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I've fallen in love with my 12 year old stepdaughter....
What started out with me moving into this family with the mum, her 2 kids where one of them was then 8 soon to become 9 year old Daughter (will call her Sarah) Turned out to something
else.
At first it was nowhere near anything like the title says. Sarah had been abandoned by her biological dad and I kind of automatically grew into the role of the house dad. But the more
time passed the more attached to Sarah I got, I always felt that it was my duty to see through that she would have a good future, by supporting her and helping her with anything I could.
Sarah's mom have had a difficult time in her life as well, with some depression and so forth, which made the bond between me and Sarah even stronger. Sarah wanted to share bed with me
and her mum quite often, which was nice because I kind of liked it, this was before those feelings had started to take real effect.
But then suddenly I would say, Sarah's mum told me that she thinks her daughter has a crush in me, I am one of those guys who don't realize these things very easily. So I started
thinking, could this be true? I didn't think too much of it but it came back to me from time to time.
Time went on and I eventually realized that I spent more time with Sarah then I did with her own mum, It was Sarah who initiated the time together for the most part. We always had a
great time together, playing games, watching videos having a laugh and the same kind of humor. If she would've been 10 years old she'd been the perfect match for me, this was starting
to become my thoughts.
Some time went on and Sarah occasionally (which I told her off for) Kind of tried to show her self like "woops" ** before bath and all, she was about 11 when she started doing
this. Eventually after some talks with her mum about it she stopped doing it. But We have been cuddling (like father and daughter i'd say) But it's been a little bit more then that from
her side. I mean I could always sense what her mum probably had seen, It always made me feel ehum a bit shame, and like I was in a difficult situation. At one point she even tried to
give me a kiss out of nowhere.
We had such a close bond that I even was the first to know about her first period, which I thought was odd since I always saw that as a Mother daughter thing. Sarah is very VERY mature
for her age, I couldn't see me get feelings for anyone at her age in a normal situation. But Sarah is so advanced, she had repeatedly got letters from school saying that she's been
doing far above average. And at some International tests or whatever they're called she had scored so well that she would be able to Jump ahead 4 years and start in High school in
English, Science, Maths and something else i don't remember which one it was.
Time went on a little more, and we spent practically every day/hour that she was home when not at school together. Now she became 12 and she has become so mature in her mind that she's
actually talking like an adult with me, she's helped ME with so much when I've had a difficult time (Trust me I do Avoid sharing problems with her and anyone else for that matter) But
everyone who has kids knows how hard that can be. But with Sarah it's darn impossible.
Sarah always came and kind of wanted to squeeze in between me and her mum when we were watching TV or something, I got the feeling that she was jealous when I was spending time with her
mum.
Then the devastating news came "I want you to move out" It was a semifriendly separation which I felt had to do with her being jealous and possibly
a little affraid of me and her daughters strong bond. At this point it hit me, it took all these 4 years to understand or, to realize what Sarah's mum said earlier. She had a
crush in me, And It took me the "I want you to move" To realize I was in love with her.
These words totally devastated me and Sarah. I reasurred her that everything would be alright and still continued with my father role. But it
was with a heavy heart because I knew then I wasn't only loving her as a Dad, it was genuine feelings. I know I would never touch nor hurt her
or force me onto her or anything. But I love her, and frankly she's all I can think of right now (2 months after i moved out) I haven't thought much about her mum, other then to talk
about her daughter.
This was in the UK, I am now in Swe. And me and Sarah's keeping in touch. I'm 36 years old, have always been into mature ladies/women my whole life. But Sarah is a very special girl,
I don't think there will ever be anything between us.
But I do love her, more then the Father Daughter love, And it's not sexual it's only feelings. The future will tell what happens...
I had to breathe it out. I know I will probably get a lot of hate but it's ok. It won't change what I feel, And I know I'm not of any danger
what so ever to Sarah, quite the opposite. I just wish she was at least 6-10 years older.
You should have tapped that when you had the chance...**.
One day all internet records will be public. I can't wait for this day, when people come get guys like this ad the one taking about ** with his stepdaughter. Can't wait until they get their heads bashed in.
Me and my stepdaughter started having ** when she was nine. Her ideal. Its been great. Her mom has no ideal. You only live once.
U.R. PEDO
Despite what you say, and despite what you've convinced yourself of regarding your intentions, your "feelings" for Sarah are wildly inappropriate, and you must wipe them from your mind. You'll say you can't help it, but you can and you must help it. Because if you don't, you're going to act on these "feelings". And those actions won't hurt you: they'll damage Sarah ...... for the rest of her life. You are in a position of trust in a family that isn't yours. You've already crossed the line and breached that trust, even if only implicitly, which is why the mother had you leave (regardless of what she said the reason was). This is not unrequited love. It's not the unreachable star. It's a form of obsessiveness that is a sickness. And what you're seeing in her is being misread. "It's been a little bit more than that FROM HER SIDE"?? You're kidding yourself, and creating a predicate for a next step from YOUR side. You are in danger; real danger. Every ** says "she wanted it", because it provides a convenient premise for the impropriety. If you're this consumed by a twelve-year-old CHILD, your life is entirely out of balance, and you're going to need help getting it back in line. Talk to a professional and get an objective point of view. Your point of view is clouded by your overwhelming ** for this very trusting girl.
Could it be that you're not actually romantically in love with her and just simply had that strong bond which combined with the separation making you a little extra emotional about it?
It's nothing wrong with feeling these kind of feelings, especially not towards girls who're entering womanhood. To be a ** that some here seem to interpret this thing as, you need to be sexually attracted towards pre-puberty children. That means before they have had started developing into women.
And also for it be be considered a problem in a Psychiatrist or psychologist point of view this needs to be the average of your life. For example, you need to have difficulties being sexually attracted towards girls/women that hasn't reached puberty yet. To be sexually attracted to a girl who's not in legal age yet but who SEEM to be older is not to be considered pedophilia either.
So I wouldn't be to afraid of your situation, just take it cool it will probably pass in time, if it hasn't already?
regards
/Someone with a heart
This guy is a creep and you are treating him with respect? Just because he says he will receive hate for it, doesn't mean we should all try to understand his creepy behavior with compassion. He even knows he will get hate because he KNOWS it's WRONG. ** creep should kill himself. No compassion from me.
First, you're going to jail. And then, once the inmates there kill you, you'll be going to **. Both are totally deserved. Enjoy!!
Maybe, If I was a molester yes, or did anything harmful towards her or anyone else. Which I have never done nor have even have a slightest thought about. I'm simply having feelings for her mind, which won't lead to anything other then me being there for her, Which is also what all parts wants.
There was a time when you went to jail in the western world for being homosexual (not that long ago actually) Now fortunately you only go to jail if you ** someone being homosexual. I'm glad there's no laws (yet) that condemns thoughts.
Good on you mate.
I think you need to be evaluated by a psychiatrist. It is not normal to fall in love with a child that you are caring for or any child. That thought, in a romantic sense, shouldn't even enter your head.
Well, As I expected I'd get hate or uneducated comments. But I know where I stand both emotionally and educationally. First of all it IS quite normal, we're only living in a different time now where we live longer and have laws that have made everyone go haywire and started a witchhunt against the mind.
I'm no **, I am not feeling physically attracted to her and I wan't the maturity. And that is a normal state of mind. It's even natural and goes back in our whole history of human kind. Not much longer then 3 generations back we didn't have a higher life expectancy then the age I am in now. Do you think people just started feeling these things when they were about to die? No, I know these things are normal just not socially accepted.
What isn't normal is to ** someone, a child or anyone else. That isn't the point here and never will be. This girl who's becoming a young woman has a much higher mental state then anyone I've met, and I'm comparing this to adults just as much as with others in her age. Which makes it a bit more "normal" especially since you usually can't help who you're falling in love with.
But it don't matter, I know where I am in this and I'm in no danger to her or anyone in any way, never have been and never will be. And Psychiatrist don't do nor can do anything about this. The WHO and the Mental health guidelines which are followed by most developed countries in this world even consider "Pedophiles" to not be suffering from a mental disorder. It's actually a sexual attraction just like Hetero, Bisexual, Homosexual and so on.
Which leaves that over to Moral panic laws that automatically making this group of people into monsters and treated like criminals that need help which aren't getting any help other then to be able to live with their attraction in a crazy society.
Anyways, I'm no ** and I'm not even remotely close to being one, and even further away from being a **. Thank you for your understanding.
Lovely rationalization. Sadly, it's entirely wrong and entirely insupportable. All of it. Sadder still, it proves that you are just such a sick, sick, SICK **.
I can't believe this idiot thinks my original comment was "hateful". This further proves my point about his delusions. This child was NOT attracted to him but he made up some sick fantasy in his head that she was. Notice how he makes everything sexual (like her taking off her clothes for a bath). Thank GOD that mom had the sense to get her child away from this sick man who should have been nurturing as a father not some sick creepy person.