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Grandma's husband-verbal molestation
If verbal molestation is really a thing, it's happening to me. My grandma has been married to this guy for about 4 years now. He has always made nasty, inappropriate comments to me. I had one experience 4 years ago when I was 14, where I was outside the cabin we were staying at and my towel had dropped for a second but I picked it back up, I had thought the blinds were closed but when I got into the house he said "you have a very nice body" in a very creepy way. I tried to tell my grandma and she said I was saying that for attention. When I told my dad he confronted her husband and he completely denied it so my dad thought I was the liar. He has been making comments to me like this for years now and I have not said anything because I feel like they will just call me a liar again. When I hug him I get very tense because he makes me uncomfortable but he rubs my body and touches my ** and I pull away quickly because it makes me so sick but I'm afraid to tell someone. Well, yesterday, I was doing my chores and when I got back to the door to go into the house, he was standing there with his arms open for a hug so I gave him one not thinking that he was going to say what he did. He said "You have such nice **, I wish I could just grab them." I pushed him off of me and called my sister in tears, that's the only thing I felt comfortable with doing because I can't take it anymore. I love my grandma more than anything or anyone on the entire world and she means everything to me and I don't want to feel uncomfortable going to her house but I do and I don't think I will go again. My sister has told me to tell my grandma but I'm very scared that she is going to hate me or tell me that I'm lying again. This is the honest to go truth and I honestly think I will need some kind of therapy for this because I have been enduring it for so long and yesterday was my breaking point. I have always been uncomfortable around men because of him, he makes me think that every man is going to make my insides crawl like he does. I have had a boyfriend for about 2 years now and I don't even let him touch me anymore because of this. I don't want him to get into trouble with the law because my grandma seems happy with him but I can't be around him anymore. What can I do? What do I say? Please help.
Grab a bat and beat the ever loving ** out of that old rat **, because consent is key
If you think your grandma being "happy" is more important than getting that dirty old man pervert in jail where he belongs, you have issues. You think it's ok for her to accuse you of lying about this? I feel sorry for you. You sound like a really nice person with a really ** up family. Your grandma is a disgrace and her teeth should be knocked out.
Your grandmother is an idiotic old bag. Typical moronic woman in denial because she is desperate to hang on to any man even if he is a ** who commits sexual offenses towards her granddaughter. Next time he does that **, call 911 and report him to the police. You should not have to tolerate this **. If you don't want to get the cops involve, swing a baseball bat right into his ** the next time that dirty old man dares open his mouth to you.
Your grandmother is a **. She's even worse than him for not believing you and for accusing you of wanting attention. Tell that old ** to go to **.
Record evidence on your phone of his verbal sexual abuse, when you interact with him.
You are so over thinking this.
And how would you know? Do you personally know the op or/and her step grandfather? Well, do you!!?
Not all men are like your perverted step-grandfather. The scariest part is that no one knows what he's capable of or how far he will take it. Definitely, under no circumstances be alone with this guy. I think you should tell your grandmother. Understand that she may be both upset because of what's happening to you but also because here's this guy she's married to. Hoping she will believe you - because that is what should happen in these instances. But it's his word against yours at this point and that's really sad. You should tell her and just have some compromises moving forward. That you want to continue your relationship with her. And tell her that moving forward that you no longer feel safe alone with him or having to hug him. So someone must always be there, no private conversations. It would be interesting if you have your cell phone if you could just record what he says because that would be enough evidence to maybe just prove he's a pervert to her. But having some clear boundaries may help you and that's the most important part here. Speak to your dad again for some added support, he may be able to help you with how you can talk with your grandmother. Be honest with what you said above. That you see how happy she is and that's great. But you won't be subjected to his abuse any longer. Point out the fact that if she is going to ask him if he says anything, he will deny it and it will seem like it's your word against his. Stress to her (and hopefully she would know this already) that you are not a liar, you see how happy she is etc.. As for other men in your life, especially your boyfriend. You should always only do what you are comfortable with. But it may be to your benefit to seek counseling because you are experiencing some form of PTSD and it could help you greatly to process this.