What do I do now?

I just want this question answered. What do you do when you love a person of a race you hate? I have seen members of a race mistreat my mother so badly and she just kept gong back to the same type of guy of the same race. I have tried to have no relationship with them but what if you were thrown into a situation for several months with someone of that race and you fell for that person?

I posted my issue several hours ago and it's missing. I am in a real mess for a few reasons. Two of those reasons are, he is close to one of my closest friends and she doesn't know I am a racist. She's a very good person who hates prejudice and bigotry. She and the rest of my friends have seen me put up a front and they will find out today. I called him names to push him away. I have been literally sick to the stomach ever since. Anyone out there have any advice?

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  • What your mom's experience with men is her own experience. Don't let it influence your relationships. Yours doesn't have to be the same. Take a lesson from your friends and open your mind and your heart and stop wasting time and energy on hating anything. If you want to hate..hate abuse, hate cancer, hate war, hate homework. It doesn't get you anywhere. It's one thing to have a preference for who you date because you're attracted to certain physical qualities. And sure, yea..there are individuals in every race that make you scratch your head..but doesn't have to be hate. You're in college, stop calling people names. If it works out for you and this guy. You're going to have to figure out how to find compassion..because he's bound to have lots of friends of many different races. And you are going to have to accept them for who they are, and they you. So be honest with your friends, tell the guy you're sorry and then be honest with yourself to see if you're really willing to make some changes for yourself.

  • Instead of crapping on about an entire race, deal with the specific people and specific issues. Sweeping generalizations are just unhealty excuses.

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