while you holding it he will eventually start sucking on it and drawing smoke.

  • The methods you suggest here are EXCELLENT and very effective! I KNOW they will work because they are very similar to the methods I used to get my daughters hooked on smoking. And the earlier, the better. Blowing smoke into the baby or child's face gets the kid used to breathing the smoke. Also, holding the cigarette to the chikd'so mouth works as well, as the baby will indeed eventually start to suck on the cigarette. Another way is to gently give your child smoky kisses by puffing small amounts of smoke into his or her mouth during gentle kisses. This is also effective in creating a bonding experience both betweeneed you and the child, and also between the baby and the smoke. The best thing to do is to experiment with different methods to see what is most effective in your own case. Just remember not to get discouraged or to give up.

  • First of all, congratulations on getting pregnant! I think pregnant teens are so cute! Especially ones who smoke during their pregnancy. It's good to hear that you want your child to smoke. Advice: do whatever you need to do to make sure he becomes a smoker early on. I think all kids should smoke!

  • Not sure what I would have done if I were in your shoes. Since I never smoked (and never plan to, though I've definitely experienced second-hand smoke) I guess its hard for me to relate. It would probably be hard for me to tell my child (hypothetically since I don't have kids yet) to stop doing something that I myself do and enjoy, so I agree with what you wrote in that sense. I don't judge you or your husband or daughter for smoking, as I realize how addictive it can be. As enjoyable as the activity may be to you all, though, you may want to think again about the pros vs. cons and re-evaluate, especially for your daughter as she is young and still growing. (For me, the closest vice I have to cigarettes would be a former chocolate addiction, and I had to re-evaluate that and make myself limit the chocolate to two small chocolate cookies per day, no more. It was hard at first but I feel healthier as a result. I hope I will have the willpower to give up chocolate for good someday). Hope you, your husband and daughter make the right decision for yourselves for the sake of health, longevity and overall well-being. Good luck!

  • I see nothing wrong with what you did. I have 3 daughters (now ages 13, 14, and 16). The youngest and the oldest both started smoking (with my approval) at age 10, aND my middle child started at age 11. I do not regret letting go them start, and I would do it again if I had the chance! I see NOTHING wrong with letting children smoke!

  • You did the right thing for allowing them to smoke. How many a day did they smoke when they started and how many a day are they smoking now?

  • Good questions! Our kids wants to smoke more and more which is great we think.

  • My daughters smoke about a pack a day. On days when school is not in session, they smoke more than that. I refuse to put limits on their amounts. I'm just going to say it: I'M PROUD THAT MY KIDS SMOKE AND I ENTHUSIASTICALLY APPROVE!

  • That is really good to hear of the amount they are smoking. How old are they now and how old were they when they started? Did they ask you if they could smoke and did you have to teach them to inhale?

  • Amazing! Hope that there addiction is still growing

  • You did the right thing. My daughter is 12 and she is smoking and her grades at school are better for it.

  • Good for you in letting her smoke! I also allowed my own kids start young and I have no regrets. I'm glad I did it and would do it again!

  • Good for you both in her smoking. How much is she smoking in a day, and how are her grades better for it?

  • My own daughters smoke about a pack a day. On days when there is no school, they smoke even more. I never put any limits on their amounts. That is their choice!

  • Good for you and them!! How old are they, how much do they smoke and how old were they when they started?

  • I think that is great that you decided to let her smoke. She was already smoking so allowing it made it much easier on her. People act like it is so bad and that you are a bad parent for allowing her to smoke, But I commend you allowing it. Heck most of the foods we are allowed to eat now days are just as bad if not worse for health than cigarettes. Do not listen to anyone tell you anything different you are a good mother and made the right choice in allowing her smoking. That is great to hear that she was actually smoking a pack a day, it sounds like she really enjoys it. I am curious to hear if she is still smoking now and if so how much etc.. You should make another post and update us as to the progression if she is still smoking..

  • I agree that letting her smoke was a great decision. I would love to know how much she smokes now. I hope her amount has increased!

  • I am 15 and a heavy smoker. My mum found out and wasn't happy at first. She smoked too and soon gave up nagging at me. We smoke at lot together now and is happy I enjoy it and sees I am as hooked as she is on our favourite cigarettes. Smoking is the best.

  • I let my own daughter start at age 10 when she expressed an interest in trying. She loved it, so I let her continue. She is now 15 and still smoking. Her younger sister is 11 and has recently started as well. That was about the age I started too. I have no regrets of letting them start and would do it all over again if I could.

  • I also allowed my 2 daughters to smoke when they felt ready (ages 9 and 11) . They are now 13 and 15 and still smoking. I didn't regret it then, and I don't regret it now. They enjoy it, and I don't mind letting them.

  • Good on you for letting your kids smoke. All ours do and are proud of them. Our daughter is pregnant too and still smoking heavily which we've commended. My gf smoked through all of her pregnancies.

  • Good to hear that your daughter is smoking through her pregnancy. Don't let her stop, as that is the best guarantee that the baby will love smoking and will want to smoke as well, which is something that should be encouraged.

  • You should have told her she's not allowed to smoke. But, having been a smoker, I know she would have continued. A bunch of us smoked as kids, and those of us who were not allowed to still did. Once a kid is addicted, good luck getting him/her to stop. In the end, I probably would have done the same thing you did. Hopefully, as she gets older, your daughter will quit on her own.

  • Gee, I wonder if your daughter will get to pick out your coffins first; or if you will get to pick out hers?

    Basically you are saying you found out your daughter is taking a small amount of poison every day, and you are okay with that because it hasn't killed her yet.

  • While it may not be 'hurting nothing' now it will definitely cause problems for her.My dad bought me cigarettes when I was 11 ,worst mistake he made as a parent in my opinion,though he did so because he didn't want me getting something off the street.A good idea would have been punishing me for doing it in the first place.Just think,at 11 by the time she's 22 she will have been smoking for ten years! Crazy! For the sake of her health you need to make it unacceptable.

  • Lmao just pointing out it would have been 11 years but good math mate

  • Hopefully the law will remove her from your home and put you in jail for child abuse. My best friends parents did the same thing and my best friend had a heart attack and died back in 2000.

    You scum need your heads examined and I hope you die soon.

  • Your a stupid f****** idiot. Half the food and drinks you consume everyday has far worse chemicals. Just because something is FDA approved doesn't make it good or safe. Dumbass

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