My husband is getting fat

My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!

The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is sexy.

I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!

Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?

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  • I’ve put on some weight over the last year, and I look different in clothes than I did before. Seeing all these encouraging comments from ladies makes me feel better about my weight gain.

  • Not so fast there. My husband has been stuffing his face since this pandemic started and he has put on 20-30 pounds, if I guessed. We had to go buy him new jeans and work pants because his fatter butt doesn’t fit into his clothes anymore (he was already obese). Not everyone is excited about all these fat dudes waddling around like pregnant women! 😤

  • Pregnant men! Ha ha ha! 🤰🏻 👶🏻

  • Big, round and fat bellies are the best!! 😍

  • Not if they look like pregnant man bellies!

  • My husband has gotten a little fluffy on me over the last few years. At first I didn’t like his new belly, but now I am used to it and really love him being a little fat. He’s much more fun to snuggle with now. 💕

  • Yes, exactly! Don’t knock it until you try it. Snuggling up on my man’s chubby belly is so soft and nice. 💗

  • I have always liked my men big. My current boyfriend was around 250 pounds when we met, with plenty of muscle (he played linkebacker in college). In March when quarantine started he moved in with me. After several months of not working out, and his hearty appetite, his weight has ballooned up to 290. The gym has reopened now and he has started to go again to build muscle again, but he's gotten so much bigger that cardio is difficult. He is now probably "beyond the point of no return" where he is going to get bigger and bigger. I really wouldn't mind if he got up to 400 pounds. I love the idea of riding a man so enormous that my knees never touch the bed.

  • Yeah, my husband’s over 400lbs with a huge belly. He can hardly move in bed during lovemaking. He is exhausted quickly even with me on top. So try and keep his weight down love.

  • Oh, no. ☹️ That sounds a little too fat for you!!

  • No, I’m happy with my husband weight. I’m only a 4’9, 95lbs Korean woman so I am flexible with the weight difference. He just struggles with his belly size and tires easier now but we manage most things. Problem is he enjoys my cooking too much lol

  • How was his belly and weight when you first started going out?

  • Married 5 years now. Husband was 180lbs and had a normal sized belly. His weight ballooned rather quickly due to my Korean cooking, rice three times a day, rich sauces and desserts. He soon became addicted to it lol.

  • Would you say that Korean women have a thing for very large men? I have heard of a handful of korean wives fattening up their husbands quite huge.

  • Yes, food is my culture as is keeping my husband’s well fed. My English husband is certainly not complaining. But yes, all my Korean friend have very fat husbands.

  • Sounds like a good life. Wonderful wife just fattening you up with tasty food over the years and she doesn’t mind your belly!

  • I’m starting to wonder this myself as I watch the numbers on the scale climb up with my Latina wife rubbing my tummy after each meal.

  • Do you feel bad for making him fat?

  • No, not at all. I enjoyed giving him a big belly.

  • Be careful! You don’t want him too fat!! 🍰

  • Did you purposefully make him fat?

  • If not for quarantine, my boyfriend would probably have only put on a few pounds. I eat the same food he does, but I have only gained 10 pounds in quarantine compared with his 40 pound gain. He has always had a big appetite, but relied on intense workouts 5+ times a week to burn off the calories. For a 250 pound man, he was quite fit - he could run a mile in under 9 minutes. Now that the gym has reopened, he can't workout as intensely or as frequently due to his big belly. He tried running a mile yesterday. It took him 18 minutes, and he was huffing and puffing.

  • Sounds like you’re boyfriend is going to get very fat quickly lol. Are you over feeding him?

  • My boyfriend did gain rapidly after moving in with me. I cook relatively healthy food and rarely make dessert. But he does have double and increasingly triple helpings. Now that he is working out again, I think his rate of gain will decrease. But unless he cuts back on his portions, he is headed for 350 at a minimum and probably 400+. He likes his food too much to lose weight. I refuse to nag him about his big and growing belly.

  • How do you feel about his belly?

  • Do you like how big/how much he weighs now or not?

  • How old is your boyfriend? How does he feel about his big belly?

  • My boyfriend is 29, I'm 35. I think he's a bit embarrassed about his loss of fitness during quarantine. He is 6' 2" tall, and at 250 he with lots of muscle he cut a very imposing figure (although he is a sweety). Now at 290 with a big belly he looks very different. His friends are athletic and they tease him about getting fat. I'm not sure that will motivate him to get in shape again, we will see. But I'm still as attracted to him as ever (even more so now that there is "more to love").

  • I like plus-size women. I always have because that body type is just very attractive to me for whatever reason. I’ve dated a lot of skinnier girls before, and a few times in longer relationships they have packed on some pounds once they knew my preference.
    My current girlfriend was about 120 Lbs. when we started dating two years ago. The other week she told me she wants to diet because she’s almost 170 Lbs. now and she’s never been this big. I told her I loved her body, and would support whatever she wanted to do, but that I would prefer she doesn’t diet. We will see what happens, but I hope she stays a little fat for me.

  • How big do you want her? Why do you want her to be fat for you?

  • 170 lbs. seems really sexy to me right now, so I like her size now. I would probably be OK with another 20 lbs. if she put on more weight.
    I want her to be just a little fat. Not huge. Cuddling and snuggling is better with some meat on her bones. I’ve you’ve been with skinny women and then curvy women, you would understand what I mean.

  • Thanks for sharing!! Big girls can be a lot of fun, but we often don’t get as much attention from the boys. ♥️

  • True. I think men, in general, are socialized to see beauty at a certain weight thanks to magazines like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. That’s just one body type, and there are a lot of men who are naturally attracted to a fuller figure, but sometimes are ashamed if they indulged in that desire.

  • 50 pounds??!!!
    In two years??!!!
    What did you do to her??!!!
    🧁 🍟 🍕 🍦

  • I don’t know exactly, but I’m guessing she was about 120 lbs. when we started dating.
    She is still incredibly beautiful at a heavier weight, and I’m personally more attracted to her now than before, both physically and emotionally.
    I didn’t do anything to her besides love and support her and date her, which can include going out to eat.
    She’s gained about half a pound a week just from living her life and having someone in her life that doesn’t care for her to stay one specific dress size.
    She says that despite being heavier than ever before, she is also the happiest she has ever been. And that should be more important, in my opinion.

  • My boyfriend quit working out when the Coronavirus hit, and I jokingly told him I wanted to fatten him up. He jokingly agreed, but didn’t think I was serious. Since then, he definitely has a belly poking out now that it’s been about six months. I measured his stomach back in March and then again last week. Not sure how much weight he has gained, but his belly is five inches bigger now!! 😂😂😂😂😂

  • Did you really want to fatten him up or were you joking?

  • My girlfriend has been growing a little pot belly muffin top recently. It’s cute, actually. I don’t mind if she stays this way.

  • He has probably gained around 35 pounds.

  • How did you guess he has gained around 35 pounds?

  • Every 7 pounds gained corresponds to an inch around the belly, roughly.

  • Oh, wow! OK. I’ll have to ask him. You know that from like science or from gaining or losing weight yourself?

  • I have gained 100 pounds over the years. When I weighed 140, I had a 28 inch waistline. Now at 240, my waist is 42 inches.

  • What caused your weight gain? Do you plan on staying 240 pounds?

  • I have gained in spurts. I was in a car accident, and put on 40 pounds before I could exercise again. Then I got a sedentary job and put on another 40 pounds. The last 20 pounds came in lockdown. If the past is any guide, increasing activity levels will stop the gaining and improve my muscle tone, but won’t lead to weight loss. To lose, I’d need to go on a keto diet for months, but that’s too extreme for me.

  • How did you gain that much weight? How fast did you gain it?

  • I gained the 100 pounds over a decade.

  • That’s a big difference. What happened? How do you feel?

  • I feel ok, mostly because I started weight lifting and put on 20 pounds of muscle, which addressed the aches and pains I was feeling. Also, I had been doing cardio before lockdown. Didn’t lose weight long term, but I do feel better.

  • That sounds like a lot of weight, but I’m not really sure. Maybe it is 35. His body and belly definitely look different and he’s much squishier than before. When I measured him before it was 35 inches around his stomach, and it was about 40 inches around his belly earlier this week. So it’s about an inch bigger each month he’s not working out. 🤣

  • My husband is also getting fat, but I’m not as happy about it as you are. When we married, he was probably 160-175 lbs. Looked trim with a strong and thin chin line. He got on the scale last week and is in the 230-range. He’s got an emerging pot belly now and a double chin forming. I’m not excited about it. I still love him, but I don’t love his new physique. 😞

  • What are you going to do now that he is fat?

  • I’m not sure I would call him “fat” right now, but he is trending that way. I’m not sure I can do much besides cook healthy meals and encourage him to exercise with me. I’m still attracted to him, just not as into the belly and extra chubbiness that some ladies on here seem to be.

  • Is it that you aren’t attracted as much or that you feel his weight gain is signaling something else, like laziness or taking your relationship for granted or something?

  • Physically, I don’t prefer him looking chubby. Just not as attracted to that as a physical look. I’ve always been attracted to lean and healthy. I still love him more than anything, I just don’t know if I met him in a bar today if I would have been as interested just based on his current weight. I don’t think it’s necessarily lazy. I think he has just put on weight due to life and how busy he can be with work and family. I still think we are both very committed to each other and our relationship, so no concerns there.

  • Good for you, honey. I have a hard time getting past his massive belly where I used to see abs. Just use my imagination and remember sexier times...

  • Lucky man! I told my wife I was tired of watching my weight and always wanted a great big belly. At first she was kinda cool to the idea but now it’s a different story. I’m a big guy, 6’3” and was generally around 240 lbs. I’m not approaching 300, my gut has ballooned nicely, 56” round, and I get some sensual belly rubs and our s** life has flourished nicely. I’d love it more if she’d encourage me, pat my belly, get second/third helpings or even feed me with the intent to make me bigger. I love the sensation of the big belly bounce and she loves the feel of the flesh against her womanhood when we’re physically connected.

    If you are enjoying it, feed him sometimes. Buy a box of donuts and tell him you expect them to be gone by the end of the day. Make him cupcakes, huge lasagna dinners, etc.

    And if he balks or says no, feed me! Lol. Best of luck!

  • Why would you want to do that to yourself?

  • I don’t understand this.

  • You want to be fatter than you already are?

  • So she helped you gain weight at first and then stopped because she didn’t like it?

  • You sound like a big man!! Does she like your size? Do you like it?

  • My BF has kinda a mini belly, like not too fat but not abs anymore. I love it!! Not sure I want him to get any fatter, but definitely not skinnier. It’s too cute and cuddly! 🥰

  • Good for you, baby. Just wait until his tummy looks more like a baby belly, then you might have a different opinion.

  • My hubby always jokes and says he wants to get me pregnant so I’ll get fat for him. Not sure how I feel about that, or if it’s really a joke or not. Thoughts?

  • Not sure I understand. He wants a baby or he wants you to be heavier?!

  • Creating another human life so a woman can inflate for nine months is one of the stupidest reasons to reproduce I have ever heard, and I think that's why a lot of people exist today. Humanity is a very stupid cancer.

  • I loved when my wife was gaining weight during pregnancy. She was too skinny anyway, so when she had a baby she would really fill out. Like 50-70 lbs each pregnancy. I miss how big she would get.

  • I loved watching my girlfriend “inflate” when she had my baby. Then, while she was pregnant, she made me eat more, too. When we left the hospital with our baby girl, she was 10 lbs. heavier and I was 30 lbs. heavier than when we met. 😂

  • I’m not sure that’s why men get women pregnant. I think that happens so the human race can continue. But anyway, I think what this lady was saying is her husband jokes about her being bigger, either pregnant or fat. My guess is he wants to have a baby AND he wants her to gain and keep some weight on. Not sure, but that’s just my guess. I know with my wife, I was extremely attracted to her pregnant version of herself. She was incredibly sexy each pregnancy.

  • Hmm, stumbling across this. Looking at my own 75 lb gut. Wondering if my wife has been on here

  • Maybe just ask her. I just posted above about my BF’s mini belly. If he asked me, I would tell him to not try and work it off.

  • It’s not bad, man. Life with a wonderful woman who loves you and takes care of you is worth some extra weight. Every time I try to lose weight and go on a diet, my wife says she loves my size and how I look and makes me a dessert. But I can’t complain because she treats me like a king. A fat king, but a king nonetheless.

  • Do you resent that she made you fat?

  • Sounds like a nice life! How much do you weigh? How did you two meet?

  • Met in college when I was probably 175 and physically active (exercise, intramural sports, etc.). That was 15 years ago. I’m now almost 250, and she’s maybe gained 10 in that same time. At first it was difficult because I had never been heavier, but now it’s just how my life is. Luckily, she has accepted it (and contributed to it) and we are still happily married. Her dad’s weight and how my MIL fed him up should have been a tip off back in the day that my fate would probably be similar.

  • How much did/does he weigh? Are you and your wife happy with your size, or have any plans to be bigger?

  • He probably got up to 275, and then his doctor made him lose weight.
    I’m OK with my size, but I wouldn’t mind getting back down under 220. I didn’t look fat at 220, just husky. I look fat now with a belly that is round and sticks out. And I can’t play sports like I used to be able to (run, jump, have endurance, etc.).
    I don’t have any plans to gain anymore weight, but if I’m honest with myself, I haven’t lost any weight since being married. The scale has only gone up from year to year. So although I don’t want to get any heavier, I don’t have a lot of faith in myself (or my wife) that I’m going to stay this weight. She seems to only like me bigger based on always feeding me, so who knows.

  • My 100 lb gut is wondering the same thing.

  • Sounds like you used to be a skinnier man...

  • Ha ha! What happened that you gained that much?

  • Sounds like a lot of belly to carry around, has the wife been feeding you up? Does she like your big belly?

  • Why would anyone want their partner to be fat?! I don’t understand this post!!

  • Meh, a skinny man is like a d*ck on a stick. But a big man has a million other parts to play with, jiggle, fondle, rub, pinch, and squeeze. He's someone you can get lost exploring. If I can't pinch an inch on you, you better love to eat big, cuz we're going to fix that.

  • Have you always liked fatter dudes?

  • For me, it started with being more into who they are instead of what they looked like. Or I guess you can say that my physical attraction follows my mental attraction. I was never into big people before. But soon into our relationship, my partner gained a bit of weight, and it was clear they were basically a fatty, but trying to limit themselves for me.

    But I wanted the real them. So I was like hey, don't pretend to be someone else around me. Be yourself and enjoy what you want. When the belly started spreading, it was like magic. Suddenly I found myself liking a bigger belly. I wanted more of it, at first, it was because I felt like I was reaching a deeper level of connection with who they really are. But again, my physical attraction follows and soon I found that softening gut downright hot.

  • Is this about different people or just one person that gained weight while with you?

  • Was it one specific person?

  • Can you explain a little more of how you came to that conclusion? I think I prefer plus size women, as in I’m more attracted to them, but I’m not sure. Society belittles bigger women.

  • Me too re bigger women, though would not mind gaining either, as long as both are happy

  • You want a bigger woman, or you want her to gain while with you or you wouldn’t mind that both of you gain weight together?

  • Are you still with the person?

  • People who say they don't like being fat usually give superficial or external reasons -- they're embarrassed, clothes don't fit, etc. Those that are less constrained by what others think often get to experience the nicer aspects of both the process of becoming fat and being fat.

    There is a freedom in enjoying food as much as you want with your partner. There's a bond in the commitment shown by letting go and relaxing. Fat is soft and warm for cuddling. There's bear hugs that can drown out any problem.

    Haters will scream about health problems and point out some episode on TLC. But there's much more diversity in fat relationships. Sure, some couples do go for hugeness. But in most, it's just about being so into each other that a little relationship weight is expected, maybe even welcomed as part of love. And if you have a parter that loves to cook or enjoys feeding you or eating out, then maybe it's more than a little "happy fat".

  • I like this perspective. Thank you for sharing.

  • This is a good summary of how a lot of people feel.

  • Are you or your partner heavier?

  • Yes!! This comment! 100%!! ❤️

  • Exactly. This makes no sense to me, either.

  • I gradually fell in love with my best friend’s son and with her blessing we started dating and eventually he moved in with me when I was 38 and he was 22. I know he has always struggled to maintain his weight which left him depressed so I encouraged him to relax his diet. Then he started to eat! A year later he has formed a substantial pot belly and a big chubby face. Initially he tried to hold his belly in but he was fighting a losing battle as it was hanging over his jeans. I rub it and call it his big love belly and pinch his big love handles.

    I now have just found out I am pregnant so his big weight gain didn’t hinder that. We are eating for 2 now so there will be 2 big pot belly’s in the house, though I have some catching up to do lol

  • Why do you want both of you to have big bellies?

  • It was a joke. My man is getting fat whereas my belly will be a pregnant belly.

  • Are you planning on trying to stay heavier after the pregnancy? Or you want to slim back down?

  • No, I plan to slim down to 120lbs for our wedding all being well. Then starting trying for baby number 2 as I’m not getting any younger.

  • How much weight have you both gained since you’ve been together?

  • In the year since we moved in together he has gained over 50lbs mainly on his belly, waist and face. He weighs 245lbs now and he has always struggled to diet and stay below 200lbs. I have gained about 10lbs so I currently weigh 130lbs in the early stages of pregnancy. In the year before moving in together he gained about 14lbs so he was about 180lbs when we started dating.

  • Do you feel bad he has gained that much weight since being with you?

  • No, not at all. It’s a big gain cause he has been starving himself. I love his big pot belly and double chin lol. The only regret is he has to give up his football. He simply had lost too much pace to get up and down the field and his big belly restricted his movement.

  • Maybe he should change his position to Offensive Lineman!

  • Your age difference is disturbing to me.

  • Nothing is said when it’s the other way round! My parents had a 15 year age gap and were happy for many years. We are legal, and totally in love. What’s wrong with that.

  • Just stating my opinion on it, that’s all.

  • Not a problem.

  • How does your friend feel about you fattening up her son?

  • She accepts that he is happy and not restricted to any diets. Shocked at the speed of his gain and that her 23 year old son is too fat to play football now.

  • Congrats on the pregnancy. You worried about your two bellies in the bedroom?

  • Thank you. Very funny. I have been thinking about that actually lol. Mine will be a natural pregnant belly, whereas he is just getting fat. Will have to use my imagination to keep my young man happy! Any suggestions?

  • No, not really. I’m not fat. Partner isn’t fat or pregnant. Lose weight is the only advice I have.

  • Losing weight is not an option for him at present, but I have told him to slow the gain down. Once this baby arrives I want marriage and at least another baby so he needs to keep the weight down for that. After that he can get as fat as he wants.

  • Why is losing weight for him not an option?

  • Cause he is happy and overeating at present. I’ve told him to try and slow the gain down. Another reason is I like his big belly and chubby face.

  • You really don’t care if he gets fat?

  • He has gotten fat enough at present. Once we are married and god willing expecting baby number 2, I think he will enjoy gaining the massive belly I plan to put on him.

  • Does he know you are trying to make him fat?

  • Well when his belly first appeared and he could no longer hold it in, he asked me if he was getting too fat. I patted his belly and said no, and told him that I liked it and try not to hold it in anymore lol

  • But, why? I don’t understand.

  • Cause I like my men big, it’s as simple as that.

  • My wife is over 280lbs and has told me she would like to try for a baby. I gently advised her to lose some weight which really upset her. She is having none of it and wants to start trying now. What should I do?

  • What do you think you should do?

  • I’ve never has a child of my own so it would be nice to have a baby together. I confided in a girlfriend of my wife and she told me to accept and embrace her weight.

  • Easier said than done. She doesn’t have to deal with the weight gain like you do.

  • What did you say to her? Was she upset because you are correct or because of how you said it?

  • She is upset because she knows I’m right. She resents that she is the one with the big weight problem and that I am skinny and don’t gain weight. She has started to comfort eat now which isn’t helping matters.

  • I think you are totally within your rights as a husband (and possible father) to ask her to be healthier for you and the family. Are you in shape?

  • Yes I’m 5 10 160lbs.

  • Do you want her to slim down because you aren’t attracted to her at 280lbs?

  • Yes, it would be nice if she could slim down a little, but I’m happy enough with the weight she’s at as she still turns me on. But she’s only 5 foot so anything over 300lbs would be too fat for me.

  • What was her weight before or has she always been 280 pounds?

  • She has always been over 200lbs with me and has steadily gained over the last 3 years. She has 2 kids from a previous marriage and I hear she had gained 60 or 70 each pregnancy. We are in our late thirties so she would be an older mum this time round.

  • If she’s already gained 60 pounds with a pregnancy, gained 70 pounds with a pregnancy, had a steady gain since being with you and a third pregnancy gain of anything is going to make her a very heavy woman. Be careful.

  • She’s short and carries all of her weight around her middle, so it may be hard enough to get her pregnant. If she does I don’t think I’ll see her at under 300lbs again!

  • Got to ask yourself if you’re OK with that long-term, being over 300 pounds.

  • It’s harder to lose weight at that age and she’s running out of time for a baby. That’s a hard choice. She really needs to be smaller for long-term health, and not gain that amount of weight with each pregnancy. Did you offer to eat better with her and exercise with her? Are you concerned really about her health or her looks?

  • She’s not into dieting and healthy eating. Yea I’m concerned about her health and a selfish part of me doesn’t want a 300lbs plus wife after the pregnancy.

  • I don’t think anyone would fault you for feeling that way.

  • A 300-pound pregnant wife is a lot of woman...

  • Has anyone here ever dumped someone for gaining weight? Or has anyone been dumped for gaining weight?

  • Many years ago I dated a tall woman (6') who was around 200 pounds. At the time I was very thin (140). She felt uncomfortable about the weight difference and asked me to gain. I refused, and we broke up. A few months ago, I bumped into her. She has lost a lot of weight (she looked around 140), and I have gained a lot (250). I told her she looked great. She got a wry smile on her face, said "You too. I always thought you'd look better fat" and poked me in the belly.

  • You guys gonna get back together, you think? How did you feel about her poking your tummy?

  • She mentioned that she went through a messy divorce two years ago, so I don't know how available she is, but she lost so much weight that I didn't recognize her at first. I didn't think she recognized me either right away, but then her eyes lit up and she came over and greeted me with "Hey Chubbs!". She used to call me "Chubbs" back when we dated, even though I was stick thin, after I gained a few pounds. She would play with my tiny tummy roll and tell me how she was going to fatten me up. When I didn't gain much more weight (I was running 20 miles a week), she told me that it meant I wasn't comfortable in the relationship. She even offered me "protein shakes" which probably contained weight gain powder, but I didn't like the taste. She came from a traditional Italian family so my inability to put on weight made her reticent to introduce me to her parents, unless I got bigger. When I saw her again, she seemed genuinely pleased to see me and when we hugged, she let her hands linger on my belly as though she was sizing me up. She had a big grin on her face when she poked my belly and I have to admit it was s e x y as h***. Her parents have passed on, but her two brothers have taken over her father's clothing store so I see them from time to time. They're both around my size. Maybe I'll go by the store to get fitted for a new suit and ask about her.

  • I dated an Italian woman before, and she was trying to fatten me up like the other men in her family. I gained 30 lbs while dating her, but she was sexy and sweet about it. As I was putting on weight, she would always touch my stomach and rub it, etc. We didn’t work out for other reasons, but it was really good when it was good, and sometimes I miss being with her a lot.

  • My boyfriend said he wanted to end our relationship and said the weight I gained was part of his decision. It was about 25 pounds over two years, but that was the first time he ever said anything about me being heavier. And I guess he probably gained 35-40 pounds while we dated, too. But I guess I was the problem...

  • My wife left me when I was 45 years of age and weighed 270 lbs. I was devastated and thought I couldn’t meet anyone else at my age and weight. A year later I met and started dating an overweight widow in her 50’s I met through work. We dated for a year and food became a central part of our lives. We have been married for 3 years now and we have both grown fat and happy in our relationship.

  • How much do you weigh nowadays? How much does she weigh?

  • I’m up to 390lbs now, and was over 300lbs when we got married. My wife retired when we got married and has piled on the weight since then. She’s 60 now, weighing 360lbs with 3 big belly rolls she calls her retirement belly.

  • I was dumped for “getting fat on him.” It was 20 pounds over 18 months. It took a year to get over it, but I slimmed down and lost 30 pounds and started dating again. I found an even better and more successful boyfriend.

  • Happy for you guys!! I love a big boy myself. 💕

  • He has gained 160lbs since marriage with 60lbs in the first year adjusting to his new diet lol. I took my mums advice to ensure a happy husband is one who enjoys 3 huge meals a day and making sure his stomach was full before he left the dinner table.

  • That’s a lot of belly! 😳

  • Sure is, 320lbs of hanging belly. Haven’t finished yet, his brother is married to a tiny Filipino girl who has fattened him up to over 400 lbs. I have never seen a man get fat so quick lol, she had a belly on him in no time. His belly is so big he has to arch his back when he is walking next to his 90lbs wife

  • I've heard that about Filipinas. Also most believe in marriage for life, so you don't need your six pack body ever again anyway. She'll treat you like a king, but you need to stay faithful to her. A 400lb gut will make it easier for you to avoid any temptations.

  • Yea, my sister in law is some feeder lol. She told me Filipino women are obsessed with loyalty and hate lies. The size of the belly she has put on my brother in law will not be attracting attention, but she clearly loves him. She is bossy and possessive with him but he is too fat and tired to argue.

  • You're the Caribbean woman, right? Just how fat do you plan on making him? 320lbs is big for sure. But seems like you have a bit of competition between you and your sister in law on who has the fattest husband! Lol

  • Yes, I’m the Caribbean woman. I would like to fatten my husband to over 400lbs like his brother. It’s not a competition as she would wins hands down, she has even offered to help me fatten him more lol. When my brother in law was dating her she had put 50lbs on his belly in a matter of months before their marriage. My husband and I went to their house last week for a meal and I swear I thought my husband’s belly was going to burst with the amount of food he put away, both brothers could hardly move lol.

  • But how big is too big?

  • I would like my husband fattened to no more than a nice round 400lbs. His brother is currently 430lbs and I think he is simply been fattened too much. The man now has a massive double belly which he struggles to carry and moobs bigger than his wife lol.

  • Get him a bra and quick! 😂

  • I don’t think he needs one as they sit nicely on his upper belly. She tells me they are her favourite part of his big gain, but has admitted that his huge double belly is proving challenging in the bedroom dept lol

  • Does your husband also have moobs? He sounded like he was pretty fat.

  • He is 320lbs with baby moobs and a big hanging belly. His moobs will increase in size as I plan to fatten him up no more than 400lbs. He has recently started to develop a double belly like his brother which is fascinating to watch and play with lol.

  • We are a mixed race couple and due to my Caribbean culture of cooking and entertaining my English husband’s weight has nearly doubled in 5 years. Since our marriage he has grown to love my Caribbean cooking and I am used to the culture of large portion sizes and plenty of fried food and rich deserts. My husband’s weight ballooned in the first year we were married lol, and it has increase each year. Due to me he now sports a huge stomach which is a testament to my cooking skills lol.

  • Oh, wow!! Congrats!!

  • Congrats for what! Lol

  • How much weight did he gain? Did you do it on purpose?

  • What is everyone’s favourite big belly shape on a man or woman? And why?

  • Pregnant is hot. The more weight she gains, the better.

  • This is a stupid post, and you people are stupid. I prefer a healthy, slim and non-diabetic woman. That is all.

  • Chill out, dude. If you don’t want to be on this post, then you don’t have to be.

  • A woman with some wide hips, big butt, nice things and a smallish amount of belly fat is so sexy!

  • Fat belly for me, please!! It’s cute on a cuddly man!

  • I personally like a plumb belly. Not really fat, but not skinny. Just enough belly to be sticking out and rounding.

  • A belly with some jiggle to it!!

  • I tell my wife that her fat jiggly belly has a life of its own!

  • A belly with some jiggle when you wiggle it is the BEST!

  • Just a little chubby with a widening, flattened belly button.

  • On a woman, a slightly preggo look is super sexy for her belly. Like, where you aren’t quite sure if she is preggo or not preggo kind of belly.

  • How big is too big? He already is a size 40 in pants. That’s probably like an XL or XXL waist.

  • Well, that was more than a year ago. Hubby kept gaining and he’s just below 300 lbs. and he’s a size 44 pants now. He’s big and husky. I’ve told him we both need to be healthier and he needs to watch his weight better. I don’t really want him bigger than he is now. I still love him and appreciate his body, but he’s almost too heavy now.

  • Yes. 44 pants/300 lbs. is getting too fat. Have you put on weight, too, with him gaining that much?

  • Anyone ever tell their BF or husband that they are getting fatter and that you like that they are getting fatter? Not sure how to bring up that his belly is turning me on.

  • I just told my husband one day that I might like him fatter and asked if he would gain some weight for me. That was 34 lbs. ago!!

  • Just tell him to gain a little weight just for you because you want him beefier. He will probably do it.

  • You could just tell him you prefer him a little chubbier and see what he says, right?

  • Just rub it and tell him you like it. It’s that simple. That’s what my wife did to show me she wanted my stomach to stay around.

  • That’s what I used to do with my husband’s little pot belly. Now 5 years and 100lbs later I’m rubbing his huge pot belly lol

  • How did he gain his weight?

  • He married a fat wife who enjoyed over feeding him and putting a big belly on him. He’s nearly 280lbs now with a nice hanging pot belly for me to play with lol.

  • Yep, loved it. But I kept my belly under 100 lbs. You have a pretty fat boy by now.

  • Gotcha. Been there, too. Just start touching it more or grabbing and holding onto it when you cuddle. Don’t make him feel bad for eating junk food or desserts or overeating. Just do all this stuff more often and subtly and eventually he will ask about it or he will just keep gaining because he likes the attention from you. Good luck with it!

  • No, I don't think so. You'll be fine :)

  • Some people look better as skinnier versions of themselves and some people look better as fatter versions of themselves. It’s just one of those weird things that not everyone looks their best at the same weight, size or shape. I’m glad we can all be different and still look good! And I’m glad you can find joy, happiness and contentment with him being bigger!! Good luck to you two! 💕

  • I gave birth to our first child in January and during the pregnancy my hubby matched me pound for pound both of us gaining 60lbs. Since then I have lost most of my pregnancy weight naturally while hubby struggled to shift a single pound. In fact due to lockdown he has gained another 30lbs at least! He has a belly on him that looks fit to burst, meaning his energy levels have dropped and he is unable to help me much with the baby. He would sleep and eat all day if I let him. Anyone in a similar position?

  • Yes!! It happens to a lot of men, although maybe not to that big of a degree. My hubby gained about 15 pounds with each pregnancy. So three kids and about 50 lbs. later, he is still my main squeeze!! 💕

  • We had the opposite problem in our marriage. He was just slightly overweight by 20 lbs. and I was a good, healthy weight. I got pregnant and that motivated him to lose weight like a boss. He ended up dropping 48 lbs. during my pregnancy and was in his best shape since high school. I went the other way. I gained 42 lbs. and only lost 7 lbs. of the baby weight. It’s been two years and I’m about 35 lbs. bigger than I used to be. 😔

  • What weight are you now. Does hubby like your new weight gain

  • I’m usually around 170-175 lbs. on any given day. He loves the bigger b****, thighs and butt! So I don’t mind the extra attention.

  • Sorry to hear about that, love. That’s a lot of weight and not extremely healthy or helpful to you as a new mother. Unless you like his big tummy, I think you need to help him. He sounds like he can’t help himself on his own.

  • Thanks. It’s very draining looking after 2 babies at present, both feeding and sleeping lol, I have to see the funny side. Hubby has been told it will take at least 2 years to exercise his tummy off and he will be left with a large flap of excess skin, so I don’t know what’s worse, his big tummy or the excess skin.

  • So you think you would rather have his big tummy?

  • His big tummy might be the lesser of two evils. I think hubby is terrified of being left with unsightly excess skin, and I would not find that particularly pleasant either. The doctor was very blunt and truthful with him. What would you prefer?

  • My understanding is that the excess skin can be surgically removed, but I don’t know a ton about it. I would prefer a big tummy over excess skin, though.

  • I don’t think hubby would be prepared to go through the surgery and be left with ugly scars and risk gaining weight again. I agree I would prefer his big tummy over excess skin. He was the one who gained the weight so he may get used to his big tummy. I will learn to adjust to it and try to keep his weight down to under 300lbs.

  • Sad that you feel you are stuck.

  • Wow!! I was there, too. By month five, my husband had gained more weight than me (more than 20 lbs.!!). So I rented an Empathy Belly one weekend and made him wear it and said I didn’t want him to know what it was like to be pregnant, but I wanted him to know what it was going to be like to be really fat, which is where his weight gain was heading. He was on pace to gain 50 lbs. I said he needed to slow down on the extra weight or he was going to be a similar size in a year. He wasn’t happy about the Empathy Belly, but I insisted and he wore it Friday through Sunday. He was miserable, and I was miserable listening to him. But, that weekend motivated him to start being more active with me and watch his weight better. He gained only three more pounds the rest of the pregnancy and lost all the weight with me as we shed our baby weight together!

  • Fat husband life hack! Ha ha ha! I love it!!

  • That is a lovely idea. Well done!

  • Yep, been there and done that, too, ladies. He’s still fat. But I love him. He’s still the man I want everyday, even though he’s my chubby hubby now. Can’t imagine my life without him (or without his belly)!

  • Isn’t it funny that while us ladies have lost most of our pregnancy weight our husband’s have struggled to loose a single pound of their sympathy weight. How’s hubby enjoying his new fat belly? Has he got used to it?

  • Yes!! But our bodies are designed to shed some of that extra weight a little naturally. Our husbands don’t have that advantage, but they also aren’t forced to gain weight by this tiny human inside of us!! Sympathy weight is a real deal. I think it really hit him when we had to get him a new suit and go up in his pants size by 4 inches. He’s getting used to it now. I try to make him not feel bad about it by being more physical with him and his belly than before. I touch it a lot. I rub it. I hug him and hold it. I cuddle on it. I tell him I think he’s sexy. I think that has helped him feel better about it.

  • I can relate. That happened to us, too. My husband didn’t gain 90 pounds, but he gained about 50. Our joke was that we both looked about five months pregnant together. I lost all the weight except about 10 pounds. He kept on all the weight and still looks pregnant. I don’t mind his new tummy (it’s cute!!), but he is definitely less active now and gets tired quickly. I don’t love that.

  • 50lbs is still quite a gain, but at least you husband only put on 50lbs, could you imagine another 40lbs on his tummy? How is your husband enjoying his new tummy?

  • Yes, 50 pounds was still a lot to gain. I think he gained like 49.5 and I gained 53 pounds during the pregnancy. I’ve lost 42 pounds since the birth, and he has lost none.
    It would be hard to imagine what his tummy is now and thinking it would be twice the size with an extra 40 pounds!
    I’m not sure he enjoys his new tummy as much as I do. Like I said, I think him gaining and keeping the weight was cute and supportive (although, I’m not convinced he gained all that weight on purpose for me), but I don’t think I would have liked a 90-pound weight gain. He’s got a cute dad bod now. He’s adjusting to it. We got him bigger clothes. It’s harder for him to move and sleep. Intimacy has definitely been different, but we still make it work.
    What about you and your hubby? How has it been for you?

  • Well he’s certainly aware he has a big belly on him that’s for sure. I think he regrets gaining the pregnancy weight with me as he thought it would be easy to loose. Instead with the additional 40lbs gained he has gotten so fat. His big belly restricts his movement, energy levels and our intimacy. Like you we make our moments of intimacy work, positions are restricted now, and it is much slower and quicker now.

  • How much did he weigh when you first started dating and what does he weigh now? Maybe you can work with him on an achievable goal, like ten pounds in ten weeks. Start small. That could be helpful.
    But how do you feel about his big belly? Like it, not like it? I think at first I didn’t like it, but I’ve come to terms with that he’s still my wonderful husband, just a fatter version of himself.

  • When we met 5 years ago he was about 160lbs and when we married 2 years ago he was about 180lbs. He has gone up to 190lbs by the time I fell pregnant and now he weighs about 285 lbs. his belly is simply too big for his frame and his skinny legs struggle to carry it. He has shown no interest in losing any weight given the current situation. I will just have to adapt to it. I quite like a belly on a man but hubby’s is just too big and uncomfortable looking.

  • That’s a wide range of weights he has been since being with you. What would be your ideal weight for him? I like my husband in the 220-240 range, just a little fat but not huge.

  • He gained 20lbs when we were dating and another 10lbs after the wedding before I fell pregnant. The gain that he has struggled with is the 60lbs during my pregnancy with the added 30lbs during lockdown most of it landing on his belly. He might not agree, but I liked him at around 200lbs when he had a nice chubby belly, but I don’t think he will see that weight again.

  • My wife has always been fit and slim. During this pandemic, her fitness routine has been off and she’s starting to gain noticeable weight for her. We went shopping this week and she had to go from a size S to a size M for her dress and for her shirts. She was feeling bad about it but I told her she looks great. The honest truth, though, is she looks so sexy with some fat on her. She was always so slim and defined, and now she’s getting soft and I love it! She’s probably gained 20 pounds and I hope she keeps going.

  • Sounds like it’s working out for you. Keep growing her.

  • “Growing her?!” What does that even mean, dude? I just said she’s gained some weight and I didn’t mind it, and that I was surprised I liked it. I’m not like a feeder or something!

  • Just be careful. She might be on her way to becoming a fatty. How much gain is too much for you?

  • Yea, not into her being a fat girl. Just liked the extra fluff. But this site is weird and I regret even posting anything on here. And to answer your question, more than another 20 pounds would be too much. I’m not into fat gain and stuff like a lot of the people and comments below. I’m normal.

  • Seems nice, bro! Good luck on her gain.

  • Thanks, I guess. Like I said earlier, I’m not like trying to get her super fat. I just thought the extra weight looked cute on her.

  • The length of the lockdown period due to the virus has resulted my husband’s spare tyre doubling in size. His appetite is huge at the minute and he eats all day due to boredom. Even getting up from the sofa due to the size of his tummy has become difficult.

  • How big was he before and how big now? Do you fancy his new size?

  • He was 255lbs and is now 305lbs. I like his bigger size even though he is becoming very overweight. Something to hang on to lol

  • How much does he weigh?

  • He weighs 305lbs now, 5 feet 4.

  • He is 5’4 and 305 pounds?! Or you are 5’4? 5’4 seems very short for a man...

  • He is 5’4 I am 5’2

  • Are you overweight like him? That’s a big boy for that height!

  • Yes he is a big boy! Fat, short and round. I’m only 110 pounds and am a exercise freak. Opposites attract lol

  • My girlfriend of 2 years is currently 4 months pregnant. The problem is she was 300lbs when she fell pregnant and she told me she wanted to enjoy her pregnancy and “eat for 2”. She’s already 320 pounds and has told me she would like us to get married after the baby is born. I’m just worried I’m gonna have a 360lbs bride walking down the wedding aisle. Am I being selfish?

  • Enjoy it and have fun. I wish my wife would let go and just relax. I’m envious of you. Let her get as fat as she wants. Learn to love the process and compliment her all the time and I guarantee you that she’ll give you anything you ask for. Indulge her or send her my way and I’ll indulge her like a fat queen!

  • Yes I plan to enjoy the whole pregnancy with her. Both of her sisters are over 400lbs so they are not the best influences to have around because everything revolves around food. I’m even beginning to put on weight which I’ve never done before.

  • How much weight have you gained?

  • I have gained 20lbs so up to 160lbs

  • Maybe. It’s not selfish to be concerned about her weight from a health perspective because you want her to be around for you and your child. Maybe it’s selfish if you are thinking you will be embarrassed to see her walk down the aisle at that high quality of a weight. Either way, 300 pounds is a lot for a woman (or a man) and she probably needs to lose weight to avoid long-term health issues.

  • Probably, a little. She was already 300 pounds when you got her pregnant. But that’s big for a new mom. Just have an honest conversation about her health and energy level and how you can help her. Exercise together. Help her find time to cook and eat healthy. 360 pounds is too fat to take care of a newborn.

  • How much is your husband weighing these days? What's his pants size? Still fattening him up?

  • He’s around 300 pounds and wears a size 44-46 pants now. I’m not sure if I was ever intentionally fattening him up, but just trying to take care of him. Now that he’s a pretty big guy, I’ve been more careful about his weight. He’s definitely struggled to do things he normally could do really easily. So I’m trying to be more mindful of that, but I’m still very attracted to him and his new size.

  • I’ m sure his belly is huge now. Does the size of his belly make him struggle to do things he normally could do easily?

  • Yes, his stamina is down and his belly gets in the way. Its noticeable for him because he was slim before. It’s more difficult for him to bend down and tie his shoes, go up the stairs, take a shower with me or to do the dishes, for instance. He just gets tired more quickly or his belly is in the way.

  • That’s the downfall of having a fat hubby, it all goes on his belly. Does that frustrate you? Especially during intimacy? I know I have had to be more creative in that department. Also he doesn’t have as much energy.

  • Men definitely gain weight mostly in their bellies (as opposed to women, we get it all over). I’m still attracted to him and his belly is not a problem for me from a physical attraction perspective, but it does change his personality a little. He’s more self-conscious, just in general. With intimacy, it’s just been different. I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s better or worse, just different. His belly is definitely more prominent in our intimate interactions, but we find ways. How has it been for you adjusting to it? How much weight has yours gained?

  • My husband is now 350lbs a gain of over 200lbs since we met 12 years ago. With regards to intimacy I am now taking the lead due to his lack of stamina and his belly size

  • My boyfriend is getting a little chubby on me, so I can relate to your post above. I didn’t think I ever wanted to be with a fat guy, but I’m finding myself more attracted to him at his heavier weight. Now, I don’t mind if he gets bigger. But you said he struggles to do some things now. Like, what sort of things? Thanks!!

  • See my reply above. I also still find my husband attractive, but I miss doing some of the things we did when he was slimmer, like playing at the park or going on walks.

  • Going from a size 32 pants to a size 40 pants is a fairly significant weight gain. How big could you possibly want a husband?

  • It depends on your preference. I have always liked larger men. My husband is currently bursting out of his size 60 elasticated waist pants. It’s funny watching him trying to struggle into them with his two big spare tyres in the way.

  • Agreed. Too fat. Need to slim him down.

  • Yes, I agree as his frustrated wife he is far too fat. He is 400lbs now and I have tried every diet and encouragement, but he is a stubborn man.

  • Ultimately, the motivation has to come from him. Sometimes a checkup and associated blood test can help. Doctors always tell 400 pound patient's to lose weight, but a concrete diagnosis like Diabetes is harder to deny.

  • Size 60 is waaaaayyy too fat.

  • I have just ordered size 62 for him. Size 60 are too tight for him now.

  • My ex-boyfriend grew out of size 60 pants at around 370 pounds. So I'd consider moving up to size 64 or even 66 for your 400 pound husband.

  • Squishy is my new nickname my girlfriend has given me. We started dating because we met each other at a gym and we are really into physical fitness. I’m injured and haven’t been able to workout and she’s (I think) purposefully made foods high in fat and calories since my injury. I’ve gained 12 pounds and lost definition on my abs. She now pats my still lean stomach and says she likes me squishy.

  • No one cares about you gaining 12 pounds, fatty! Go sulk in your gym. I hope she makes you actually FAT!!

  • Yep, exactly. Get over yourself!

  • My toy boy husband’s love of beer and my rich home cooking has caught up with him. We have been married for four years and he has piled the weight on due to my love of over feeding him.He now has acquired a massive pot belly and large love handles that encircle his waist. His pot belly moves in all directions when he walks, it must be uncomfortable for him. But I am enjoying his big gain especially playing with his big pot and grabbing his love handles. We were out recently and bumped into his ex who looked at him astonished and asked him when was he due lol.

  • Was your plan from the beginning to make him fat?

  • Yes. Once we were married I started to cook him big meals everyday and serve him bigger portions he was used to. He struggled at first to finish the big portions but in 12 months he has grown a nice belly

  • How big do you want his belly?

  • As big as his frame and back can carry

  • My advice is to get him no bigger than 250 pounds. At that weight he'll have a nice big belly and will be off the market, but won't be so big that you'll have to curtail activities you enjoy. After about 250 pounds, the decline in activity and increased appetite tends to keep them gaining weight. Once they hit 300, the gains tend to accelerate since the belly is so big that they become sedentary. So unless you want your hubby HUGE, try to keep him under 250.

  • How quickly has he gained the weight?

  • Since our marriage, just under 5 years.

  • How does the hubby feel about his rapidly expanding waistline? Embarrassed? Content? Resigned?

  • Well he has certainly enjoyed getting fat with the amount of food and drink he has been consuming lol. I don’t think he expected to gain 145lbs around his middle and he is surprised at the size of his belly which has started to give him back ache. But he is content and resigned to putting on more weight due to his love rich food and beer.

  • I'd also be fat and happy if I was constantly pampered with rich food!

    Since the hubby has a massive belly and love handles, he must be sporting some big moobs and a sizable double chin too.

  • He has a nice set of moobs that rest on his big belly and a nice fat face lol

  • Love some moobs! As long as they are smaller than my b****!! 😂

  • You are purposely making him fat? Was his Ex happy that he’s fat?

  • I did initially as I prefer larger men lol. His ex had a look of astonishment and satisfaction when she saw the weight he has put on around his middle. She viewed me as the older woman who has put a big belly on her ex hubby lol

  • Were you honest and up front with him that you planned on making him fat?

  • Not initially. But once he was over 200lbs and was sporting a round belly we has a discussion when I asked him if with my help he would grow fat for me. He agreed cause he was enjoying all the extra food and pampering.

  • How did you bring that up to him?

  • I raised it after a huge meal when I thought his belly was about to pop. He was so agreeable!

  • I’m sure that was a shock to see her ex man all fattened up!!

  • You could see by her face she was shocked how fat her ex had gotten. Couldn’t stop starring at his big belly hanging below his polo shirt hence the “when are you due” remark. She had the skinny version of him and I have the skinny to fat version lol.

  • What did he do when he saw her again? Try to hide his fattened tummy?

  • He passed himself politely. Believe me there was no way he could hide his big pot belly. His polo shirt could barely contain it with the overhang.

  • I saw an Ex at a party one time about two years after I dumped her. She had probably gained 30-40 pounds since I last saw her. To be honest, once I saw a fat version of her, I wanted to get back together with her but she was in a relationship with the guy she attended the party with. It was like fat Khama.

  • LOL, fat Khama. Seeing her fat made you want her again or something?!

  • Yes, it did. I mean I saw her and all those old memories and good times flooded back into my brain, but then I was attracted to her at a heavier weight, too. She was always so slim when we dated, and then when I saw her again she was probably 20-25 pounds overweight. But she carried the extra weight well and she was sexy. Her face was a little chubbier (well, all her body was a little chubbier), but she still looked curvy and beautiful. Now that I’m writing this I’m wondering why I was an idiot and broke up with her in the first place...

  • Feel for you man. Sometimes we have to live with our mistakes.

  • Sorry, dude. I’ve been there, too. Hard to take when you see your Ex happy and sexy without you.

  • Lol. I don’t think my husband will be attracting any of his exes again with the weight he has piled on. He removed his shirt at the beach the other week and the stares he got because of his big pot belly. People were looking at me out of pity because they remembered how slim he used to be lol.

  • Ha ha ha! Beached whale!!!

  • How much does he weigh now? Are you planning on overfeeding him more?

  • He weighs 315lbs now, a gain of 140lbs after nearly 5 years! I don’t need to overfeed him now as his belly has stretched meaning his appetite is now huge. But I still enjoy over stuffing him at the weekends lol

  • Don’t fatten him too much! He’s already getting too fat!!

  • Sounds like he’s self-fattening now and is headed for 350+. Do you like ‘em that big?

  • I started him on his way but he is self-fattening now with a little encouragement. I like big men and he will certainly surpass 350, maybe 400lbs the way he is eating. I’ve never been with someone who is 350lbs plus, can you or anyone tell me what to expect?

  • A fat, lethargic, sweaty man who struggles to move and take care of himself.

  • That sounds like something to look forward to in the near distant future. I caused it so I will have to embrace it. Is your partner fat?

  • No, and he never will be! I don’t want a blob!

  • Has anyone here put a big belly on their partner and they resent it? My husband has gained over 100lbs in 2 years and he blames me, his wife, for gaining his big belly.

  • You resent putting the belly on him or your partner resents that you put the belly on him?

  • My partner resents me for his weight gain. Yes I am a great cook and I like to pile his plate high and keep him well fed. But I don’t make him overeat! He’s now sitting at 28 years old, 285 lbs with a big belly hang looking at it as if it appeared by magic lol.

  • When did he realize you were making him fat?

  • The penny dropped when after a year’s marriage he was carrying an extra 60lbs around his midsection lol which restricted his mobility and slowed him down. Also he began to notice that I refilled his plate automatically and served desert after most meals.

  • But he didn’t do anything about it? He just kept eating and getting even fatter? 60 lbs. is a lot of weight that fast!!

  • Yes it’s a big gain. He came home from honeymoon with a sizeable belly and put on another 30lbs during the year.

  • I would resent you, too, for giving me a premature death sentence.

  • He tells me he could lose the weight if he wanted too, but I’m not so sure. That belly of his would take some shifting!

  • How big do you want him?

  • How big would you suggest?

  • Anything over 300 lbs. looks just fat on an average man.

  • Try for 350+ pounds

  • 350 is just straight up FAT.

  • I would have to draw the line at 350! His belly would be too big past that point.

  • The problem is that now that he's gotten so big his appetite has grown and has activity has declined. So even maintaining is difficult, and once he gets to 350 even walking will be difficult. So if you're looking to slow down his gains and get him to a stable weight, getting him into some kind of exercise is important. This won't be easy with the pandemic and the gyms and swimming pools being shut down. But anything that can keep him moving would help. With the pandemic there are a lot of "tubby hubbys" around who are gaining 25, 40, 50 pounds or even more.

  • Due to this pandemic I have acquired a “tubby hubby”. He has gained 40lbs! mainly on his tummy due to sitting around, overeating and inactivity. He looks funny as he is thin everywhere else except for 40lbs of solid tummy, he has started to waddle lol.

  • How do you feel about his waddle?

  • His waddle is funny cause he’s so skinny elsewhere and he has this 40lbs of tummy sticking out. He’s not used to it and it’s awkward looking.

  • Yes, I love his new big tummy. Totally unexpected due to the pandemic. If this continues he will get bigger and there will be no complaints from me.

  • Have you also put on weight?

  • I’ve put on about 15lbs mainly on my tummy. So we are both sporting new tummy’s lol

  • But how big will be too big for you? Are you going to “encourage” him to keep gaining, either subtly or not subtly?

  • It would be nice if he gained another 20lbs, then he would be 200lbs with hopefully an even bigger tummy to play with lol. I don’t need to encourage him at the moment as he is overeating himself.

  • How do you like it?

  • That’s. A. Lot. Of. Fat. Weight. Gained.

  • Are you like a really good cook or something?

  • When my hubby blames me for his huge belly, I try to be supportive, asking if he wants to work out with me, play tennis, etc. He usually says no. When I serve him lean protein and salad he pouts. Ultimately, he's responsible for managing his weight, so I'm not going to nag him, just love him and show that I find him attractive by cuddling his big belly.

  • He sounds like you are supportive and he will continue to be massive for some time.

  • With the pandemic, all the gyms and swimming pools are closed. The golf courses are open now, so we did play a round of golf last week. He insisted on using the golf cart but it still was more exercise than he's gotten since the pandemic started. He seemed to enjoy getting out. For dinner I made him chicken with vegetables. So I haven't given up hope of keeping him under 350 pounds.

  • That’s very sweet of you!! 🥰
    But do you like cuddling on his big belly?

  • We've been married 20 years, and in that time he's gained 160 pounds (from 170 to 330). He's the love of my life and I enjoy his company. His big belly reminds me of all the good times we have had and how well I've taken care of him.

  • Would you rather him be 170 or 330?

  • Sounds like a big weight gain there?

  • Sounds like you’re being as helpful as you can be. How do you feel about his big belly? Like it or don’t like it?

  • My husband seems more manly now that he's doubled his weight. He's gotten so rotund that I can't put my arms completely around him and feeling so small compared to him is nice. It also means that I have to do most of the work in the bedroom but I've kept myself very fit and I enjoy dominating him that way. Overall, I enjoy having a fat husband quite a bit. I'm proud of being his wife and I never put him down for gaining so much weight or nag him about food. But if he wanted to lose weight I would support him.

  • So you have stayed fit while he has become massive?

  • But you would rather him be fat?

  • If it were up to me, I’d have him lose 70-80 pounds. He’d still be nice and chubby but he’d be more mobile and would probably be less lethargic.

  • That sounds like a good compromise. Have you also gained weight or just him?

  • How did he gain that much that quickly?! I’ve put on about 50 lbs. over 10 years. My wife’s cooking has something to do with it, but that’s not everything.

  • Simple! He let himself go since the marriage. He gained 30lbs on our 3 week honeymoon and by the time of our 1 year anniversary he had gained another 30 lbs! I am a great cook and he enjoys his food, but takes his frustration of his weight gain on me.

  • Do you like the size of his belly now?

  • I love his big belly and how it sticks out from the rest of his body! He complains about it but can’t resist my cooking lol

  • How fat do you want him?

  • 30 pounds on a three-week honeymoon! Did his clothes still fit him walking off the boat?!

  • He was wearing sweat pants as he was bursting out of his pants lol

  • Have you gained weight, too, or is it only him? How do you feel about his weight gain?

  • I have not gained any weight. I am 130lbs

  • Good for you! Stay healthy!!

  • How do you like how he looks now?

  • I love his big gain, surprised how quickly and how much I’ve fattened him up. When I look at his large hanging belly I take it as a complement to my cooking skills.

  • Are you embarrassed at all?

  • Why would I be embarrassed. Like a lot of women I have a husband who has developed a weight problem and a big belly to show for it!

  • Embarrassed because he put on 100 lbs. in a short matter of time and you are still skinny. Are you embarrassed with how different you look from each other?

  • Satisfied rather than embarrassed. I like to see him fat and happy with a full belly. It would be worse if we were both fat. Skinny and fat go well together.

  • I have also stayed slim while my husband gained over 140 pounds in 5 years. He now is 3 times my weight. I agree that a skinny wife and fat husband go well together. He is too fat to stray and he seems so happy after a big meal and a belly rub!

  • A lot of comments about fat people. It’s gross. Fat isn’t good. Get over yourselves and jump on a treadmill.

  • Being fat is not fun or glamorous. I was heavy my whole life until a few years ago when I lost 40 lbs. with diet and exercise. I’ve never felt better physically or emotionally.

  • A treadmill would kill my fat hubby! His belly is so big he can’t touch his toes, put his socks on or do a single sit up lol

  • Then it’s the exact time to get him on a treadmill before he actually dies from his fatness.

  • My hubby will be getting on no treadmill. Too much time, effort and money has gone into fattening him up. I love all 450lbs of him. His overall health is good, he has just got some mobility issues that I mentioned previously. Anyway I have my reasons for keeping him this way.

  • What are your reasons?

  • He was unfaithful and kept flirting with the ladies, so to punish him I adjusted his diet and fed him up to 450lbs. He consented to this and with the size of the tummy he has on him now his flirting days are over. He has less mobility than his mother, but I still love him.

  • How does he feel about being 450lbs? Has he resigned himself to being so big, or has he come to enjoy it?

  • He has resigned himself to being fat with me. Enjoy? He’s so fat he can barely walk or take a bath. But he enjoys his food and belly rubs only from me now, too fat for other ladies now. Do you think I did the right thing?

  • What was his beginning weight? How long did it taker you to feed him up to 450lbs?

  • If he had alot of trouble staying faithful to you, then I personally do think that you did the right thing. At least now he is too fat to stray, and you still love him

  • Thanks. Do you think there will be a lot of young women interested in a 450lbs man with a Huge tummy?

  • Do you have any tips for the actual fattening process? I'd like to put a big fat belly on my boyfriend, since he's been getting alot of outside attention and looks, even when I'm with him...

  • I also meant to ask what age, weight and frame is he now to help answer you?

  • He's 24 years old, 5 foot 8, and about 190lbs with some muscle, but not bulky. Yes, I plan to marry and live with him full time soon. As for his belly, I want quite a big one on him. Preferably a soft hanging one. I was thinking of bringing him up to around 350lbs

  • Wow, you know what you want lol. I would give him an appetite stimulant, that’s what brought my hubby up to 450lbs. Your boyfriend would soon be eating like a horse and will have a belly in no time. You are looking at a weight gain of 70lbs a year, so in 2 years your boyfriend will be sitting at 350lbs and off the market. Once his belly has distended and is used to the huge portions he will be eating take him off the appetite stimulant. The problem you will have is preventing him gaining even more weight. That is a big weight for a young man at 5 foot 8 to carry around and his belly will certainly be hanging which poses its own problems during intimacy. Are you sure about this? How will he feel? He won’t know what’s**** him.

  • At what weight did you take your husband off the appetite stimulants? How much did he gain after that? A wife in our neighborhood who wanted a chubby "house hubby" ended up with a 430 pounder with a massive belly. He is so fat now he has difficulty pushing a baby stroller around the neighborhood. Once she got him over 250 (he is only 5' 7") self-fattening took over and he blew up. He is almost as big around as he is tall now.

  • Yes, I'm sure about this. As I said He keeps getting looks and attention from other women, but he never really does anything about it; he's too nice to say anything. He probably won't know what hit him but I think he won't mind; his whole family is either chubby or very fat, except him lol. Thank you for the advice! Yes, I'm sure about this. As I said He keeps getting looks and attention from other women, but he never really does anything about it; he's too nice to say anything. He probably won't know what hit him but I think he won't mind; his whole family is either chubby or very fat, except him lol. Thank you for the advice!

  • No problem. You are going to enjoy making him very fat. When are you starting this? Does he know your target weight? Are you a plus size woman?

  • I will start asap, probably in the next few weeks. My boyfriend will know the goal weight I have in mind for him soon after he starts gaining. Yes, I am a plus sized woman.

  • How much do you weigh? If you don’t mind me asking.

  • About 237lbs last I checked a few weeks ago.

    Oh, I forgot to ask you in my last post: How long did it take for you to fatten up your hubby to 450lbs using the appetite stimulants?

  • You are looking at roughly a 70lbs gain a year on the appetite stimulants. My hubby went up from 170lbs to 450lbs in just over 4 years. Don’t tell me you’re thinking of the bigger weight lol? Are you going to use the appetite stimulants?

  • Oh, that is a quite large, fast gain! Lol no, I was just curious! I will use the appetite stimulants, but gradually. Thanks again!

  • Do you plan to marry him or live with him? How fat a belly do you want on him?

  • How fat are you gonna make him?

  • No, I don't think so, you should be fine :)

  • I don't think so, you'll be fine :)

  • My husband was criticised for marrying a woman at nearly 400lbs. We have now been happily married for over 5 years and his weight has more than doubled in that time from 140 to just under 300lbs. I did not fatten him intentionally, I just started to cook for him what I liked to eat and the same portion sizes. He started to gain weight very quickly. I love his new size as he now has a huge solid tummy to carry around and a large double chin.

  • This is exactly why I plan to marry a fat woman. It's getting too hard to stay thin as I get older. Why not enjoy meals and become fat and happy together rather than be stuck with some skinny B nagging me about my expanding waistline.

    Besides, it would be nicer to put an end to this struggle with rich home cooked meals rather than sneaking out for fast food cause I'm still hungry with someone who makes only salads.

  • He finds the extra weight has slowed him down, and he finds his big tummy restricts his movement. But his big tummy is a result of him becoming greedy and his eyes are now bigger than his belly when it comes to food. He has become lazy and resigned to being very overweight like me.

  • How do you feel about him gaining weight?

  • I love it lol. He was skinny when we married but within a few months he had a cute little pot belly. Now his tummy is huge! It now sits on his lap and I love to tease him and play with it. It’s bigger than mine and I weigh 450lbs now. Also I enjoy the reaction of his family as they stare in wonder at their once sporty son who is now obese like his wife they once criticised.

  • A 450 pound wife is a good companion for a hubby who loves to eat. It's nice to have a fellow foodie and he can enjoy his food and know you really mean it when you say big is beautiful.

  • Do you plan on fattening him up even more?

  • That’s put it this way I won’t be encouraging him to lose weight but let nature take its course. It would be interesting to see him at 350lbs which would be over 200lbs on his frame since marriage lol. He would really struggle then, but it is a reality.

  • How does he feel about it?

  • Just saw this post and read some of the comments. Count me in as a belly fan! I’ve dated a few boys with some extra belly and I loved it. I haven’t found the one to settle down with yet, but when I do, the plan will be to fatten that man up quickly!

  • You wouldn't have to fatten me up, I'm already there. Are you a thick girl or a thin one? I too, love a woman with plenty of jiggle in her wiggle. So soft and sexy!! Lets make one another happy and loved. Good luck in your search. So want to love a belly fan. Take care.

  • Would you prefer to meet a man who is already fat and make him bigger or meet a skinny guy and put a belly on him?

  • Not sure. I’ve never dated a man who was skinny and then gained weight. Just men who were already bigger.

  • I’m not fat fat, but I’m definitely bigger than I’ve ever been and have a bit of a tummy starting. I’m embarrassed about it a little, but I’ve noticed my wife is more affectionate and touchy than before. Like, when she kisses me before I leave to go somewhere, one hand is on my arm or shoulder and the other hand always finds my new tummy. She never did that before.

  • I’m a girlfriend with a rapidly expanding boyfriend. He is normally a gym rat and eats like crazy but works it off. Working it off hasn’t happened as much with his gym closed and he hasn’t changed his eating habits. He’s starting to grow a little belly and it is so SEXY to me!!! I love it!!

  • Hmm, I wonder if some of these women have a slightly dominant streak. You can pretend with ropes or make believe with handcuffs. A player can pinky promise loyalty or obedience until he's blue in the face. But fat doesn't pretend. Stretchmarks don't change their mind and weight gain transforms a physique and even a personality like nothing else. If a guy lets you ruin his hard fought abs with a stretchmarked spare tire, or even if he just doesn't notice his chiseled jaw becoming history, it's because he's really fallen for you.

    For a while he can ignore it, but if his wife/gf is actively overfeeding, soon enough the gut will get heavy enough to force a decision. And you can trust that the butterball will mean what he says, because at a certain point, he'll know there's no going back with you.

  • Very true! Belly won’t lie, my friend.

  • It was incredible to fatten my husband "beyond the point of no return", which was roughly 250 pounds. It took me two years to put the first 80 pounds on him to get him there, but at that point, self-fattening took over In the five years since then he has put on another 185 pounds, to reach 435. He is so wonderfully fat now and we both know he is only going to get fatter. Even though we have had two children, I have kept my own weight under control and am now 45 pounds slimmer than our wedding day (I am now 135, 300 pounds lighter than him). Our relationship is great because now that he is so big and fat, I totally dominate him and he does as he is told. Don't believe what is said here about a big belly getting in the way. His belly hits my lady parts just right and our s e x life is great. My slimming down and getting fit helped a lot, since I have to do much of the work, but it is so worth it.

  • I don't know if this is real either, but I do know there are definitely dominant women out there. Contrary to media depictions, dominance is not a male-only trait. Nothing makes a man literally as soft and compliant and takes the edge off his ego like massive weight gain. You can pretend with ropes or cuffs, but fat will do it for real.

  • I’m pretty sure this is just made up and not true. 👎🏻

  • This doesn’t even sound real. 🧐

  • This is my hubby soon after we were married 7 years ago, and now. Which do you think looks the best? Thank you.

    https://i.imgur.com/NDpUhvc.jpg

  • Is that even real? His arms still look strong and skinny in the last pic...

  • First picture, meh.
    Second picture, that’s a nice belly!
    Third picture, is there a man attached to that belly somewhere?!

  • Wow, that is some weight gain! What a belly lol. He won’t be losing that in a hurry. What are you feeding him?

  • That looks like a 100 pound gain. He’s a total butterball now. If it were my hubby I would put him on a diet and tease him mercilessly about it! Did you also gain?

  • I didn’t see anything.

  • This post, and most of the responding threads, were written by a guy who is gratifying himself at the answers, and responding himself. You've been trolled...it's pretty obvious it's a man who is into fat and writes "My hubby is getting fat and I love it!" Dont be punk'd.

  • You really think one person left 1700+ comments on a thread? That's a lot of effort for a w***. Might be *you* who has the over-active imagination.

  • Maybe some similarities in some of the comments, but you can definitely tell at least some of the comments expressed here come from different people based on different words, phrases, etc. It’s definitely NOT just one person, like you are saying it is.

  • Interesting points by all, and I don’t disagree with you, but let me add:
    - this website in and of itself is high likely not 100% the truth. So if you are looking for people always telling the actual truth, I believe you are looking in the wrong place. Also, if this site is 100% true, there are a lot of messed up people in this world.
    - secondly, maybe he (or she), although I assume it’s a male, actually is celebrating bigness and overweight people with the comments. I know it provided me some different ideas (although, I will admit that I haven’t read them all), and some of it has been a delightful read - entertaining and interesting. A very escapist read for me. And I don’t think this person wrote all the comments here. No one has that kind of time.
    - and lastly, it’s up to this individual if he wants to criticize these things or celebrate them, and most of the comments here are very positive. So if you are bigger or want to get bigger, that’s fine. It seems to be his fetish. And that’s fine. But we don’t need to be upset with him over it.

    Those are my thoughts on the situation here.

  • The reason to get "upset," which is a rather strong word in this case, is because these lonely men then come to all the sites where fat people gather to get together, and they pretend to be someone they're not, and waste everyone's time. Then they get called out and banned, and they reappear. And they also use others' photos, I can't tell you how many times a DB will pretend to be female with photos entirely copped from someone else's profile. They are pathetic and destructive and they need to look at their own loneliness, desperation and lack of relating skills, which is why others stay away from them and they have mostly one-handed s** their whole lives and they have to come here and say "My husband is getting fat and I love it!" and troll everyone.

  • This guy might be onto something. The amount of comments have definitely slowed down since he made his troll accusations. But, it does look like it’s also different people commenting on the thread. It’s obviously not the same dude every time.

  • Well, I see your points.
    But, you have to remember, this is not necessarily a site where people are coming together who want to get bigger (or date people who are big or whatever). It’s just a site where people confess things.
    Like I said earlier, it seems to be his fetish (and maybe your fetish), so maybe you two have a lot in common and both just like reading and talking about it, which is cool. I liked reading it. No one is judging us for that. This is obviously a pretty open forum for that kind of stuff.
    And the OP is not using photos or exchanging emails or asking to meet up or anything (from what I read), so it all seems pretty harmless to me (in this forum). But I didn’t mean to make you mad with my opinions. Just offering another perspective. Have a great day!

  • What the original poster is suffering from is his own morbid desire to become obese, but he cannot find a woman to satisfy this need. So he goes on Fantasy Feeder and Feabie and such and pretends to be female saying "My hubby has gained 50 pounds!" and then writes dozens of replies. "Mine, too!" "How fat do you want him to be?" "At least 300 pounds!" "Yes, my hubby is obese, too, and I love it!" "I love his moobs!" In reality, even obese women do not want obese men, and that sucks for guys into their own weight gain, they lead very lonely lives, mostly on line. I've seen it sooooo many times. I am a man who loves fat women but I am lucky that for the most part they like me back because I am kind, considerae, employed, a lot of fun, take care of them and adore them.

  • I was wondering if people really felt that way based on some of the responses. There is a thing called feederism, though.

  • Yes, and I am a hardcore fat lover and lover of growing women. That's why I can spot a fake, like the OP, who is masturbating at the replies, and replying to his own thread.

  • That’s cool. Are you into feederism or are you just a fat admirer?

  • Both...just pretty much obsessed with fat women and making them fat in the context of either marriage or an LTR. My ultimate fantasy would be to meet and marry a chubby woman who, after marriage, just lets herself go and gets very very fat, and I adore her and spoil her.

  • Have you fattened up a woman yet? Or do you want a woman to fatten you up?

  • That doesn’t sound too bad. Have you already done that to a woman before? Or it’s just something you want to do?

  • Don’t feel guilty about it. You are taking care of him and he’s putting on weight. As long as you are still attracted to him (and it sounds like you are into his growing belly), then I don’t see anything wrong with it.

  • Does anyone have a hubby who is as wide around his middle as he is tall? If so what do you think about it?

  • I’m not sure that is possible. He would be a circle at that point.

  • I’m not a chubby hubby, but I am a wobbly wife. I’ve put on more than three stone since we married. My husband says he still fancies me and doesn’t mind the extra chubbiness, but I’m quite a bit bigger now all around, but especially my bum. It’s harder to lose weight than it looks...

  • It’s not too bad a gain, how much do you weigh now? and hubby has said to you he still fancies you which is the main thing.

  • I was 10 stone. Now I’m 13 stone with an even gain around my body. Although it seems he’s noticed the bum more than anything.

  • My wife has an 70 inch bum hence 4 babies in 6 years lol

  • I feel terrible for saying this, but if you showed a 2020 pic of the man I married in 2006, I would not have gone through with it. I married a lean, beautiful man and I now I live with a bloated, unattractive couch potato who hasn't even so much as taken a walk in the last three years. And it's getting more difficult - I am noticing young men at coffee shops and elsewhere, and am dreaming about a muscled man on top of me, a strong man. I have kept myself in shape and actually weigh 7 pounds less than when we married. I just can't get into his fat...it grosses me out.

  • It must be so frustrating for you, he needs to get moving or he will just get fatter and fatter. My hubby has put so much weight on his tummy he can place his huge plate of food between the top of his tummy and his moobs. He needs to get active too, as it’s concerning me that it takes him 2 or 3 goes to get up from the sofa!

  • I get you and how you are feeling. We women sometimes let our minds wander and think about things that maybe would be best if we didn’t. Sounds like you need to chat with him (and maybe put him on a treadmill 🏃🏽).

  • I understand where you are coming from. I’m not waddling around with 50+ pounds of post-pregnancy weight, so why does my husband get to lug around a 50+ pound beer belly?

  • Unfortunately, I have been waddling around for two years with an extra 50 lbs. My husband says he doesn’t mind, but I don’t believe him.

  • How much are you weighing now love?

  • A little over 200 lbs. I was about 135-140 lbs. on our wedding day.

  • 200 pounds is not that bad. I’m sure you look great! Men are pretty simple creatures. I’m sure he would tell you if it really bothered him.

  • That’s a nice cuddly weight

  • Thank you! He sure thinks so!! ❤️

  • 50lbs, you’re lucky, more like 80lbs for my husband and his big beer belly. Most men think getting fat after marriage is a given. Mine comes home every Friday night, belly full of beer and makes love to me. Not pretty with his big belly on top of me, bed springs protesting, 4 or 5 minutes of out of breath panting, then snoring. And they have the cheek to criticise any pregnancy weight gain!

  • “Bed springs protesting...” 😂

  • I literally laughed out loud when I read that. This lady is funny. I also liked the part about being out of breath for 4-5 minutes and then snoring. It’s a little too true! 😳

  • Let’s get real ladies - no one wants to be bouncing up and down on a pot belly and some moobs! You don’t have to apologize for that!!

  • It’s called marriage and with it usually comes weight gain and usually for a hubby it’s a bigger belly. I love making out with my hubby knowing that his big fat tummy is a result of my home cooking and baking.

  • So he’s gained weight since being with you?

  • Yes, as soon as we were married he started to eat and has got very fat.

  • How much has he put on? Are you still attracted to him?

  • Hey! Speak for yourself! I don’t mind some
    belly and moobs (as long as they aren’t bigger than my b****)!

  • You mean you don’t just grab and squeeze his moobs when he’s resting that big belly on top of you?! Ha ha!

  • Funny enough he hates me squeezing his moobs but doesn’t mind crushing me with his big belly.

  • I say you squeeze those moobs until he stops squeezing you with that belly! 🤣

  • That sounds like every girl’s dream! How romantic!

  • Lol. It used to be romantic when he was skinny. Now it’s duty lol

  • Sometimes it is duty. Do you still enjoy it, though?

  • I have to try as we are trying for baby 3. It’s taking longer this time though.

  • LOL! That doesn’t sound like the most exciting sexual experience ever!

  • No Lol. He still thinks he’s 20! that was five years and 80lbs ago. I just close my eyes and imagine five years ago lol

  • LOL! So definitely not into his belly now, huh?

  • It’s just the slapping noice as it hits my tummy lol

  • Ha ha! Just grab that belly with both hands and stop that tubby tummy from slapping up against you! Ha ha!

  • That’s a good idea lol

  • Lol. It’s just the slapping noise it makes as it hits my tummy!

  • Yea, I could see how that could kill the mood.

  • I don’t think you have to feel bad about not appreciating his weight gain. You don’t have to be happy about that. But when you married him, you likely promised that in good times and bad times and in sickness and in health that you would work together as partners.
    From your perspective, you’ve kept up your end of the bargain but he has not (based on just physical health). I think reasonable people would agree.
    But you both will get older, will eventually lose some youth and beauty and might struggle with health. Most couples do.
    So the key is probably to curb that as much as possible. But from your comments, it sounds like you are more uninterested in him sexually because he’s gained weight (and that’s your preference), but if everything else has stayed the same (attentive, good partner, works hard at his employment, etc.), then maybe you just need to have an honest conversation with him (not too honest) and ask how you can help him regain some of his youth and strength by slimming down.
    I think you also need to explore why he has gained the weight, like no time for himself, too tired, stressed out at work, doesn’t exercise at all, doesn’t eat well enough, etc., and figure out how you can help him.
    My husband became quite big and it became difficult to be intimate because of his tummy. So I told him how I felt and better s** + his health was enough to motivate him to make some changes. He is still working on it, but his mindset is different.
    I also think some women in the comments below have gotten past the extra weight and see it as endearing. Maybe review what they said and see if there is anything that you resonate with. I know reading some other experiences have made me more accepting of my current situation.
    Not trying to preach to you! Just trying to help as someone who is also going through a similar experience!

  • That’s good, solid advice! Thanks for sharing.

  • How much has he gained and why?
    What are his obstacles to losing the extra weight?
    What would ultimately make you happiest and what would ultimately be an OK compromise for you?

  • I love a fat boy! They are the best! 💗

  • At 36 I’m 10 years older than my hubby and I am his feeder. Just before we got married 3 years ago and set up home I explained to him what my feeder fetish was. I told him that once we were married I expected him to gain a considerable amount of weight to please me. He just nodded and I don’t think he took me seriously. 3 years and over 100lbs later I think he is beginning to take me seriously. The best part for me is his new moobs and big pot belly are in a race to see which sticks out more lol.

  • What's his current weight at?

    Do you have a goal weight in mind for him?

    How does he feel about being your tubby hubby?

  • He is 270 lbs from being 150 lbs. we are looking at a goal of 420lbs. I have increased his calorie intake of late with bedtime milkshake stuffings. 2000 calorie 2 litre whole fat milk, peanut butter, whole cream and ice cream. He loves it, make love, he lasts 3 minutes if I’m lucky then it’s lights out for hubby.

  • Don’t overfeed that fat boy!

  • Lol. Aiming now for a 14lbs gain per month. Only concern is gravity is affecting his pot belly in that it’s starting to hang. If he only gains weight on his belly and moobs he will have an apron belly hanging down to his knees lol

  • Sounds like you have made up your mind to overfeed that fat boy anyway. Who am I to stop you? Just be careful before you kill him.

  • I know what you mean, but it is a joint decision. He is the one crying to have his belly stuffed with food!

  • Maybe give his moobs and belly a break.

  • What’s the best thing about a fat husband with a big tummy?

  • I like to snuggle on my fat teddy bear. It’s so much better now that he’s bigger, softer and has more squish to him. 💕 🧸

  • Rubbing his belly. Cuddling on his belly and chest. Pinching his fat. It’s all very comforting to be with a big man. It’s not bad at all.

  • I think fatter men are just inherently nicer because they have more empathy because of their sizes. That makes them nicer, sweeter guys (who usually have a sweet tooth).

  • I’ve dated a ton of gym rats and jocks with great and strong bodies that were lean. I thought that’s what I liked, until I met my now husband, who was chubby and so sweet. In comparison, the guys I dated before were jerks. My tubby hubby is so much sweeter, caring and thoughtful of me and my needs. So I think his extra belly has made him a much better catch than other men, and so I changed and now see his body time as attractive.

  • I’m just attracted to a fat belly. Not really sure why, but I just am. Not too fat, but modestly fat with a nice belly bulge that’s soft and cute and squishy. Once you get to 300 lbs., that’s too big for me.

  • A big tummy means security and happiness for me. Some women view it as letting himself go or getting lazy on the relationship. I view it as he is happy in his relationship with me and isn’t looking to leave. Based on that perspective, I’ve become attracted to his larger size rather than resentful. When I see his tummy it reminds me of us and his commitment to us, and that makes me very happy, and very excited for him in a romantic sense.

  • I like to snuggle up to him while we are going to sleep or waking up and just run my hand and arm up and down and around his big tummy. He was so skinny when we got married. Now, I can barely get my hands all the way around him for a hug. I just love caressing and stroking his belly, and he loves the belly rubs, too.

  • He must be a big boy! what caused his big weight gain?

  • My loving and cooking! He’s probably gained 50-60 lbs. since we’ve been together. I didn’t think I would like a fat husband, but now that I have one I would not want it any other way.

  • I honestly like the way it looks, especially with the shirt off. I always had crushes on fat boys in grammar school, they just seemed smarter and more sensitive. I love when my man turns to the side when he's in the bedroom at the closet and OMG what a big tummy full of jelly! Or when he sits on the bed to take his shoes off and you can see the rolls. I LOVE the feeling of being crushed (not TOO hard!) when he's on top of me and I feel his fat covering me and he WANTS me, that really makes me happy, being wanted by my chubby honey. (Hope this isn't TMI!)

  • I love s** with my fat husband, whether I’m on top or he is on top. I either get to play with his chubby belly or be smothered with his chubby belly, and I love both!

  • I would say that becoming overweight usually takes the edge off of someone, like diminishes their ego. So they end up treating people nicer than maybe a less attractive version of themselves would. In marriage, the fatter a man gets, the nicer he seems to become.

  • Yea! This is my favourite time of the year. Shirt off time, gives me a chance to assess the damage I’ve done to hubby’s waistline over the winter months. He was out mowing the lawn yesterday shirt off showing off his huge paunch I’ve put on him.

  • You may have something there...I was out at the store and saw a handsome man, his wife and their two children. The man's stomach was ENORMOUS, like he was about to POP, while his wife was slim as can be. They looked so happy. I just hope it doesn't impact his health, I mean his stomach was out to HERE.

  • You will probably find that his skinny wife has made it her mission in life to ensure her husband’s stomach is full of food at all times!

  • Coming up behind him as he's standing at the kitchen sink and wrapping your arms around his big belly, and squeezing his love handles! I think it's adorable. And even more adorable when he just lets you do it and isn't self-conscious.

  • Security. Most fat boys aren’t dogs trying to find their next bone.

  • You know he's not going to run away! Also, it's nice to snuggle up to. And, it's true, other women find him less attractive than when he was fit and lean and hot.

  • I’m not a wife with a husband getting fat, but I am a pregnant lady getting fat (and my husband is dealing with it). I’ve gained 57 pounds in 6.5 months. I’m just always hungry and too tired to exercise! 😢

  • Don’t worry about all the haters. Be big and pregnant and fabulous. It’s really the only time where you can just relax. You have your whole life to be skinny and in shape. Enjoy your pregnancy!

  • Don’t worry love. There are some nice tent style dresses you can wear to keep hubby interested lol

  • That’s not very nice. I’m not a blimp. I’m just a little bigger (and I’m pregnant)!

  • Bye bye 130lbs😀

  • I can lose all the weight if I want. It’s just hard right now.

  • I was a similar age and weight when I had my first, gaining over 80lbs. I never recovered from that weight gain. 5 years later I’ve just had my third and I’m hitting the scales at 350lbs. Husband adores every pound of me, so relax, eat up and enjoy your fat journey!

  • I’m not sure I want to be that big.

  • That’s not all baby weight, baby. You’re gonna be real fat once that baby comes out. 👶🏻

  • Haha yup! I was going to say! This is a fat mom in progress. :) Hey, the more the merrier.

  • Lol! Come join us!

  • Fat moms are still hot moms. 💋

  • I’m OK with my size. I’m not sure I’m fat, but I guess we will see when the pregnancy is over. Is it really that bad being a fat mom?

  • Honey, that’s a lot of weight this early. What has your doctor said?

  • He told me to slow down on the weight gain, exercise more and eat better. Easier said than done. He’s not six-months pregnant.

  • Yea, I agree. Too much weight gain.

  • Wow! That’s a lot of weight gained, you’re heading for a 100lbs weight gain the way you are eating. How is your husband dealing with it? What weight are you now?

  • I hope I don’t gain 100 pounds! 😳
    I was about 130 pounds when we got pregnant, so I’m almost 190 pounds now.
    At first he was OK with the weight (and a little turned on, actually), but as I have gotten bigger, he has been less interested in s** and physically touching me. He was really into all the bodies changes (bigger b****, growing belly, more butt, etc.) until about 170 pounds, and he’s acted differently these last 20 pounds.

  • I think he’s looking elsewhere with that big weight gain

  • Yes, you have to watch out for that. I was on line once and sent this other girl a before and after pic of my husband, the first cut and lean, the second with 40 more pounds and she said "OMG you poor thing! He is RUINED!" So then this other guy came in the room and he was younger and looked like my honey before he blimped up, and I have to say I got excited chatting to this kid, I mean he had a FLAT belly and MUSCLES. Went to bed that night and really looked at my honey and...ewwwwww LOL sorry.

  • Do you still love your tubby hubby?

  • He hasn’t complained too much. He seems kind of attracted to me bigger, actually. Maybe just not as big as I am now.

  • Say you put on another 25lbs, that would bring you up to 215lbs. Do you think you would struggle to get back to 130lbs? Also age would play a factor, so what age are you and is this your first child?

  • First child. 28. Relatively healthy. Just pregnant and overweight now. I’m not sure if I feel I have to get back down to 130 pounds. I would be OK if I was 130-150 after the baby.

  • I hope I’m wrong, but I think you will struggle to get down to 160lbs, especially if your going to have more kids.

  • My mother has admitted she is responsible for my hubby gaining over 40lbs in just over a year when she moved in with us. My hubby works from home and my mum likes to cook and bake, so while I’m at work she has been over feeding him with home baked treats, fried breakfast, mid morning donuts and heavy lunches. He has now got used to being pampered and he now has quite a belly on him lol

  • Sounds like perhaps your feeder mother could use a replacement man to fatten and feed. Does your husband have a brother, per chance?

    If he does not, and you wish for him to not grow as huge as your late father, yet your mother would still like someone to feed, fatten, pamper and stuff with food as she pleases then I offer myself.

    I'm a man actually looking for a dedicated feeder such as your mother, as odd as it is. Yes, I know the associated risks, and am fully prepared to accept them. At least it would be mutually beneficial to us all; your husband could get out of being your mother's pet pig and not end up like your father, your mother has someone new that she may feed and pamper and fatten as she pleases without limit, and I finally get to have someone as my feeder. I hope that you will at least think on it and get back to me with an answer.

    My info, in case you accept my offer and wish to discuss details: feedthefatty2748 [at] gmail

  • Sounds like perhaps your feeder mother could use a replacement man to fatten and feed. Does your husband have a brother, per chance?

    If he does not, and you wish for him to not grow as huge as your late father, yet your mother would still like someone to feed, fatten, pamper and stuff with food as she pleases then I offer myself.

    I'm a man actually looking for a dedicated feeder such as your mother, as odd as it is. Yes, I know the associated risks, and am fully prepared to accept them. At least it would be mutually beneficial to us all; your husband could get out of being your mother's pet pig and not end up like your father, your mother has someone new that she may feed and pamper and fatten as she pleases without limit, and I finally get to have someone as my feeder. I hope that you will at least think on it and get back to me with an answer.

    My info, in case you accept my offer and wish to discuss details: feedthefatty2748 [at] gmail.com

  • Wow, that's a lot of fat in just one year.

  • Does your mum feel bad for doing that to your (chubby) hubby?

  • She loves it. I came home early and she was stuffing a third donut into him and rubbing his belly at the same time! I was not happy.

  • Oh boy. Sounds like your hubby is going to get very fat.

  • Sadly, you could be right. He has now acquired a taste for her homemade pecan pie which he has for his supper most night with double cream. He is coming to bed every night with a full belly which can’t be good for him. He need to have more willpower.

  • How do you like his new belly? More, less or about the same attraction level as before?

  • As I said before I do not like it! He is too fat

  • It must be hard to see him get undressed and get in bed with you, correct? I mean I know how I'd feel if I saw a man who looked 15 months pregnant walking around the bedroom with his big stomach sticking out. (Not trying to be cruel, just honest.) How do you deal with the disgust factor? Is he otherwise a sweetheart?

  • I love him to bits, and he loves me, but as you say his big stomach is taking some getting used to! I deal with it cause I love him unconditionally.

  • How does he feel about his new tummy?

  • I think he is embarrassed about it, but he can’t resist all the treats. My mum has been teasing him about his gain joking that she will put another 40lbs on him. My late father was a very fat man.

  • I think you need to talk to your mom. The teasing and belly rubs after over feeding are going to reinforce your husband’s gains. The 40 more pounds she says she will put on him aren’t a joke, it’s a promise from an experienced and successful feeder. He’ll be over 300 pounds and on a path to 400 if you don’t intervene.

  • I spoke to mom the other night and she told me a fat husband is a happy husband and that she’s only having a little fun. Well I put him on the scale and he’s gained another 10lbs since my first post! She has increased his appetite in that he is always hungry and he has no willpower.

  • It’s not really about willpower. Sugary foods are addictive, increase appetite and lead to insulin dependence. Your husband is probably already pre-diabetic. If he can spend 3 days on only lean protein, the sugar cravings will dissipate and blood sugar swings will level out. One of the most powerful tools for weight loss is a food diary; it will help him be more mindful of what he is eating.

  • Yea, his diet is high on sugar. She’ feeding him 3 or 4 donuts each mid morning a couple of hours after a cooked breakfast, which are full of cream and sugar and then at night 2 big servings of pecan pie which is very fattening. No wonder he is piling the weight on!

  • No wonder, indeed! Your mother is an experienced and very successful feeder who is rapidly fattening your husband up. He is going to be over 350 pounds before you know it, and eventually will be bigger than your day (500+ pounds). Your mom will not stop until he is hugely fat and totally dependent on her stuffings and belly rubs. You might as well order 70 inch pants now - within two years he'll be so big even those pants won't fit him!

  • At his next checkup, make sure he gets a complete blood panel, including lipids and blood sugar. The results might shock him into easing up on the donuts and pie.

  • Yes. He is due a check up next month and I will go with him to ensure he is checked. He will probably be 10 to 15lbs heavier by then as he is getting fatter by the day! I wouldn’t be surprised if he was pre diabetic as his weight gain is all on his stomach.

  • How did the checkup go?

  • That sounds great to me! Lol

    If you want your hubby out from your mom's pampering, and you need a replacement piggy for her to feed, let me know! I'll happily volunteer!

    let's get in touch feedthefatty2748 @gmail

  • Your hubby is going to have to make a major lifestyle change even to stay at the same weight. As it is now, his rapid gains imply that he is consuming at least 1600 calories a day more than he's burning off. If he were to continue to gain at that rate, he will be over 300 pounds by fall and in a year, he will be over 400.

    Only a change in diet can help get this under control. Even if he were to add vigorous exercise for an hour every day (1000 calories burned), your husband is consuming so many calories that he'd be over 300 in a year.

    Maybe you can work out a meal plan and get your mom enlisted. More vegetables and lean protein most days can cut the calories down. She can still make dessert but only once a week.

  • Over 400lbs in a year’s time! Gosh. I don’t think he would be able to carry that kind of weight. His belly would be huge! He would struggle to walk. He would be dead beat all the time.

  • What will you do if your hubby gets to be as big as, or even bigger than your late father?

  • My father was 450lbs and hubby is currently 262lbs so there is a big difference at the moment. There is nothing I can do except to try and encourage him to cut down. Otherwise I will be the skinny wife with the big fat husband thanks to my mother over feeding him.

  • Those are two very fat men.

  • Sorry to hear about your father. Was his death related to his size?

  • Yes. My mother is a feeder

  • How big was your father?

  • He was well over 400lbs

  • Did your father enjoy how your mother treated him? Did she act similarly around him?

  • Oh he loved her cooking and she rubbed his belly too

  • What else did your mother do to enable your father? Was your father that big all your life, of did you witness her fattening him to 450lbs gradually over the years?

  • Do you like his new belly?

  • Not really, but the way he is overeating at the minute I’m afraid it’s only going to get bigger. We’re meant to be trying for a baby and with hubby carrying over 40 extra pounds and now very overweight isn’t helping matters.

  • How’s it not helping? You don’t like it or it’s physically difficult for him?

  • Also physically. The extra weight has has affected his stamina, and it doesn’t help when he comes to bed every night with a tummy so full of desert he can hardly move.

  • Maybe you just need to tell him to slow down With the food so you guys can be intimate. Or maybe he’s getting fat so he doesn’t have to be intimate.

  • Being overweight is not good for conception

  • How big will you let him get?

  • Well he is just over 250lbs at present but I would hate for him to go over 280lbs.

  • What will you do if your mom feeds him to over 300lbs and has him addicted to her spoiling, feeding and teasing?

  • I would love to put a big belly on my boyfriend, but I am struggling to put weight on him. Has anyone any tips or ideas?

  • Just keep feeding him so that his belly is full all the time. First thing in the morning and especially before going to bed at night. Aim for five big meals a day and his belly will adjust to that and expand. Believe me!

  • If you really want to get him BIG, make him eat until he can't take another bite, then rub his belly and reward him with s e x. This will cause him to associate food with arousal and over time his capacity and appetite will grow enormously. Do this and I guarantee he'll get HUGE within two years.

  • Usually drinking calories is a little sneakier. Feeding him a little more, but exchanging water for higher-calorie beverages immediately adds more calories into the diet. Sodas, juices, alcohol, milkshakes, etc. - they don’t really make you feel full, but it’s extra calories that you aren’t eating. Just be prepared to gain a little weight with him so it’s not so obvious. You’ll have to increase your drinks (just not as much) if you want him to not notice as much. My BF gained about 25 pounds this way (and I gained about 10 pounds).

  • You could just tell him you want him a little chubbier and see if he’s willing to get a little tubby for you.

  • It’s really about more calorie intake than calorie burning. Men’s bodies gain weight in very predictable ways. 99% of men will get fat bellies before the rest of their body starts adding weight.

  • Get to know his favorite foods. Feed him more than usual. Decrease his exercise. Make him new, fatty dishes. Rub his belly as it starts poking out. Be loving and physical with his shape as he progresses from skinny to chubby. Compliment him on his belly.

  • This is so adorable - as long as he doesn't feel bad about his body and his blood pressure and cholestorol are not acting up, I say feed your fat boy and love him up! :) A fat man doesn't stray, either.

  • Has anyone on here gained a significant amount of weight on purpose?

  • I have before. I decided to just live life and do what I wanted to do. I gained about thirty pounds in a year and then decided to maybe have more structure in my life. My mom thought I was pregnant because of the rapid weight gain. Wasn’t pregnant. Just loved ice cream and watching TV.

  • Lol! I came home from a very self-indulgent girls trip for a week in Las Vegas. Tons of eating and drinking. We all gained some good weight and looked a little preggers when we got home.

  • Haha that's adorable, you guys sound like a good time. :)

  • We did have fun until we all got home and are husbands/boyfriends asked each one of us what happened. They could definitely tell we were a little rounder!

  • Ha, ha, ha! 😳
    My roommate thought the same thing about me! I was eating like crap for weeks (I was just a little depressed about my life in general) and it started to show on my belly and I felt sick because I was eating like crap. So I laid around the house a lot when I wasn’t working, feeling like garbage and having a belly develop. My roommate asked me if I was pregnant because she noticed the weight gain and that I seemed to be sick more and I told her that a baby belly doesn’t look the same as a food baby belly, but I appreciated her concern.

  • When I got pregnant the first time, I was afraid of getting too fat. I asked me husband to support me and gain weight with me throughout my pregnancy. He put on 30 pounds through my three trimesters! And his belly has stayed around two years later. I love his new tummy!

  • When I started dating my girlfriend, she warned me I would put on weight. She bakes for a living. A year later, I’m 33 pounds heavier than when we first started dating. She was right, and I have gained weight being with her.

  • Yes. A girlfriend who likes fat men pushed me to overeat and i gained 37 pounds in 5 months. :)

  • My wife was so stressed out after our wedding that I told her I just wanted to relax. We both lost about twenty pounds for the wedding. After the wedding, we just relaxed and didn’t care as much. We both gained the twenty pounds back in about three months, and then we each gained about another twenty pounds over the next year. We were fairly fat when we decided to be a little healthier and plateau the weight gain. So now we are both about forty pounds heavier than our wedding day.

  • I caught my husband cheating and he begged for forgiveness saying he would do anything to save the marriage. So I dug out my traditional Mexican cook books and put 60lbs on his tummy lol. He’s too tired and fat to look at other women.

  • As messed-up as it sounds, this method actually works! Get them fat so other women won't be interested in them.

  • Yes. 60lbs of mostly solid tummy is not pretty, something only a wife who put it there could love lol. His bedtime stamina has been greatly reduced as well 😀

  • So what do you do about that? Like that his stamina in bed has tanked? Doesn't that frustrate you?

  • Well the extra weight has stopped him cheating! and I’m younger and fitter so I do all the work lol

  • Omg wow I wonder if he worries that you'll fall for the fit pool boy or something...have you ever fantasized about someone fitter than your hubby just sort of sneaking into your bedroom at midnight? I'm talking pure fantasy...we all fantasize!

  • I fattened up a couple boyfriends on purpose because I like some tummy. Just with girl tricks, like baking a lot or asking them to finish my food for me. After a couple months with me, that belly starts to poke out and round out. It’s been cute each time!

  • I did! I had a new medication and weight gain was a side effect, so I said just s**** it. It was overall a healthier option than some of the other medications I could take, so I went with the fat one. I was curious to see how it affected my dating life. I gained 30 pounds (size 4 to size 10) and men were still interested at a heavier weight, so I might try and lose the weight when the medication is finished or I might just stay this size. It hasn’t been bad for me to be bigger.

  • I have been married to my husband for 3 years and have a mixed weight relationship. On marriage I was 310lbs and he was 130lbs. A year into the marriage I asked him to gain 28lbs as I felt he was underweight and it would do him good, so he started to eat the same portions/food as me. 2 years later the weight difference between us has reduced dramatically as he has nearly gained 80lbs. His belly has swollen up like a basketball and he has love handles around his waist. Love to watch him snoring on the couch content as a cat lol

  • I had recently left a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship where my boyfriend always made me feel self-conscious about my size. I’m not skinny, but not really fat. More like borderline, almost plus-size. You wouldn’t look at me and say I was fat, but your first thought also would not be that I’m skinny. But he made me feel huge.
    Anyway, I met my current boyfriend soon after breaking up with the other guy, and he was always so complimentary on my size and looks. He would always say something like, “my friends can’t believe how beautiful you are” or “you’re an incredibly sexy woman.” Stuff like that. And he meant it.
    One night I told him about some of my insecurities and his response was that I’m beautiful inside and out and losing or gaining weight won’t change that.
    So a year later we are still dating and he has stuffed me like a turkey! He’s amazing and handsome and wonderful. I’m still the same person, with a little more confidence in myself thanks to him (and an extra 25 pounds thanks to him!) and I’ve never been happier with my dating life.

  • My husband asked me to keep on my baby weight from my pregnancy. Your body naturally loses some of the weight, so I indulged my sweet tooth a little to get some pounds back on and keep on the weight. He loves the extra chubbiness!

  • That's adorable, so happy for you!

  • Yes! No more pilates or running or weights! And...oops, saddlebags! But he likes 'em so...win-win!

  • My BF has dated a lot of plus-size girls in the past, so I’m letting my weight creep up a little as we date. Its been about 15 additional pounds in 6 months. Had to buy new jeans so far.

  • I gained about 50 lbs. for my now wife. We were dating and she said she liked husky guys so I packed on 50 lbs. and we got married a year later. Still happily married and still fat.

  • My wife gained about 50 lbs. with her first pregnancy. She kept about 25 lbs. of it, and then I gained about 20 lbs. in that same year from indulging in her cravings and having a baby turn our world upside down. We lovingly refer to it as “our fat year” when we talk about that time.

  • I’m not sure if we purposefully gained weight, but after our wedding my wife and I said we would spend the first year just doing what we wanted and enjoying each other. The result of that was a lot of relaxing and good food. At our anniversary, she had gained 28 pounds and I had gained 37 pounds. That was all in one year. We decided to be a little more thoughtful with our habits after that. But she still was sexy to me.

  • That's romantic :)

  • I want my wife to gain weight. She’s about 5’6” and 120 pounds. I would really like if she gained 30-50 pounds and became fat and more curvy, but I don’t know how to tell her that.

  • Do you not like her body the way it is now? She seems very fit.

  • "She seems very fit?" She could be 5'6 and 120 pounds and have pneumonia or cancer. You know no information besides her height and weight. *Dumbell of the Year Award*

  • I like her body now. I’m just very attracted to a plump body with curves, and I think I would be even more attracted to her if she was bigger.

  • I think you can be honest and up front with her and just say that you think she would look sexy at a heavier weight, too, and then she can decide what to do with that information. Maybe she gains weight, maybe she doesn’t. That’s up to her, though.

  • I don’t understand why all these women want a fat husband. Please explain it to me.

  • Fat husbands don't stray. Face it, most of the whores looking to come between a husband and his wife aren't looking for the Pillsbury Dough Boy.

  • A big, round, full belly is sexy. I like that it’s squishy and soft. It’s more fun to cuddle with.

  • Have you been with a big belly boy? If you have, then you would understand how sexy some extra chubbiness can be on your man.

  • I’m into big bellies. I’ve dated guys who were skinny and guys who were fat. Generally speaking, the fat guy was always a better boyfriend. Almost always. So I will date any body type, but I get secretly more excited if he’s a little pudgy because I sense more potential in him for me.

  • I just like a hefty, round belly. Not really sure why, but I’m just attracted to a rotund figure. I like to have some belly on my man to hug and cuddle on. Fat bellies are more intimate and fun.

  • I’m very petite. 5’2” and 105-110 lbs. A small woman. My mom is, too. But she fattened up my dad and I just now associate a fat husband with a nice and happy husband now. They have such a good marriage. So I think I just look for huskier men because of how good of a husband my dad is. My mom attributes it partly to his weight gain. She said he became nicer and more gentle the fatter he became.

  • It’s hard to explain. I find fat men do as they’re told. I dated a skinny guy and as soon as he moved in with me I told him bluntly I liked fat men. I started to feed him more than he was used to and within 2 years he has gained 70lbs and quite a weight problem. I married him and we are both happy and he has adapted to his new size.

  • When we were first married, my husband was skinny and easy to anger. We would fight over little things. So I increased his portions and started making him a bedtime snack. He is 85 pounds heavier now and is so much nicer to me. After I feed him a big meal and rub his belly he gets a big smile on his chubby face and I feel so happy. A fat husband is the best!

  • I’m also a plus size woman, a little on the chubby side. It looks better when a chubby girl is with a chubby boy. When my husband was skinnier, we would often get disparaging looks from others because of our weight differences. Now that’s he’s a little fat, people don’t look at us the same way.

  • For me, as a woman, who is plus size, there is nothing to beat putting a substantial belly on a young husband or boyfriend. It is a signature stamp that effectively takes him off the market and proves he is willing to get fat with/for you. It brings security to a wife or girlfriend to watch him eat your food till his belly is fit to burst, and boy those tummy rubs are great!

  • The research shows that a marriage is happier when the husband is the fatter one. When we were married, I was 235 pounds and my husband was 175. The difference in our weights made me feel insecure, so I slimmed down and fed my hubby up. Now I am 163 pounds and he is 295 and gaining. I love his big belly and fantasize about fattening him up even more while I get leaner and more fit. My goal weight is 130 and I want to fatten him up to at least 350.

  • I will speak just for myself. Not sure how other women feel, but they can provide their own input.
    My husband was skinny and is now fat. And I love it. I love him and I love his large body. I love trying to put my arms all the way around him when I hug him. I love how powerful he looks and feels. I love how his body looks. I love he likes my cooking. I love his big belly and watching him grow fatter during our marriage. I love that his weight gain has made me feel really secure in our relationship.
    I’ve loved everything about him going from skinny to fat with me.

  • I just told my boyfriend that I wanted him fat when we started getting serious. Just told him that’s what I find sexy. Three years later, he’s 50 lbs. heavier and I love it! 💕

  • How did you put the extra weight on him?

  • I would consider putting another 50lbs on him. I was responsible for my hubby’s initial 50lbs gain, but then I got carried away and encouraged him to more than double his weight in the next few years. Overfeeding, overeating, cooking and baking, I put a tummy on him so big he needs help putting his socks on, and has difficulty turning in bed lol. He is sitting at 350lbs now too fat and lazy to diet. All he cares about is me and putting food into his big fat tummy.

  • If your husband was skinny, then 50 pounds may only be enough to bring him up to normal weight. You’ll need to put another 50 pounds on him to put a stamp around his belly, and also to curtail his aggressive impulses so he will do what he is told and be more considerate of your needs. The third 50 pounds is for “plus size” gals like me who like their husbands to be bigger than us :)

  • You like him that big?

  • Yes, I do. He was 5 foot 4 and 130lbs when I met him and now he is as wide as he is tall. I love the way the extra weight has mellowed him and made him lethargic. I was always big anyway, just under 300lbs myself lol.

  • Fat as a barrel! Should have seen him at the beach last week when he had his swimming trunks pulled up to his moobs desperately trying to hide his fat tummy. Being short and so round they kept falling down to his hips lol

  • Ha ha! Do you like his moobs?

  • Don’t mind them, I keep pinching them which he hates. Love playing with his big belly and reminding him how skinny he was when we met lol

  • Ha ha! Give him a taste of his own medicine!

  • Lol so adorable, it's fun to tease! As long as it doesn't get out of line, or cruel.

  • 😳 That’s a big boy!

  • It's definitely a good check to find out if he's really into you. Who else is he trying to keep that boyish figure for, if you're not into it? Erasing those abs is like erasing the exes phone numbers. Won't be needing them any more sweetie!

  • Omg this is so accurate! The fatter they get, the less the exes come around when they are lonely. My husband answered a PM on Facebook with nothing but a current pic of him from a picnic where he wasn't wearing a shirt and was eating a sandwich. He is 5'9 and waist 44. He never heard back from the ex!

  • When my now wife and I first started dating she told me one night that she is attracted to heavier men more than skinnier men. I really liked her and wanted to be with her, so I slowly started gaining weight while we continued to date. In the first year, I put on 20 lbs. She definitely cuddled on me more and touched me more with the extra weight. So the second year, I gained another 20 lbs. for a total weight gain of 40 lbs. and she told me one night that she was so attracted to my new body. She said that she always thought I was handsome, but really loved that I was stockier with a belly bulge now. We got married a year later, and I’ve gained another 30 lbs. in our five years of marriage (and I have a full-on, belly-over-my-belt stomach now).

  • How do you feel about it?

  • Overall, satisfied. I loved her and wanted to be with her so adding some extra weight was worth it if it meant her interest would increase. And it wasn’t that bad because it was only 20 lbs., which isn’t too noticeable on men.
    The bigger difference was the second 20 lbs. because that’s when my body went from a little weight gain to noticeably bigger. I had to buy new pants and shirts that fit better. It was harder to exercise. I could feel and see a belly starting to form. But she was very complimentary of how I looked. She was much more physical with me (hugs, kisses, cuddling, etc.) as I got bigger.
    The last 30 lbs. have just made me look fat. If you gain 70 lbs. it will start to show on your face. My fingers are fatter. My legs and thighs are fatter. I know have a big belly that is really pronounced when I sit down or try to exercise.
    I mentioned that I wanted to lose weight and she told me that she didn’t want me to. That she loved my size and wanted me to be her fat husband forever.

  • Be careful that she doesn’t over-fatten you!

  • How big does she want you?!

  • I think she is OK with my current weight, although sometimes she teases me about getting bigger for her. I’m about six-feet tall and weigh between 260-270 lbs., depending on the day of the week. If it was completely up to her, I would probably be just about 300 lbs.

  • I think you have a fat future ahead of you lol

  • 70 pounds in 5+ years is definitely a fat future for this dude!

  • When I got married to my husband a few years ago my mom advised me to put a belly on him to reduce the chances of him straying. Well could I for the life of me succeed cause after the first year he had only put on a few pounds. My mom then advised me to start using lard and full fat butter in my cooking, well after a few months his belly popped out like a jack in the box. Three years marries he has gained nearly 60 pounds.

  • My husband has a sweet tooth, so I made sure to keep the candy bowl full and keep lots of ice cream and cake in the fridge. For our honeymoon we did a 3 week cruise, and I made sure he was eating non-stop. By our first anniversary, he had put on 75 pounds and after three years, he’s weighing in at 285 pounds with a big round belly!

  • Do you like him that fat?

  • I'm petite (5 foot 2 and 110 pounds) and I like the contrast between my flat tummy and my husband's big belly.

  • 60 lbs. is a lot! What’s he think about that?

  • Adjusting to his new belly. Keeps asking me why I haven’t gained lol. He’s 230lbs now and I’m just letting nature take its course. My mom joked about fattening him up to 300lbs which would make him fatter than his dad at 30 😀

  • How’s he like his new pot belly?

  • I don’t think he’s fully embracing it lol, but it’s here to stay as far as I’m concerned. He didn’t expect to have a belly on him like that at 28. Even his mom is impressed and keeps patting it.

  • What did his mom say and think?

  • I think his mum was in shock at the size of his belly hence she kept patting it and saying what are you feeding him lol. Can’t wait to see her reaction when I make hubby fatter than his dad!

  • Sounds like you don't live close to your mother-in-law. And perhaps you won't be able to see her during the holidays because of the pandemic. Imagine how much fatter your husband will be in two years! If your mother-in-law complains you can blame his enormous belly on the virus, lol.

  • My college girlfriend and I had to go back home after Spring Break this year because classes were cancelled. We are still dating long distance and have been since March. We usually FaceTime. Anyway, she told me she has been gaining weight with her mom’s cooking and no gym. I asked her how much and she said it’s been 20-25 pounds. I haven’t really seen her body since we always FaceTime, so she backed up and showed me. She now has a cute belly, and her butt and thighs are bigger. I didn’t know what to say because I think I really liked it. Not sure how to tell her, though.

  • Did she gain that on purpose?

  • I’m not sure. She had mentioned in the past that it’s difficult to be a woman and maintain a certain weight to be considered “attractive” by men. I don’t think I put that pressure on her, but maybe other guys or society in general has. So since she already has a boyfriend, maybe she did use this opportunity to loosen up a bit and relax on keeping her weight down. But she looks good. I told her last night that I think she looks good at the higher weight. She was surprised I said that.

  • You think you really liked it or you know you really liked it?

  • I was very intrigued by it. Like, not grossed out my some extra belly fat. It was cute on her tummy. So I guess I was kind of into it.

  • That’s a big gain since March, her mom must be feeding her well and she is also comfort eating cause she misses you. Would you like a fat wife in the future?

  • I sure hope she is missing me!

  • She was always very sporty and could eat what she wanted because of how many calories she would burn training, so when she went back home, she kept her eating habits without keeping the daily training.
    She is very pretty, and her face will always be pretty regardless of how much she weighs. From what I saw on FaceTime, she is still as beautiful as I remember. She’s just a little plumper, which didn’t look bad.

  • I was devastated when my slim young husband left me 5 years ago for an older woman who must have weighed over 300 lbs. I moved away and they eventually married. Recently when I returned to the area to visit family I got a shock when I spotted them at the local shopping mall. Both must have gained over 100lbs each, her with her huge butt and swinging hips moving at all angles she could hardly walk. But the change in ex hubby gave the most satisfaction. His belly was hanging over his pants and it was swinging to the left as he walked. He was obviously uncomfortable carrying all that extra weight in front of him and his big fat double chin made me smile 😀

  • Have you been able to get over him?

  • Yea, I’m very happy with my gaining big boy lol

  • Sad about your marriage. I had a BF leave me in college for another girl. I thought he was the one and we would be getting married. Well, they just got married and I saw the pictures on Facebook. They’ve probably gained a combined 150 pounds over the last five years. Both look very big now. It made me feel a little better.

  • Yup, Facebook is great for that ,seeing how old and fat people got.

  • Sorry to hear about your marriage! 😔 But glad that you feel it’s working out.

  • Yea. I’m 38 now and met a guy a few years younger than me and moved in together 3 years ago. We are both really happy and he has developed a big foody tummy that I adore and hope that means he is content.

  • Lot of pregnant looking men down at the beach last week, hubby included. There were paunches everywhere and all different ages. Wives and girlfriends were having a fun time rubbing sun cream on their partners bigger or new paunch.

  • That sounds nice! Your man is fat, too?

  • Oh yes. Belly hanging low over his swimming shorts with his added weight gain. I enjoyed rubbing the sun cream on to that big soft belly

  • Would you say then women like extra weight/gain? Or do they just find it entertaining.

  • When I got married to my husband five years ago I could feel his ribs. After some tender loving care, over eating and 120lbs later, I would need a shovel to find them lol

  • That’s a lot of weight in a short amount of time.

  • A lot of his gain was in the first year when he gained 60lbs and a big love tummy. Also adjusting to living with a woman 90lbs heavier than him. But his gain has now slowed down, but he’s still gaining lol.

  • Quarantine has been interesting. I’ve always been a big eater, but college sports kept me slim. I feel like I’ve been slowly getting round since then. My girlfriend lives with her grandma so going to the gym isn’t really an option, and cardio just doesn’t really do it for me. I’ve been trying to watch what I eat, but I can’t help it, I prefer good, and big food. Anyway, My girlfriend and I didn’t see each other for the past two weeks. During this time I’ve been treating myself to my local favorites before I move at the end of the month. When she came over yesterday the first thing she did was giggle, poke my stomach and say “you’re a big boy.” Now usually I prefer me skinny and so does she, but that comment did something and I don’t know why.

  • Did you like when she called you a big boy?

  • It definitely made me feel some type of way. Not something I would’ve admitted to liking before.

  • Is she a plus size woman?

  • How much weight did you gain in the two weeks?

  • I don’t know, I don’t own a scale. Clearly enough for a visible difference

  • Ask her if she wants you fat?

  • My wife patted my stomach last night and said she didn’t care if it was a boy or a girl, as long as we were both healthy. Quarantine has not been good for my waistline.

  • Ha ha ha!! That’s funny! What did you say? We’re you embarrassed at your fattening belly?

  • I was a little embarrassed, and she noticed that and then told me she really likes my extra chubbiness. She asked me to keep it...

  • How would you interpret what my GF did?

  • My guess is she thought it was cute that you gained a little fat! 😍

  • I think she is kinda into a fatter version of you. You should ask her what she meant. Or keep gaining and see what she says.

  • What did she do?

  • That sounds interesting. Do you think she liked you a little bigger?

  • I’m not sure, but I know I like being her big boy

  • Had a heart warming sight the other day when I went out into the garden to find hubby lying like a beached whale on the sun lounger. I called him for his dinner and to see hungry hubby struggle to get up fighting with his belly rolls and moobs made me laugh. He used to be so slim but marriage changed that.

  • How big is he now?

  • He’s over 370lbs now, 60 inch waist. Married 8 years and has just gotten fat on my cooking.

  • That’s more than just fat. He’s a big boy now!

  • He’s my big boy. No doubt he will be hitting 400lbs by the time he’s 35. To think he was 150lbs when I married him, he had his gained his first big fat roll 2 years later. He gained with me during my 3 pregnancies, except I lost my weight and he couldn’t. But we are both happy and he loves eating my food.

  • I was a slim guy when I met my future wife 4 years ago. She is a latina woman, five years older, under 5 feet, just over 100lbs. When we got married 2 years ago she told me to relax and let her take care of me. That’s when she started to cook using all her moms old cook books. These days I’m now very overweight with a large belly, moobs and chubby face.

  • How much do you weigh atm?

  • 255lbs. 90lbs gain in 2 and a half years. Mostly on my belly and moobs.

  • How does she feel about your new size?

  • She told me she loves it, she likes bigger men. She keeps saying “get rid of cheater belly” whatever that means. She told me the other night she’s only getting started which worries me a little tbh.

  • Fat guy’s opinion here. When I got with my girlfriend (now wife), she told me she would probably make me fat because that’s how she likes her man. I thought she was kidding, but five years later, I’m sitting here with a round and fat stomach on my couch with her rubbing the belly she created while we cuddle. Take your woman seriously if she says she wants to fatten you up because she will do it!

  • My wife did the same thing to me. But at least she had the decency to tell me she was going to fatten me up and promised she would like me bigger.

  • My wife was fat when we married (280) and she told me that she was going to fatten me up so I’d be bigger than her. I thought she was kidding, but 5 years later I’m 320 pounds and she has slimmed down to 170. She loves to tease me about how fat she has made me and how small she is in comparison. It’s kinda hot!

  • I’ve been rapidly gaining weight during my pregnancy. I’m in month six, and I’ve already gained 60 pounds. My husband is always bringing me sweets and treats every day. It’s nice and sweet of him, but I’m gaining too much weight!!

  • My husband was very similar, although I didn’t have that big of a weight gain. But I just flat out asked him why he was trying to make me fat during my pregnancy, and he admitted that he was more attracted to bigger girls and asked if I would consider keeping some of the baby weight. He said watching me get bigger each month was a huge turn on for him.

  • You’re gaining too much weight too fast. Your body won’t recover from that big of a gain.

  • That’s some fast weight gain, but don’t stress out too much about it. Your body is naturally designed to help shed some pregnancy weight, although maybe not as much as you have gained. I would suggest easing up on the treats and starting with some moderate exercise. It will help with your delivery and recovery if your fitness is better.

  • You need to slow down or you are going to end up gaining 90lbs plus. You will never lose that weight. I gained a lot during my pregnancy, never lost the extra weight and Now I’m stuck at 270lbs 4 years later. If you don’t mind, what’s you weight at present? Husband is doing you no favours.

  • Oh, and forgot to answer the other part. I know my husband isn’t helping me, but he’s been so sweet and caring that I don’t want to discourage him and hurt his feelings. He also has said the extra weight looks sexy on me.

  • Do you think he’s just trying to make you fat for after the baby comes?

  • Maybe, I guess. I haven’t really thought about that. Like, you mean you think he wants me fat instead of in shape for him?

  • Yes!!! Some men just prefer their women fat instead of skinny. Watch his behavior and what he wants you to do, to eat, etc. Or just straight up ask him what he thinks your ideal weight would be. Then you will know if he’s just trying to fatten you up.

  • I know I need to slow down! It’s bad! I was so unmotivated to exercise, then I started getting bigger and it was harder to move with the extra weight. And then I just kept eating and not moving enough. I was 155 lbs. when I got pregnant. I’m now 215 lbs. it’s my first pregnancy, so I’m not sure how my body will bounce back.

  • My wife has said she loves my “Corona belly,” which I guess refers to the weight I’ve gained not getting to go to the gym. It’s settling on my stomach. She claims she never wants it gone, and pats it and loves on it when we are on the couch watching TV.

  • My boyfriend has acquired a new friend during the virus, his new tummy. I’m a chef out of work at the moment, so I’ve had nothing better to do over the past few months that to overfeed him lol. You would think he’s swallowed a football.

  • I’ve put nearly 30lbs on him since February. He’s stuck at home with me as well. All my rich sauces sticking to his tummy like glue. Never been to the gym in his life. Funny watching him the other day trying to do sit ups cause he knows he’s getting a good sized tummy on him lol.

  • How’s he feel about his weight gain? How do you feel about it?

  • He hasn’t said much, but I think he is resigned to gaining weight living with me. I’m loving it!, as I’m a big woman at 290lbs. He’s currently just under 200lbs, his heaviest ever weight, but I’ve always been tempted to equal our weight. Off to a good start lol as he will soon be breaking the 200lb barrier.

  • Yeah some things get a little easier once you get him fat too. He'll be more understanding and patient. Your interests in everything from vacations to hobbies will probably become more similar. A relationship with a fat woman is awesome -- soft, comforting, indulging a little more without the pressure. He'll be able to enjoy all that a little more once you've helped break free from the rigid rules of what it otherwise takes to stay a skinny man

  • Are you getting him fat on purpose?

  • Well I’m fat so I’m thinking why not make him fat. There has never been a better opportunity since we are stuck in the house all day. So I cook and bake all day as it’s my job and hobby. He just lays round the house and eats what I put in front of him. He’s wasting his time with those sit ups against his calorie intake.

  • He'll get to enjoy all that yumminess a lot more once he quits fighting his body. Tell him to just eat the cake. His gut will figure out what body type he needs to be to enjoy it.

  • I guess as long as you are upfront and honest with him that you’re purposely putting weight on him.

  • Yea. He will continue to gain all right . I am a Indian chef so I cook a lot of my main courses in ghee. He prefers my milder creamier dishes like korma and he adores my butter chicken. He loves all the naan breads too washed down with beer.

  • How much weight has he gained since quarantine?

  • Answered for you above.

  • My boyfriend is also getting a “Corona belly.” He has always been so fit, and I thought I liked abs, but then his abs started getting covered up with some soft, jiggly, belly fat. Now I think I like his belly more than I liked his abs.

  • How much fat did he gain?

  • My guess would be 25 pounds. You can still feel his abs (if you push the soft belly fat over).

  • I can’t leave my bf’s quarantine belly alone! It’s so cute and squishy and fat now!! I hope he never loses it. 💕

  • Sounds nice! How much weight did he put on?

  • About 15-20 lbs., probably. Enough to have a noticeable weight gain on his tummy.

  • I wish my boyfriend has a small chubby belly to play with. Instead he grown a big round belly which is solid like concrete. I’ve told him to do something about it as we are getting married next year. Any suggestions?

  • I feel for you, a hard belly reminds me of a cop or something, whereas a flabby, jiggly belly on a guy is fun and hot and playful. The best way to turn a hard belly into a soft one is to lose and gain, lose and gain. The skin loses elasticity and everything starts going downhill. Good luck! :)

  • How much weight we talking about in the losing and gaining?

  • Soft belly fat that jiggles is much healthier than hard belly fat that is solid. If you can’t poke the belly, it’s not good. Hard belly fat is on the inside, like between your organs, and more dangerous to your overall health than just a tubby, smushy belly.

  • Thanks, ok

  • Hard belly fat is not good. Not healthy for him to have. How large is his stomach with a tape measure?
    https://www.menshealth.com/weight-loss/a19543924/abs-diet-hard-belly-fat/

  • He has a 56inch waist.

  • Yes, then he is definitely too fat with bad fat on his body. He needs to lose about 15-16 inches to get to a borderline healthy range. That will still be on the fat end of the spectrum, but it should drastically reduce his health concerns in the future. And his ability to perform in other areas as well...

  • Thank you. But can he do it? I want him slimmer for the wedding!

  • I wouldn’t be worried about the wedding at this point. You obviously are with a fat man. That’s no secret to your friends and family. But you need to be concerned about his long-term health. He needs to make changes now.

  • Anyone can, if you want to bad enough. You just have to change your habits. You can’t keep leading a fatty lifestyle.

  • Gaining weight isn’t the worst thing in the world. I know my fiancé likes a fuller figure, so I’ve been gaining weight on purpose during our courtship. I’m up about 30 pounds. I still workout and go to the gym for fitness and to feel good, but I’m gaining the weight for him because I know that is what’s attractive to him. I’m much curvier now, which he loves.

  • You Go, Girl! Do what’s best for you! A little fluff never hurt a relationship.

  • Can’t argue with that. Where did you gain the extra 30 pounds?

  • Just all over. I gained in good areas - b****, thighs, butt. My face is a little rounder now. I have a little belly pooch now. But everything is proportional and he likes the extra 30 pounds. He says I look better being a little bigger than I was.

  • I’ve always been turned on by some soft tummy. I thought I was weird because I felt that way and have a slight fetish for seeing my boyfriend gain weight. Didn’t realize there are many women (and men) like me, who enjoy a little chubbiness.

  • Jump on the chubby train!

  • There's a old saying: no man develops six pack abs to date only one girl. Tread carefully around the gentleman who rather have a flat belly than a nice meal! But when he's sporting a keg 12 months into the relationship, he knows he's off the market. That's exactly what he needs to know!

  • A man with a pot belly will always be a more secure relationship than a man with abs. Women, beware of the flat stomach!

  • Yea, my boyfriend has developed quite a large pot belly recently which has Made me feel more secure. Too much eating and drinking lol. It looks quite funny as he is skinny everywhere else. It hangs over his pants and I have had to buy him larger Tees and shirts to accommodate his big belly but drown his arms and neck.

  • As a woman, I agree. If a man is gaining weight, he is happy in his relationship and wants to stay. Not saying skinny guys want to leave, but a boy chubbying up on you is in for keeps.

  • Do you like his new size?

  • Sort of, but he has become clearly overweight. I just wish the extra weight would settle all over him instead of just his belly because it has started to get in the way when we are intimate. He assures me he can lose it anytime because he is young, but I’m not so sure about that.

  • Men don’t really gain weight like women. Women can gain all over their bodies. Men tend to gain just in their bellies unless they get really fat.

  • All on his belly, for now!

  • How does it get in the way for intimacy?

  • Because it’s shaped like a dome I have to lift it out of the way for some intimacy positions. I think it hampers him, has slowed him down, doesn’t last as long. Less energy if you know what I mean.

  • Oh, so then he has a fairly large belly in front then.

  • Yes, an increasingly large pot belly in front. That’s why it can get in the way.

  • Totally agree. Never trusted a man with a six pack. Losing it and gaining a big belly should be part of all wedding vows. My husband had one when we started dating, soon after it started going soft and then gradually forming into a big pot belly. I had him eating 2 dinners a night. One at teatime and the real killer for his abs, stuffed him at bedtime.

  • Nothing wrong with a little chubby tummy to love on at the end of the day!

  • Or a big pot belly you put on him lol

  • A pot belly would be even better.

  • I wouldn’t feel guilty that you like your husband a little on the fat side of life. We all have preferences and thing s we are more attracted to. Some women like brown hair vs. blonde. Some women like accents and some don’t. Some women like a fatter guy, while some want a six pack. Don’t feel guilty. Unless you feel you’ve been fattening him up against his will.

  • Not against his will, but I’m definitely the biggest factor into him becoming big. That’s why I feel guilty.

  • Well, he put the food in his own mouth. He has some responsibility in being fat.

  • I’ve recently put on weight and I’m worried it will negatively affect my relationship with my boyfriend. It’s probably been 25 pounds and a few dress sizes. He says he doesn’t mind. Is he telling the truth?

  • If he says he’s OK with it, he’s OK with it. Don’t overthink it. Men are simple creatures.

  • Yeah unlike women who are so dumb to say s*** they don't mean.

  • Has he given you any reason to think he’s into your weight gain or not into your weight gain? That might help you figure it out?

  • No, he only has always told me he thinks I’m beautiful. He has always been really sweet to me. Whenever I complain about my body, he just says he finds me beautiful and he doesn’t care if I lose weight or gain weight. He does touch me more now than he did when I was skinnier. Like touches my sides and tummy and puts his arm around me.

  • More physical touching on your fatter body sounds like he’s into your weight gain. I would watch your food intake, unless you are OK being bigger. He’s probably not going to discourage you from eating poorly and gaining weight.

  • How long have you dated? What caused your weight gain?

  • We’ve been dating for two years. I’ve just been sloppy with my habits, not exercising, not eating well lately. I haven’t been motivated to get back on track.

  • Has he dated before? What did his past girlfriends look like, skinny, bigger, etc.?

  • He has dated a few girls seriously before me and had some crushes. I would say the majority of the girls he was interested in romantically were a little plump.

  • I believe you may be dating a feeder 😉

  • I agree. Buy more yoga pants!

  • He might be a feeder, but that’s jumping to a quick conclusion. He might just be more attracted to a fuller body type. I would ask him what he finds attractive about your body and why, and if he were to change anything, what would he rather prefer? You can tell him what you would rather prefer for yourself, and see what his reaction is to that.

  • How would I know? He definitely hasn’t put pressure on me to stay skinny for him. He brings me nice treats and desserts, but he’s not weird about it. How would I know if I’m dating a feeder?

  • I’m a feeder and I just get the vibes :). I don’t think you will be losing any weight soon. Just let him make you fat and enjoy it!

  • I don’t want to be fat. I just want my boyfriend.

  • You might have to be fat to have your boyfriend.

  • I think you will pile on the pounds!

  • I’m a 28 year old plus size woman. 3 years ago I moved my skinny boyfriend in with me and within the first year his belly and waist were spilling over his boxer shorts lol

  • Some of your phrases sound like you're the dominant one in the relationship :) If so, he probably accepts that you might make a few changes to his figure to suit your preferences!

  • Did you fatten him up on purpose?

  • Yes and no. First year I did, when I put 50lbs on him. Loved seeing the new weight settle on his belly and waist. The next couple of years he has put on 60lbs himself.

  • Uh, oh. You made him fairly fat at this point.

  • From no belly to my big belly baby lol

  • How much weight has your boyfriend gained?

  • He has gone from 140lbs to 250lbs, so a gain of 110 lbs in 3 years. His waist has increased from 30 to 44. More to love 💗

  • You might want to slow that gain down. That’s a lot of weight. Does he like being that fat?

  • Yea I know but slowing it down is easier said than done. He’s an eating machine and the way he’s going he will be 300lbs before he is 30. I’m not sure that like being fat is the right term, but he has accepted what his overeating has resulted in. I’m partly responsible for that as I planted the seed and I’m not a great example as I’m overweight myself.

  • Are you interested in trying to slim down together or do you plan on just being big with each other?

  • Well I’m happy at 320lbs and that’s after losing 30lbs. Not sure about my boyfriend, he’s enjoying my home cooking too much and too much beer!

  • I’m the 41 year old woman who posted yesterday re responsible for my younger husband’s more than 40lbs weight gain in just over 1 year of marriage. After reading all these posts I am seriously considering putting another 40lbs around his middle. If I can do it the once I can do it again.

  • Why do you want to fatten him up?

  • Like I posted yesterday and the day before it’s to do with my insecurity issues. I am 12 years older than him and I have enjoyed the 40 pounds I have put on him. I feel it would be my stamp on him to fatten him up to say 240lbs or 250, and put a big tummy on him, I am now determined to do that. To let’s say curb any temptations. 280 may be a goal in the future.

  • It's probably not just for insecurity. There's maybe a sense of pride knowing that he's so in love with you that he's done with maintaining a boyish figure. And a sense of accomplishment knowing that he's got that cuddly body thanks to your skills.

  • Never though of it that way but yea it’s me that has caused his weight gain and the way I have him eating at the minute he will be 250lbs in no time. Looking forward to see what is tummy looks like then and I will take it from there.

  • That’s pretty big. Just be warned that it will limit his mobility and stamina, if you know what I mean.

  • Yea, the extra 40 pounds on his tummy is already affecting his stamina in the bed**** that is what turns me on lol

  • But how fat do you want him?

  • That’s a very good question. Another 40lbs would bring him up to 240. So I’m thinking in the future no more than 280lbs? What do you think?

  • My husband has been 280 before. It’s a little rough. Tired often. Sweaty. Difficult to move.

  • Has he lost weight?

  • Yea. He’s back in the 230 range because he was too fat.

  • Hello from England! My friend Simon married an American girl who was at University completing a Study Abroad program in London. He’s gained 15 kilos since the wedding day because she fancies him with a little extra chubby on his tummy. He is still a handsome man, though.

  • My best friend went to Italy for four months on a Study Abroad program. She was a slim figure, and then she gained 25 pounds in four months eating Italian food. I thought she was pregnant when I first saw her when she came home! We had to go buy her new clothes!! 🍝

  • How did your best friend feel about it?

  • Ummm. A lot of laughing. A lot of crying. A lot of jiggling. She was all over the place with emotions. She’s never gained weight like that and done it that fast. I think once she dresses herself a little better for her bigger figure, she will be fine. She is still beautiful.

  • My sister went to Italy and Greece for three weeks for her honeymoon. She wore yoga pants for two months afterward because she couldn’t fit her 15-pound weight gain into her jeans anymore.

  • We went to Italy on our honeymoon. We had to work hard in the gym for three straights months just to work off the extra weight from that amazing trip and country!

  • 👀 Are you sure she wasn’t? 🤰🏻

  • It’s good that he is still an attractive man, even though he’s a little fat.

  • Oh, yes. He was always very good looking. He’s like my big brother. Now he’s my big, big brother...

  • That’s a nice little starter tummy!

  • Yes, it is! I’ve known Simon for ages and he wears tighter, European dress clothes, so you could immediately tell he was a bit fatter. When I gave him a hug last time I saw him, I jiggled it a little on him. It’s definitely a tummy!

  • So cute!!

  • Love a man with a jelly belly! 😍

  • My boyfriend used to tease me about my weight. Well, since we got married a put a jelly belly on him before you could say Jack Robinson lol. 5 years later he now has a double jelly belly. I have also gained but the teasing has stopped.

  • How big is his belly now? How much weight?

  • His lower belly is bigger than his upper one and it gathers under the waistband of his pants. Last time he was measured it was 60 inches around his lower belly. He currently weighs over 330lbs which is very overweight.

  • Wow! 330 lbs. is fat! How much did he weigh before he started gaining?

  • Yes he has got fat on me, he started to eat when we got married lol. He was 180lbs the perfect weight for him 5 years ago. I have settled at 260lbs. I wish he didn’t have the double belly though, he fins that hard to carry especially the lower one. Makes things awkward for him.

  • What’s a double belly? Do you want him to get back down to 180 lbs.?

  • It’s a belly above the belly button and one below. Very hard to shift. I think his 180 weight is distant memories lol

  • Hi, from the Uk. Have been fattening hubby up. He has gained 60 pounds in the last 18 months mainly a spare tire round his waist. He is now wearing support tights to fit into his work suits lol.

  • Did he know you were fattening him up?

  • Yes. A few weeks before we got married I told him I preferred larger men and that I was going to fatten him up after we got married. He honestly thought I was joking, but he knows about it now lol.

  • Oh, Wow! At least you were honest with him. How does he feel about being fatter?

  • What are support tights? How did you put that weight on him?

  • Support tights are pantyhose that support your butt, thighs and middle. He has gained the weight since he moved in with me. I Love to cook and bake so I started looking after him by making us big rich dinners and deserts and we enjoy a lot of take out food. I soon had him eating like a horse lol.

  • How does he feel about that?

  • As what I posted below. 😀

  • Let’s just say he is adjusting to his new shape. He found the extra food portions hard at first but has quickly got used to them as the weight settled around his waist. I make him wear the support tights (same type I wear) as I am plus size, to allow him to fit into his work suits which are pretty new. Last time he bought his own suits that he is already struggling to get into, so next time I will go with him and choose ones at least 2 sizes up.

  • My husband really needs to wear some shape wear and probably a sports bra. He has become quite big, and he is starting to look frumpy.

  • Not so sure about the bra but put him into a pair of support tights/pantyhose. Highly recommended.

  • His moobs are as big as my b****. He might need to try it. I can’t imagine not wearing a bra with my size, which is what he is currently doing.

  • How much does he weigh to have moobs that size? What size is his moobs?

  • If I had to guess, he would be a C cup.

  • Yea, I see what you mean about the sports bra, it would help him. Would you consider the support tights on him?

  • Yes. I really think he needs both for his benefit.

  • How will he react to wearing both, are you going to buy both and persuade him? What weight is he?

  • Probably Amazon to get a specialty size to fit him. He’s about 275 pounds. I will just ask him to try it for his benefit.

  • Well, good luck. Let me know how you get on. Have you any tights he could try on so that he can get used to it?

  • Was it difficult to have him start wearing the support tights? Did he resist that?

  • He was not happy, but I am persistent and showed him the benefit of me wearing them. So I showed him how to put them on and he liked the feel of them and how they supported his lumps and bumps. No one notices anyway as He wears them under his trousers.

  • How does he use the restroom when he’s wearing them?

  • He uses the toilet cubical in work.

  • Wow! That’s a lot of fat very quickly!

  • Yes, and I have enjoyed putting it on him. He is now getting fat and content 😀

  • I've enjoyed seeing my Wife relax and get fat and content.

  • Where have all these chubby chasing women been in my life

  • Settle down with a lady and you will find your chubby chaser.

  • I think I married one (as I sit here on the couch with my fat gut)...

  • Is it chubby chasing women or chubby making women?

  • Either way, I need one

  • I am an Filipino who is responsible for her American husband weight gain. When we met 5 years ago he was slightly underweight, when we married 2 years ago he was chubby. He has now gained 65 pounds since we marry due to my cooking. I love rubbing his big belly though he is not as keen lol

  • I've noticed a lot of Filipinas love to cook. If I ever marry a Filipina in the future, I hope she won't mind me turning into a butterball.

  • You won’t be disappointed. She will have you fat as pig in no time lol

  • Wow! Big belly!

  • He keep talking bout trying to lose the weight but he enjoys my cooking more over over losing belly. I get angry if he refuses to eat what I prepare for him and he usually ends up having 2 maybe 3 serving plus traditional desert. He loves all my traditional dishes specially the ones cooked in full fat coconut milk. To me in my culture I believe a fat man is a happy man and I make sure his belly is always full.

  • Great job on taking care of him! LOL on the belly rubs!!

  • Thank you. He continue to gain. I like him fat haha

  • Lucky dude

  • In the late 2000s, my handsome husband was five years into a successful law career. I met the firm’s newest secretary one year at the Christmas party. She was young, intelligent and gorgeous. Ashley was very pleasant and nice, but seemed to pay extra attention to my John more than the other lawyers. John seemed professional about their interactions, but a couple of wives asked if I was worried. I was a little, so I took matters into my own hands. I was a wonderful wife. I did all the housework, 90% of the work with the kids, never complained about his long hours, was intimate whenever he wanted (and initiated intimacy very often), and cooked him big, tasty meals.
    By the time the next Christmas party happened, John had gained 45 pounds and sported around a new, round belly. When the other wives saw John, they giggled and asked how I managed to do that to him. Ashley was definitely less flirtatious with John that year. I think his new belly got in the way.
    Then the next Christmas party, I saw their husbands had also each put on between 20-40 pounds and also looked different - older, fatter, etc.
    The wives still talk about it every Christmas as we admire our weight gain work. Ashley eventually married, started a family and gained about 50 pounds herself through not losing the baby weight. She is still very pretty, just very plus-size and plump now.

  • Better hope none of those men are into big girls. I would definitely be interested in a young, intelligent, gorgeous and plump woman (if I were not married, of course, but can’t say the same for other men). Some men prefer their women on the heavy side of life.

  • I would have done the same thing if I had a six-figures-earning husband working around a beautiful, single woman.

  • Did all the wives intentionally fatten up their husbands? Was this Ashley secretary really that much of a threat?

  • Ummmm. She was like model gorgeous. Extremely pretty and attractive. She still is, just a little fat now.
    I can’t speak for the other wives, but I wasn’t willing to wait and see. I fully trusted my husband, but I didn’t necessarily trust Ashley. So I would rather live with a big husband belly than no husband at all, which is why I started over feeding him and indulging his sweet tooth. I don’t mind the extra fat on him because it was cute, and especially since I’m the one that put it there.
    As he was gaining, he was very self conscious about it, but the increase of our s** life put him a little at ease as he saw he was getting some. At one point, he asked me if we were having more s** because I was attracted to his weight gain. And the answer to that was kind of a big, fat YES!
    In the end, Ashley has been nothing but a model employee, very professional and everyone is still happily married, so I might have been overzealous with my jealousy, but his belly is staying just in case.

  • At 41 I was 12 years older than my hubby when we married last summer. To deal with any niggling insecurities I may have had, I began to steadily overfeed him. He has gained over 40lbs in just over a year mostly on his tummy lol.

  • Great job on fattening him up! How does he feel about it?

  • He is not as keen taking off his top on our trip to the beach recently. His flat tummy from last year has gone saggy and soft lol

  • My husband and I have settled in what the other spouse’s preference is for weight. I’ve asked him to stay overweight by about 50 pounds, which means he looks chubby with a healthy belly, but not incredibly obese. I’m most attracted to that version of him. He likes me in the size 14-16 range, some belly, bigger b******, chunky thighs, etc., so I stay in that weight range because he likes the extra chubbiness. It works for both of us, and we are both very happy in our relationship.

  • Me, too!! My husband and I were watching TV one night and both actors were a little fat. He said she still was a very pretty actress and I also mentioned the man was still very handsome. I then told my husband he would look good with some extra weight, and then he said I would, too. So we decided we would both gain a little weight and the other spouse would tell you when to slow down and stop. You had to stay that fat for one year once the goal weight was reached.
    Over the course of a year, he had me gain about 25 pounds, which was very noticeable. My face rounded out, my cup size went up, I had to buy pants three sizes bigger and I had a squishy tummy develop. He put on 38 pounds, and he now has a slight double chin, a softer chest, love handles and a dad belly that sits on his belt. We have both plateaued, so the deal was that’s when the year timeline started.
    I might slim back down next year, but I hope he doesn’t. We both have very much enjoyed this little, sexy experiment, and have both commented on how sexy we find each other now. It’s been a fun experience to do together.

  • Odd, but fun experiment, I guess. 🍩

  • A fat pact! Love it!!

  • This girl stole my boyfriend in high school (no big deal, he wasn’t that great anyway). But I never liked her after that because you just don’t do that. Anyway, ten years later, I’m married to a wonderful man and she’s single and has probably gained 50 pounds. #kharma

  • Has anyone ever been disgusted by your SO’s weight gain? How much was too much?

  • My girlfriend gained about forty lbs. over the last three years. She still is pretty, but she’s overweight now. We are planning on marrying, but she told me she wants to lose the weight to fit in a smaller wedding dress. I agree, although I didn’t tell her that.

  • My husband gained about 75 pounds from when we met. One day, I told him he was too fat. I was OK with him being chubby, but not that fat. He started eating better and exercising and lost about half of the extra weight. And I told him I was proud and happy with him and he could stop trying to lose weight if he wanted. He lost about another 10 pounds, and then stopped. Not sure what would have happened if I never said anything.

  • This makes sense to me. My girlfriend has been gaining a little weight and she looks amazing. Her butt is a little bigger, her b****** filled out a little more and she has a slight belly now with some love handles. Didn’t think I would like an extra 20 lbs. on her, but she is rocking the extra weight! Still looks great in yoga pants.

  • I saw this post and asked my husband if he would gain weight for me, and he said, “No, never, forget about it,” and kept working out. 🏋️‍♀️

  • Going from a size 32 pants to a size 40 pants is quite the weight gain. 👖 🍪 🧁 Is he still gaining weight?

  • Yes he is. In 2 years he has gone from 170lbs to 285. His pant size has gone up from 30 to 44. I was already overweight when we got married.

  • I was already overweight and over 300lbs when I married my slim husband 2 years ago. He always told me he preferred larger women and that always made me feel secure. I have always remembered his mom giving me a knowing look at the wedding. Well since then we have both gained over 100lbs. I love his new love handles and what I like most is he has developed a large roll that encircles his belly that looks when he is sitting like a rubber ring you would wear swimming. I love playing with that lol 😀

  • Wow! 100 pounds is a lot. How?

  • I was already overweight and over eating when we got married. He has now adapted to my eating habits hence the weight gain for both of us over the last 2 years. He is now 285lbs and I am 430lbs.

  • I'm over 430lbs and don't have any health complaints but I eat healthy food. Just lots of it and my hubby loves me fat.

  • 430 lbs. is unhealthy for anyone.

  • Cheeky lol☺️. Yes I know. I suppose I’m lucky in that I’m pear shaped and most of my weight is on my butt, thighs and legs. It’s my butt my hubby feel in love with lol

  • Still, 430 is a lot of thigh and butt. But good that you hold your weight well.

  • My weight and his new weight gain complement each other as his gain is all on his top half. He loves my big butt and yes my thighs could be slimmer as they prove awkward in the bedroom at times lol

  • Cheeky lol 😀 I suppose I’m lucky in that I’m pear shaped. Most of my weight is on my butt, thighs and legs. My butt is what my husband likes the most lol.

  • I like a pear shape as much as the next man, but a 430 lbs. pear is a big pear. 🍐

  • Well he ain’t complaining! 85inch butt and 42inch thighs.

  • Fun to see all these women getting what they want - a nice, fat tummy on their man! Good job, ladies!! 👏

  • I’ve been toying with putting on 15 pounds just to try it and see how the gf might like it.

  • I just think looking and feeling beefier might be hot to her, but I’m not sure how far I should go

  • My husband has been getting fat on me and I find it very attractive. 👍🏻

  • My bf has beefed up and I love him fatter! Absolutely love it!! 😛

  • Would you say women prefer beefy guys?

  • I think it depends on the woman, but outward appearances don’t mean as much to women as it does to men. Women are usually more focused on the entire package, and a lot of times men just want a pretty face. A chubby guy is a good indication that he’s going to stick around and be faithful to her.

  • Ha ha! We used the same tongue emoji! ❤️

  • My bf got beefy on me and I love him fatter! 😛

  • Being fatter is normal now. I don’t see what you have to lose. Beef up.

  • Start with 30 lbs

  • You probably need to double that to look and feel different, like have a noticeable belly.

  • This site is gonna make me fat ha

  • You wouldn’t be the first one!

  • Just trying to help!

  • Women like security. They like love and security. Being fat makes them feel secure in your relationship with them. I wouldn’t worry about being unattractive to her if you are a little heavier.

  • Before gaining weight, I was about 190 lbs. Stomach was slim. I gained about 15 lbs. in a year and my stomach obviously looked a little bigger, but no one really could tell, especially with my shirt on. I gained another 15-20 lbs. over the next two years, and by then I was 220-225 lbs. and there was a clear belly bulge forming. So, 15 lbs. might not be enough for you.

  • 15 probably won’t be enough fat gain to really notice much of a difference. You will notice, but it won’t be that significant. You probably need to double that to really look and feel different.

  • Go 20-25. That’s really when you can tell the difference. At 200 lbs. I still looked in shape. At 225 lbs., I had a clear belly that stuck out with a little round sag right above my belt.

  • Go for it! 15 lbs should be easy to lose again if you change your mind

  • I totally get this girl! I was always into a super lean and strong look. Lately, my husband has put on some quarantine weight because his gym was closed. I found myself being really into his budding dad bod (even though we don’t have kids yet). We had to go buy him pants a size bigger, and I was surprised at how much I was attracted to him when he was struggling to fit into his old pants. It was kinda hot! 😍

  • My bf is getting a quarantine belly. I’m surprised how much I like it!! He’s always been so cut.

  • Yea, my boyfriend has put 26 lbs on his belly in 4 months sitting around eating junk food. He won’t be shifting that anytime soon and he’s only 20. Strange to see him with his shirt off in his boxers.

  • Have you told him to keep it yet?

  • Quarantine weight gain has been fun to watch! 👀

  • These comments... feel kinda sorry for all these men getting fattened up like geese. I'm sure they'd prefer to be in shape. Just remember men put on weight around their belly which is more risky, so take it easy on the poor guys

  • You gotta remember that weight gain is usually the result of great food and eating what you want! I feel bad for medication weight gain, but not good weight gain.

  • My husband knows what he's eating the effect it has on his waistline. He doesn't want to get bigger than 250ish, so as long as he's healthy and below that, he's happy being on the tubby side.

  • How much has he gained since you’ve been together? And how quickly?

  • He was lean for years until an injury (I posted about it earlier in this thread). The injury was about 3 yrs ago and since then he's put on about 60 lbs. Now he hovers around 240.

  • Oh, wow! 60 lbs. is a lot. Do you like how big he is now? I’m not sure I could let my man gain 60!

  • Yeah I love his size, he just seems more manly and powerful to me, like a bull. He's tall, so he carries it well.

  • Sometimes it’s deliberate fattening. More often, it’s just letting him do his own thing and he fattens up on his own.

  • Lol. I didn’t force my hubby to put the food in his mouth as he sits in the next room with his belly on his lap. I’ve spotted a lot of men, a lot of them young, sporting new quarantine belly’s recently. ☺️

  • I’ve thought about asking my bf of three years to gain some weight for me. I want to see what he looks like just a little fat. Any advice for me?

  • Two options. 1, be honest and tell him you want him bigger. 2, try to sneak the pounds on him. Personally, I think 1 is better since it’s his body and your desire. (That’s like you trying to get pregnant and not telling him and trying to sneak a baby in you.)

  • Is he too skinny? What sort of food does he like?

  • He’s got a good body. But I’m a little curious of if I would enjoy him more if he was just a little fat. He has a flat stomach. But I kind of like the idea of cuddling up on him if he’s a little more squishy. He likes all food.

  • I would get him to eat a lot of carbs like pasta with creamy sauce, lasagna, French fries with mayo and plenty of pizza. Indian food is good for packing on the pounds as well.Also dairy, plenty of cheese, real butter and full fat milk. Slowly and gradually over feed him so that his stomach capacity will increase. Do that for a few months and he will have quite a paunch and double chin on him lol😀

  • It’s like when you see those popular and skinny girls from high school who ten years later are plus-size mommies with a lot of extra baby weight. 🤪

  • I thought I was weird because I have a slight fetish for seeing my husband gain weight. Didn’t realize there are a ton of women just like me!

  • I can relate to this. My husband and I loved just getting fat when we got pregnant. He would indulge my every food craving and often eat along with me. He gained 25-30 pounds and I gained 70 pounds and we loved every minute of it. After being so skinny for so long, it was amazing to just eat whatever I wanted and not care about the weight gain. And I didn’t mind his weight gain either.
    My husband actively encouraged me to just enjoy the experience and loved on me as I went from skinny to skinny preggo to chubby preggo to fat preggo. Once the baby came, I lost some baby weight, but he asked to, “stay just a little fat for him,” and so I slowed down trying to lose the baby weight.

  • My wife was very small (struggled with eating disorders as a teenager) when we were married.
    When we got pregnant, her OBGYN encouraged her to gain a lot of weight and to use pregnancy as an opportunity to get to a more normal weight for her frame (she was 5’6 and about 105 pounds, the underweight category on a BMI scale) to help with her overall physical and mental health.
    The OBGYN also asked me to support her during her weight gain and gave me strategies to help her mentally cope with an increasing weight on the scale. She also asked me to support my wife by maybe gaining along with her a little bit.
    She set a goal weight of 190 pounds for my wife so by the time she delivered the baby and naturally lost some of the baby weight, my wife would be in the normal category on a BMI scale.
    Nine months later, I had gained 50 pounds. My wife went from about 110 pounds to about 178 pounds, which was a lot for her. She told me that gaining weight together made it a lot easier on her.
    Within six months of the delivery, my wife settled in the 150-pound range, which is considered a normal weight on a BMI chart. And she was left with a fat husband.
    But she’s happy with her weight, my weight, our baby and life in general, so we are in a good place. And the OBGYN told me that me willing to gain the weight was very helpful in me helping my wife feel OK about her weight gain.

  • I’m not sure me and my boyfriend intentionally gained weight when we got pregnant, but we gained a combined 100 pounds. It was a little much! 😳😳

  • My husband and I did the same thing. We didn’t gain as much weight as you, but we just didn’t worry about what we ate and bought bigger clothes. We had a good laugh walking around in sweat pants more right after the baby because we didn’t have a lot of pants that fit anymore.

  • That does sound nice to just eat whatever you want and however you want and have a supportive spouse.

  • I come from an Italian-American background, and all the men in the family are overweight. My grandpa, my dad, my brothers all have big bellies, double chins and chubby hands.
    When my husband and I started dating, he came to a Christmas family meal. And he looked so skinny compared to my family. So on the way home I told him that if we get more serious, he’s going to need to put on some weight to fit in.
    The next Christmas, things were much more serious and he came again. My mom pulled me aside and told me he was too skinny for our family, and I needed to fatten him up.
    We got engaged that New Year’s Eve. A few weeks later I told him what my mom said about fattening him up. He said that was OK if he would get along with my family better.
    Over the next year, I overfed him and watched his belly grow. By the time we went back for Christmas, everyone noticed his fatter face and growing belly. He had probably gained 35 pounds. When we came through the door, my mom threw her arms around him, told him he looked healthy while jiggling his new belly and kissing his chubbier face. He was a little embarrassed at first, but he told me it felt good to feel so accepted in our family. And he did look much more like a fattened Lozano man this time than ever before. It made me happy.

  • That’s super sweet that he was willing to get fat to be part of your family!!

  • It does make us women happy to see a fattened and content man.

  • My boyfriend has piled the weight on since moving in with me 2 years ago after discovering I was pregnant. I have always struggled with my weight and weighed 19 stone when he moved in, but he never had any issues with his weight. The thing is I have surprised myself in embracing has weight gain and am actually enjoying it lol.

  • How much did he gain?

  • He has gained over 5 stone going from 10 stone to 15 stone 7 pounds. A lot of that gain was when he initially moved in with me and during my pregnancy. He has tried to loose weight but has struggled so far. My weight has settled at 21 stone after my first pregnancy, but I have just found out we are pregnant with our 2nd child, so more weight gain lies ahead.

  • 21 stone is fairly big already (almost 300 lbs.), so don’t go overboard.

  • I gained 56 lbs last time and reduced my weight to 294. Darling boyfriend has gone up from 140lbs to 220 in 2 years and hasn’t managed to loose any.

  • It probably feels good to feel that you two look more similar in size now that he’s put on weight.

  • Yes, his weight gain has increased my confidence.

  • Why has it increased your confidence?

  • I was always the fat one in the relationship and that frustrated me a lot. Now that I see him develop a weight problem and become increasingly overweight I feel good about it.

  • I was 250 when we got married and my husband was 180. I didn’t like being the fat one so I started over feeding my hubby and cutting my portion size and exercising. After 5 years, he weighs 320 pounds and I am 160. He is fat and happy and I love feeling tiny compared to him. His big belly is so sexy!

  • That is some turnaround in weight! Congrats! How does he feel?

  • Oh, you mean he just looks more similar to your body type so it’s not such a stark difference as you spend time together in public. Make sense.

  • Wow so many comments in here from women who's husbands blew up! I knew it was common but it's interesting to see the different views between those who love it vs those who hate it.

    I personally love it. I was always into lean/athletic builds, which was my husband's shape originally. Then he put on a lot of weight at once due to an injury, and I couldn't believe how hot I found it. From then on he continued to relax his workout and diet, and I got into the weight gain.. Now he hovers at about 240 (he was 180 when we met in college).

  • Most are from men who are masturbating, as I suspect the original post was, sorry...you can just tell.

  • Thank you for posting this. It makes me feel good to see other women struggle (or enjoy) a weight with their man. I personally like mine fatter! 😋

  • I think this post is very sweet! I hope my husband will still love me as my body gets older and changes. Thanks for sharing!!! ☺️

  • Thank you for sharing! I thought I was the only one who liked her man fattened!! 🙂

  • Hubby fattening is so important for a stable relationship. Studies show that couples where the husband is fatter are happier, and it has certainly worked for me. Now that my hubby has a nice big belly he is content, we rarely fight, and the s e x is great. Very wife should plan on fattening her husband up by 50 pounds or more.

  • A homemade teddy bear!

  • Lol. How much weight have you packed on your man? What does he weigh now?

  • Probably 65-70 pounds. He was about 175 when we started dating. No belly. No double chin. He’s almost 250 now, with a nice, chubby belly and a chubby face.

  • How much weight have you put on hubby? What does he weigh now?

  • Were you surprised that you liked him fatter at first?

  • Yes! I never had a thing for bigger men before. But ever since he gained weight I slowly changed to finding thicker men more attractive in general.

  • How big do you prefer your husband to be?

  • I think between 230 and 240 is a great weight on him. Beyond that he starts to look noticeably fat, as opposed to just chubby / beefy. Plus the other negatives with 250+ start to counter the attraction.

  • How did you tell him? My husband is putting on weight, but he’s really sensitive about it because he lost a lot of weight before we started dating. I’m not sure how to tell him it’s OK to be a little fatter.

  • At first I tried to reassure him that the weight suited him, but I think he just assumed I was saying that to be kind. Then one morning he was feeling particularly frustrated (having struggled to button his work pants), so I sat him down and told him seriously that I found his bigger size very attractive. And from then I made sure to cuddle up to his pudgy areas and show him extra love. After a while he started to relax and get more comfortable.

    I think just make sure to keep reassuring him that you still find him attractive, and even tell him that you like his new size (even if that's not entirely true for you). Part of my husband's worry was that he was failing me somehow, or letting me down by letting himself go, which simply wasn't the case.

  • For me personally, it was learning to be OK with his extra fat. Once I got over being embarrassed about having an overweight husband, I could actually appreciate his new body. At that point I started to look at it differently and became attracted to his bigger version.

  • When did you realize you were liking his weight gain?

  • Probably the first time I noticed his clothes getting tighter. There was something sexy about seeing him get too big for his old pants & smaller shirts.

  • When my husband just had a little belly starting, I used to ask him to reach for things on top shelves so his shirt would slide up and reveal his new pudge. I always liked that.

  • 🙂 + 😚 + 😍

  • Did he keep his skinny clothes?

  • I threw my hubby’s skinny clothes away after putting 100 pounds on him. This stopped his weight loss talk. He has accepted being a fat man, and knows he is only going to get fatter.

  • Not many of them, apart from his more expensive suits and shirts (just in case he loses the weight.. although that's not likely at this point)

  • How did he take it when you told him you liked him fatter?

  • Well he couldn't help the first 20 lbs because of his injury, so when I said I found the new weight attractive he was relieved more than anything. After that I always cuddled into his 'soft areas', making it clear I was into the chub, and he continued to eat big and put the pounds on. He doesn't want to gain past 250, and sometimes reminds me not to overfeed him (I do all the cooking), but is happy being a chubby hubby.

  • Very clever way to keep his weight going up!

  • Totally get that! I love my husband’s new big and chubby belly. I find it cute and sexy, and I love to grab it, touch it, poke it, rub it, etc. He used to be so lean, but his belly is comforting to me now. Like he’s not trying to get other women’s attention.

  • Oh, yes. Nothing to beat taking a lean man away from the clutches of his mother, marrying him and putting a big belly on him. They will eat anything you put in front of them to please you in the first few years of marriage. My husband used to be lean too but I have secretly like larger men!

  • It does seem that if a man gains weight, it is quick and it is in the first few years of marriage.

  • Very much so

  • If you don't mind me asking, why do you ladies like your husbands big? I'm just curious, as a man who tries very hard to stay in shape :) Do they know you're making them fat?

  • About 20 pounds in my boyfriend asked me if I was making him fat on purpose. I said, “Yes, of course, dear.” He looked at his plate and said, “OK, I guess.” And then he packed on another 20 pounds before he asked me to marry him. He looked nice and plump in his tuxedo. 😘

  • Congrats, you put a belly on you man before you married him lol. Has he continued to gain?

  • I figured being honest and upfront about wanting him a little fat was the nicest way to do it. He’s a sweetheart. ❤️

  • I’m the post 2 above. I have always loved larger men. Hubby didn’t realise I was making him fat he was so naive he just sleepwalked into a getting a big belly lol. He now purrs like a cat when I rub it at night.

  • When we got engaged, I told him I wanted him to gain some weight for the wedding. So he gained 20 pounds. On the honeymoon, I told him to relax and enjoy himself. He gained another 10 pounds. When we got home, I told him I liked his weight gain and asked if he would gain anymore for me. He then put on another 20 pounds. By our anniversary, he was 50 pounds heavier. I loved it! 💗

  • That’s a good gain and I’m glad you enjoy it lol. Do you have a target weight for him?

  • I’m OK with where he is. He doesn’t look fat with his clothes off, but he definitely has a belly when he takes his shirt off. I would be OK if he got up to about 235, I think.

  • You’ll probably have a million different answers since women all think a little differently, but I think the main theme will probably be that companionship is more important than appearance. Me personally, I just find that skinny guys are generally more self-absorbed than bigger guys. Maybe it’s because the bigger you are, the more you feel you have to compensate in other areas, so you are nicer, sweeter, etc. Or maybe bigger guys are less vain. Not really sure.

  • I have a fat fetish. I like it. I like men to get fatter when they are with me. I like to see their belly grow. I like to be the reason their belly is growing. It’s all fun for me.

  • I’m just kinda into fat guys. I always have been. I just like them and find their bodies powerful and attractive. Usually when I start dating a guy, I warn him that he will probably gain weight. And he always say it’s OK. And he always gain weight with me as his girlfriend.

  • Ummmm, for me it’s a couple things. I just like to seem him happy. And let’s be honest, we are all happier when we are full and eating the foods we love! So if being a little chubby is the result of him loving what he eats, then that is fine with me. Secondly, it’s kind of cute to see him aging and looking older, gray hair in his beard or in his hair, a double chin developing, a small belly hanging over his belt, etc. It is fun to reminisce about the younger days, but it’s also enjoyable to grow old with someone and change. Lastly, it’s something to get the mood going. Whether I’m laying on him, rubbing his belly, tickling his belly, grabbing his belly, etc. touching his new tummy is usually part of starting something more fun...

  • Happy to answer that as well :) (I'm the first poster, who's hubby hovers around 240). I personally don't think as much about the 'nesting' aspect / being more emotionally drawn to his size as a symbol of settling down (though maybe it plays a subconscious role). I just find his beefier body really attractive. He looks more manly to me (bigger, wider, takes up more room, eats what he wants etc), like a bull. And I suppose (like the other person said) there's an element of pride / satisfaction in knowing that he got big and beefy because of you.

    To answer your other Q -- he knows I like him bigger, which is part of the reason he's so carefree about his food and portions. He doesn't want to gain past 250, but so long he's healthy below that, he's happy being a chubby hubby.

  • Just speaking for myself, it’s physical and emotional.
    Physically, I think the average woman is into a lean size and shape. Strength. Power. That kind of thing. I am, too. But getting into a relationship with a man, and changing together and becoming closer, his actually physical fitness is much less important as the relationship builds. I’m now drawn into him emotionally.
    At that point, the pounds coming on his frame are reassuring, which makes me care about him even more. It’s like the physical manifestation that he is comfortable, happy and isn’t interested in “catching” another woman is his waistline getting bigger. The bigger his belly becomes, the more I feel secure in my relationship with him. The more secure I feel, the more love and care I want to invest in the relationship.
    So, when I see a nice, squishy, fat tummy, it represents love and care for me as his partner. Especially if he’s gotten fatter while being with me because I know I put that belly on him.
    I know some other women are just into that physical look. Like a guy might be into blondes, butts, long legs or tattoos. She’s just into husky, fatter men. It’s just a personal preference.
    I know some other women who have dated around and say that bigger boys are always kinder, more caring and are more sensitive in their relationships than men who are gym rats. Not sure exactly why, but they said it’s a fairly constant theme in the men they have dated.
    Hope that makes sense!

  • Happy Father’s Day to my fat husband. He didn’t lose any baby weight between each pregnancy, so now he’s 70 pounds overweight after four kids. And I was the one who was pregnant. Not a huge fan of his big belly, but he is a great dad.

  • My husband gained weight with my pregnancies as well lol but not as much as your husband. He has now lost some of the weight on his tummy by doing sit ups as he had never had a tummy before. If I were you I would gently encourage him to do something similar as a five stone weight gain is quite a lot ☺️

  • Did you like when your husband put on weight?

  • Not so much. He has a small frame and if he gains weight it settles on his tummy. He still has a bit of a tummy but I’m trying to control it at present.

  • I met and married an Englishman 5 years ago and we moved to the USA as it is where I am originally from. Early in the marriage he cheated on me and being religious I decided to forgive him. But I did not forgive his waistline. To say I put a belly on him is an understatement, with the aid of my mother and good old fashioned American cooking we have more than doubled his weight in 4 years. He was not used to the big portions and fried food from where I come from. He now sports a double belly and has had to give up golf as it was affecting his swing.

  • I guess the question for many women is whether you wait until the need arises or whether you nip those tendencies to cheat in the bud from day one. Especially if you can see his appetite is going to blimp him up in a couple years anyway. Maybe better him as your fat hubby now than watching his waist spill out later with someone else patting his paunch.

  • My thoughts exactly. Men are inherently unfaithful because of how physical their attractions are, so you’re better off putting a belly on him fast to signal to other women that your fatty is already taken.

  • Exactly. Between wedding planning and the honeymoon, it’s easy to put get a husband to put on the first 25 pounds. Then you reassure him that the weight gain looks good on him and increase his portion size. By the first anniversary he’ll be at least 50 pounds heavier. Goal achieved!

  • Very kind of you. Many women might have left. But instead you helped him realize how good he has it with your homecooking, and in the process, you also helped ease him into a different body type that will keep the temptation at bay.

  • Seems like he got what he deserved. I’m sure his fat belly prevents any interest from mistresses these days.

  • Yea. I’m not sure his elasticated pants and back support girdle he now has to wear would impress many aspiring mistresses!

  • My wife has gained a significant amount of weight over the last couple years and is now considered obese by a BMI chart, but I love her new size and how she feels. I don’t want her to lose any weight at all!

  • I lot of men feel like you do and wish their wives would get bigger. How much has she gained and what weight is she now?

  • She was 110 pounds when we started dating and about 5’5. Very slim body. Now she is about 180 pounds and we are married. She gained that weight in about five years. She’s filled out a lot and is very curvy and a little pudgy in some areas, which is wonderful. Very sexy.

  • I've seen several techies get supa fat right after getting married. It dawns on me that some of the best coders I know, and also the fattest, and least neurotic, and still married I might add, happen to be ones that married nurturing types.

    Being skinny was pointless for them anyway when their most physically demanding task was counting all the zeroes in their paycheck. But with a wifey taking care of them and making sure they never missed a meal, their waist got pillowy soft but it allowed them to focus on a razor sharp tech game.

    I'm suspect their wives were quite content with a dough boy figure bringing in six figures of dough.

  • I’ve watched my husband get fat on me. He used to be so slim, now he has a big, hanging guy over his belt and a double chin. I’m not as attracted to his fat version.

  • How much has he put on and how much does he weigh now. Was it over a period of time. Maybe he has just got comfortable in the marriage.

  • About 60 pounds in three years. He weights about 250 pounds now.

  • It depends on his height but that’s a large weight gain. Have you considered putting him on a strict diet?

  • We haven’t really talked about how fat he’s become. I probably should, or it’s going to come out in a big way someday and I will blow up about it. I’m just very frustrated.

  • Yea keep an eye on it. It’s what I should have done. my husband has gone from just over 9 stone to 21 stone in 6 years and he is still under 30!

  • How did he put on that much weight?

  • I was an already large woman who weighted 24 stone when we got married. I think he has got comfortable in the marriage and has adapted my bad eating habits. I Love to cook and bake and enjoy takeaway food. I have gained 4 stone since the marriage but not to the extent he has.

  • You guys plan on losing any weight together?

  • I’ve always been fat so I have no plans to. I am enjoying hubby’s weight gain but I wouldn’t want him to gain too much more. I enjoy rubbing his big belly too much lol

  • Sounds nice! How’s he feel about his big belly, though?

  • He found it difficult to accept it at such a young age but I think he has got used to it lol

  • I feel like society has recently shifted to glorifying fatness, fat people, a fat lifestyle, plus-size models, etc. and is making it feel like being overweight is acceptable. This post is evidence of what I’m talking about.
    Being overweight isn’t that healthy, but being obese or very obese is not healthy at all, which is what we are being told is now OK. I understand it can be difficult to maintain a healthy weight (I haven’t been perfect), but just because it’s hard doesn’t mean you pull a 180 and start glorifying being fat instead of trying to be fit.

  • A lot of guys don't know what to do with a flat belly anyway once they're married:
    - Post headless six pack photos on tinder? Very bad idea.
    - Impress the ladies at the beach? Sorry, not for sale anymore.
    - Squeeze into basketball shorts for a game? And when's the last time that actually happened?
    - Try out for mens' cheerleading? Too late for that!
    - Hide behind your wife when someone's bothering her? Another bad idea.
    - Seeing who can fill up on the most boring salad? No thanks!

    On the other hand, with a fat belly:
    - Provide a soft pillow on movie night? Sweet!
    - Extra room for homecooking or dinner and movie and a dessert or MIL's pie? Yum!
    - Letting her get lost in a teddy bear hug after she's had a rough day? This is why she loves you!
    - Matching bumps when wifey's pregnant? How thoughtful!
    - Matching the other daddy beer guts watching the game? Who knows .. if you're kind to a good cook and host, she might make you into CEO of game night!
    - Fitting into a big enough hoodie that she can share when she happens to relax a bit too? How generous!
    - Keeping the hoes from hitting on you as much when you're tempted? Thank you belly!
    - Looking like a grizzly bear when someone's bothering her? You the man!
    - Being a little more understanding and not making her so self-conscious when that baby weight sticks around? You're a keeper!
    - Not making her feel like she's going to break you? More cushin for the pushin? Lasting longer? Yes! Yes! YES!

  • Matching baby bumps?!! Ha ha ha!!!

  • I’m tiny and my boyfriend is chubby and I like it for all the reasons you just explained, especially movie night and the teddy bear! 🍿 🧸

  • Well, there be pluses and minus, my friend .
    If you stay skinny, you can run away when she try to smack you for hiding behind her in a kerfuffle.
    If you stay skinny, you can impress her in the bedroom and threaten to woo other chicks with your six pack if she don't drop the baby weight pronto.
    If you stay skinny, your mother in law will be less likely to eat you, in case she's really only feeding you cause she's a witch.
    If you stay skinny, you got a better chance of swinging to someone 30 years younger when she get old.
    If you stay skinny, you can fit into her clothes instead of her only wearing yours. More free clothes bro!
    If you stay skinny, you won't need much food anyway when she gets mad at you and refuses to cook.
    And if you stay skinny, when she kick you out the door, you can squeeze back in thru the window!

  • My husband is getting fat, too, but unlike you, I’m not liking it at all. He used to be so fit and cut with a nice, manly chin line. He now is looking more like his dad, big all around with a double chin. He’s probably gained 50 pounds, so he isn’t extremely big, but he definitely has a pot belly now, softer chest with a chubbier face and double chin. I haven’t been into the changes at all, but I don’t want to tell him that. He’s still an amazing husband and father, just a fatter one now. Am I wrong for not liking this new version of him?

  • That pot belly will get a lot bigger unless you address it. Men gain most weight on their tummy’s believe me from experience. Sounds like he has got comfortable in the marriage.

  • How do I address it? Any advice for me?

  • Firstly are you serious about addressing it?. If you are I would reduce his food intake by putting him on a low calorie diet. He will loose weight off his chin and face but it’s hard getting rid of a pot belly once it has formed. Sit ups and lying on his back and bringing his knees up should help with that.

  • I like the idea he’s getting fat because he wants to stay with me, but I’m concerned because I’m not attracted to it. So, on one hand it’s kind of sweet. On the other hand, I’m just not into it physically. Not sure what to do.

  • Its a hard call but he will continue to gain if he thinks you don’t mind. My husband has gained over 100 pounds in quite a short time.

  • Do you like how he looks bigger? My problem is I’m not really attracted to him when he looks like this.

  • Wow! 😳 What happened?! Did you help him gain that much weight?

  • I overheard him making fun of my weight to his mother so I started over feeding him! It was quite easy as he is in his late 30s and the weight went on him quickly.

  • How quickly did he put on the weight? And what did he think about that?

  • Just under 2 years of over feeding him. He is not too happy about it but he has become greedy and loves his food too much.

  • This is such a brilliant solution!! You always hear people moaning about "how could someone let themselves go". Well, show them how easy it is. They'll figure it out when they can't see their toes either :)

  • Lol! I have blew hubby up to just over 20 stone!

  • I was already a bit of a fat guy when I got married at 250 lbs. and 6 feet tall. My wife was 120 lbs. and is 5’5 feet tall when we were engaged, very slim physique. Her mother warned her to not adopt my eating habits when we got engaged.
    Well, three months into our marriage, my wife gains about 20 lbs. just from the honeymoon and newlywed life. We just spent a lot of time enjoying each other and relaxing, and of course, eating. I also gained 20 lbs.
    About a year later, we find out we are pregnant and we are so excited. By then she had put on another 10 lbs., so she was probably 150 lbs. when we found out we were going to have a baby.
    Throughout the pregnancy, I gained another 20 lbs. and she gained 70-80 lbs. She looked amazing. She was about 225 lbs. with a sexy pregnant belly and massive b******. She was so big and heavy that it was difficult on her body. Just 15 months before, she was almost half that size. Now, she was this big, beautiful mother-to-be, and she looked amazing.
    She had a great delivery and started trying to get her body back, but got injured because she wasn’t used to exercising at that weight. She rolled her ankle and had to take three months off. And with that three months off, not only did she not lose any weight, but she gained 10 more lbs. So after the weight gain, delivery of the baby, losing a little weight and then gaining 10 lbs., she was about 205 lbs.
    When we married, she was 120 lbs. and super sexy. Now, she is 205 lbs. and I like how she looks even more. I didn’t think I would be into her weight gain and new body, but I love it. She’s so curvy and sexy. And she says she loves my chubby body, too.

  • Wow! Wow! Wow! She blew up like a balloon! But I’m glad you like her bigger size.

  • That is some weight gain in a short space of time. Hardly surprising given you height and starting weight differences she probably got used to your portion sizes. How much do you weigh now?

  • She is 205 lbs. and I’m 295 lbs.

  • What does your wife think of her new weight and what does her mum think of her daughter nearly doubling her weight?

  • Her mother is surprised because my wife has always been so skinny, but she’s been supportive. She’s a little concerned for her health, but she has a husband so her mother isn’t worried about her relationship and ability to attract a partner.
    It was hard n my wife at first. She’s never been this big. She is coming to terms with her new body and what it means she can and can’t do anymore. I still think she’s beautiful.

  • Get her a new wardrobe with cute clothes. It’s hard getting fat and then not having clothes you like anymore.

  • That’s some weight gain in a short time. She has nearly doubled her weight. What do you weigh now?

  • Last time I got on the scale was a couple months ago and the scale said 295 lbs. back then. It could be 300 lbs. by now. Not really sure.
    Yea, it was almost doubling her weight, and she wasn’t used to carrying that much weight. She rolled her ankle doing an exercise she used to do when she was 120 lbs., not almost 200 lbs.

  • 300 pounds at only 6 feet tall is fairly fat.

  • What do you like about her being so big now?

  • I like her overall figure. Everything is bigger and softer and curvier. Her cup size went up a couple sizes. Her butt got bigger and her thighs were bigger. She developed a belly. It all looks really good on her.

  • I’ve read your post and some of the comments below. Frankly, you people are killing your significant others slowly. They are at increased risk levels for all sorts of medical issues that will prematurely end their life. And then you’ll have to pay extra for the “fat casket” to stick them in the ground when they are buried.

  • That’s pretty harsh! I’m guessing you’re a skinny Karen who has her life all put together nice and fine. Let people live their lives. You have nothing to do with how fat or skinny people want to be. You don’t have to be the boss of everyone.

  • My wife is a good cook, and I have little time for myself with a demanding job. Because of that, I’ve gained about 40 lbs. in the last two years. I noticed my wife was buying less of the food I like and serving me smaller portions of healthier food. She often invited me to go to the gym with her, but usually I am so tired that I don’t take her up on the offer. She was also initiating intimacy less and rebuffing my advances about two thirds of the time.
    Then one night, she invited me to the gym and I told her I was too tired and she blew up at me. She said she wasn’t attracted to the “fat” version of me at all, that she could barely stand looking at my body naked and wanted me to lose all the extra weight plus lose a little bit more and get more muscles. She said she wasn’t interested in s** anymore until things changed with my body and I started slimming down. She was going to start taking separate showers because she didn’t want to see me without clothes on.
    It was hard to hear. I’ve tried to lose some of the weight, but I haven’t made much progress. And she has definitely not been interested in any intimacy since she yelled at me. I’m in a difficult spot. I feel like I’m a fat guy losing his marriage.

  • I’m sorry to hear that, man. It’s messed up for her to treat your fat butt that way. What are you going to do?

  • It can be a tricky spot. I was worried when I started putting on a few pounds, because my wife liked buff guys as I used to be. but then I noticed my she was springing for desserts a little more often too. I was quick to bring out the ice cream when she asked, and never discouraged her from a steak. Now that we've both climbed the scale, it's been a relief. I dare say she's hinted at some relief that I'm matching her as well.

  • How much weight did you gain?

  • Sounds like you both have gained a little weight. What did that do to your relationship?

  • How much have you both gained?

  • I’m a big guy now. I wasn’t before meeting my wife. But after we were married, she told me that she would prefer me at a heavier weight and asked me to gain 20-30 pounds for her. I was a little hesitant, but she made it enjoyable by fixing me my favorite meals and desserts. I’m now about 250 pounds with a big stomach and double chin, but she treats me like a king. I can’t complain too much.

  • How do you feel about being fat?

  • If you were 220 already, sounds like you were already kinda fat. She just pushed you along to your true potential!

  • You sound like you’re sexy for her. Lucky girl!

  • When I married my husband 18 months ago I was 350lbs and he was 140. Now I am 280 lbs and he is 320lbs! Most of his gain is on his belly lol. His mother is not too happy with me lol

  • Do you enjoy having your husband bigger than you? My hubby was also skinny when we were first married and now that I have fattened him up and slimmed down I feel so much more secure.

  • I love him being fat, and getting fatter by the day. I also feel more secure. What have you fattened hubby up to from starting weight?

  • I fattened my hubby up from 150 to 250 in three years. I was 220 when we married, but I didn’t like being big so I have slimmed down to 170. I love the contrast between His growing belly and my shrinking one. I’d like to lose another 30 pounds and have him find it, so I’d be 140 and he’d be twice my size at 280.

  • Oh, Wow! 😳

  • He has piled on the weight with me lol

  • Yea mostly on his belly lol

  • Sounds good. If you date a big girl and don't let her fatten you up, I think you're really missing out on one of the best parts. Most really know their way around the kitchen, so it can be an experience like no other, and most won't give you a hard time when you end up displaying their delicious talent around your newly jiggling waist. Some might even be proud!

  • As long as the extra waist line coincides with some extra lovin’!

  • His weight gain has restricted things in the bedroom as most of his weight gain has settled on his tummy lol. He doesn’t have as much energy anymore but we manage, I just have to do the extra work lol

  • Even though the bedroom might require a little extra creativity, it seems like lots of other things would get easier now that you've helped him become fat too. He can relate more when you want to take a break on a long walk or your feet hurt. He won't do annoying things like grabbing a tight booth when you go to a restaurant. He'll be more empathetic about tough comments from others. He will understand and connect with the woman he loves in a deeper way than he ever could when he was skinny.

  • I think all that is very true. When one spouse starts to gain weight, they usually feel more empathy for the other person.

  • Do you like that his tummy is too fat now?

  • I don’t mind I’m in love with him. He has gone from a flat tummy to a big solid hanging belly now. That what happens a lot of the time when a skinny man marries a fat woman.

  • That’s a big difference.

  • It sure is and it will be hard to shift if he ever decides to lose weight

  • Do you like that he has a hanging belly now?

  • I don’t mind it since I’m partly responsible for putting it there. I just wish he had put it on all over.

  • It has made thinks tricky in the bedroom that’s for sure lol

  • Is that sad for you?

  • No cause it’s mostly my fault being a larger woman who enjoys cooking and he has become used to the rich food I enjoy and the larger portions. He is happy.

  • He sounds like a big boy! Congrats on the weight loss (and the weight gain)!!

  • How did you lose the weight? How much weight do you want to lose?

  • Slimming club diet and exercise. Would like to get down to 220.

  • You’ve been doing so well with your weight loss. Just keep it up and you’ll be 220 before you know it, and your hubby will be a 400 pounder!

  • That seems like a good goal. What about him?

  • He has no interest. He has never had to diet or exercise in his life. He loves my cooking too much lol

  • Sounds like he had no interest in remaining a thin man. With some men, the way to their heart is through their stomach and they know it. He was probably ready from the start to ditch his boyish waistline for fine cooking in a second! I know I would! And your sweetheart already being fat makes it all the easier to level up and join her.

  • Yea, my husband being skinny is a distant memory that’s for sure at 26.

  • He is a big boy Lol and gaining quickly! He has become addicted to my home cooking and his portion sizes are double than Before he got married

  • Are you worried he’s getting too big?

  • Yes because his mother is blaming me cause he married a large lady! I am in my 30’s and he is only 26 so my friends are astonished at his weight gain.

  • What did your friends say?

  • They were amazed how quickly he put the weight on from us getting married! How his eating habits changed and his increased appetite. He put on 30 pounds on our 3 week honeymoon. They find it quite funny that he now weighs more than me

  • 30 pounds in 3 weeks?!

  • Yes it was a three week cruise lol

  • Did you gain anything on the cruise?

  • I gained 20 pounds bringing me up to 370. He came home with a 30 pound weight gain and a new belly. That was the start of his large weight gain.

  • That's really quick!! He had to either be trying his best to catch up to you or you are a legendary cook and he loved the food. Either way it sounds like he got just what he wanted!

  • I do worry about his gain but he is happy. I think he would struggle to lose weight as he has been skinny all his life and doesn’t do the gym. All my family circle are big eaters which doesn’t help.

  • Does he ever complain about being that fat?

  • No. That’s just say he has adapted to his new size lol. It was always on the cards marrying a 350 pound woman who loves to cook. It’s just I didn’t expect to happen so fast.

  • Do you have plans for either of you to lose weight?

  • I have reduced my weight from 350 down to 280. I think hubby is happy and would struggle to lose his extra weight as he enjoys his food too much now lol. I have increased his appetite quite a bit since marriage lol

  • I have also weight while my husband has plumped up. He is 100 pounds heavier than me now. He will continue to gain and I’m going to lose more weight with a goal of seeing him be double my weight.

  • Well, don’t feed him too much. That’s a lot of weight in a little time. You want him around for a long time.

  • I want to put him on a diet now as his belly is getting in the way lol

  • Yes u r right! I will try to put him on a diet as his belly is getting in the way lol

  • Getting in the way of is everyday life or getting in the way in the bedroom?

  • Both lol! He’s more laid back now. Let’s just say he has slowed down in the bedroom department lol. Missionary is no longer possible!

  • Why do you feel guilty if you both like it?

  • I think because the bigger he gets, the more attracted I am to him. So I’m not encouraging him to lose any weight. And he’s obviously less healthy now than he used to be. I think that’s why I feel guilty.

  • I’ve been dating my girlfriend for three years and she’s probably gained 30 lbs. during that time. And she looks amazing! The extra weight looks so good on her.

  • My wife consistently goes up and down in weight like a yo-yo. Every couple years, she will gain 30 pounds in six months, get upset, then lose 20-25 pounds of her gain in six months (and keep about 5-10 pounds). She’s done that for the last ten years. At this point, she’s probably about 40-50 heavier than when we married since she doesn’t always lose all the weight all the time. I don’t mind the extra weight (I actually think she looks better at her heavier weights), but the cycling can get emotionally exhausting for me because she gets depressed when she gains and she’s a zealot when she’s trying to lose (and that also affects the food I get to eat).

  • My boyfriend is getting fat on me!! He’s not working out as much because of Coronavirus, and so he’s spending a lot more time watching Netflix and snacking on the couch. He’s probably gained 20 lbs. over the last three months and his belly is definitely bigger, rounder and sticking out now. It’s kinda cute on him! 🥰

  • That’s a good gain for 3 months lol

  • I wish my bf would put on 20 lbs. of belly for me. It sounds cute and cuddly.

  • Just feed him bigger portions and takeaways it will soon pile on lol

  • Yea, he’s definitely fattening up on me quickly. 😍

  • As long as you are happy with it!

  • I’m loving his new shape!! 💕

  • Do you want him to gain more? 😊

  • I’m not sure. He’s always been so skinny. But I’ve liked the first 20 extra lbs., so I would be up for another 20 lbs. and see how that looks on him.

  • I think 40 pounds on his tummy would look good on him lol

  • 40 pounds is a big gain especially if it goes on his tummy! He will find that very hard to lose. Men find it hard to shift tummy weight lol

  • Yeah, if it gets too big, your guy might decide he's better off becoming a hubby to a girl that loves him rather than ever trying to shift that lump :)

  • That’s what my girlfriend is doing, but if I’m honest, I like how she looks a little fatter. The extra 15ish lbs. look good on her. Not sure how she would take that, though.

  • She might like to know that you enjoy her weight gain and that you don’t mind that she put on weight. It might take pressure off her to feel she has to be a certain size for you.

  • My husband has gotten fairly large, especially in his stomach. We often joke and say he has a belly only a wife could love. And that’s probably true.

  • Has he gained much? My husband has ballooned since lockdown.

  • Ha ha! That’s funny.

  • I’ve really loved watching my husband fatten up on me. It makes me feel secure in our relationship, that he is happy enough to relax and enjoy being with me. His new belly is comforting.

  • I feel like this, too! I love my fattened husband!

  • I really like your perspective. Thank you for sharing that. ❤️

  • Love this post! 💗

  • I wouldn’t say I intentionally made my husband fat, but I didn’t stop it. He likes my cooking and I like him to be happy. The natural result was some weight gain on his tummy. I don’t know if I prefer him fat, but I don’t mind how he looks and feels. More to cuddle on now!

  • How much did he gain

  • About 50-60 lbs. of love! 💗

  • Impressive! You must be a good cook and so he will continue to gain 😊

  • That’s some gain lol

  • Yea, but we are both happy in our relationship. His belly doesn’t get in the way of that! 💕

  • I did intentionally make my husband fat. I’ve always been more attracted to a huskier body type, and he was stick skinny when we started dating. Ten years later, he’s a husky boy and turns me on! 😍

  • Yep, as long as you love the inside, the outside is usually "adjustable"

  • Me, too. I didn’t actively encourage a weight gain, but it has just come with living a busy life. I would say he has put on so much weight that my husband now looks like he’s about six months pregnant.

  • That sounds like a big gain lol

  • Yes, this happens. My once-skinny husband now has size B moobs and a belly that sticks out like he’s six months preggo.

  • How much does he weigh now lol

  • About 265 lbs.

  • How much did he weight when he was skinny

  • 165-175 lbs.

  • Wow that’s a hundred pound gain! You must be a good cook lol. How long did it take him to gain the weight?

  • About five years. His belly and moobs have definitely grown by gaining 100 pounds in five years.

  • That’s impressive! That’s 20 pounds a year. He will be soon 280. Do you worry about that? Have you gained any

  • I do worry about his back hurting because of how big his belly is getting. And I don’t really want his moobs to get bigger. He’s going to need a sports bra if they do. I’ve probably gained about 20 pounds since we’ve been together.

  • Yea, my hubby is the same. He has now developed a bad back due to his belly weight and as he is in his late thirties has struggled to lose any weight. He also has sizeable moobs which would be hard to lose. How old is your hubby?

  • Getting a good solid bed for back support with maybe a layer of memory foam to ease the joints is good. Maybe turmeric supplements for joints too. A lot of people have this attitude that they're going to lose the weight any minute, so they don't need to bother accommodating it. Or worse, they subconsciously want to punish themselves. They have to realize than in your 30's and 40's, the fat is VERY likely there to stay. They might drop 20 lbs to post a few pics online, but it will soon pile back. If you've got an inner foodie, like many of us, and love a good cook, your belly is probably just warming up.

    Instead, treat the fat right. Get the right chairs and beds. Take turmeric or pomegranate or whatever helps you feel right. Get clothes you can feel confident in. There are creams if stretchmarks or folds are bothering you.
    Don't skip the family photos. Be proud. Better to be fat and happy today, than to needlessly put joy on hold.

  • Almost 40.

  • Love the comment about the sports bra lol

  • Has he gained much?

  • About 45 pounds. All fat. No muscle gain. It’s gone straight to his face, moobs and belly.

  • How do you feel about his gain?

  • He will find that hard to lose lol. My hubby has gained 180 lbs in 5 years of marriage lol

  • Wow!! How?!!

  • He married a large woman and his appetite increased due to portion sizes lol mainly Italian cooking!

  • Yep! A husband will chubby up on you most of the time. My husband has had a pregnant belly for the last ten years.

  • Agree with you there! My husband has piled on the weight since marriage and very quickly!

  • Oh, my, I thought I was the only wife with a pregnant man!! Good to know I’m not the only one. His food baby looks to be about five months big right now...

  • My goodness! How much has he gained? He will find that hard to lose lol

  • About 50 pounds.

  • Are you happy with that? It will be hard to shift lol

  • I’m not sure if I’m happy about it. It’s definitely different. I kind of like s** better now with his big belly on me. Makes me feel closer to him.

  • Do you think he will gain more? My hubby’s belly has slowed him down in the bedroom!

  • Not sure. His belly has been fine so far with s**. It might be a problem if he gained more weight, though.

  • I have had to put hubby on a diet because his increasing belly was restricting things in the bedroom lol

  • I love my husband’s belly. Every few months, I measure it with a tape measure by bringing it around his back and measuring at his belly button. I started doing this when he complained about starting to gain weight because I wanted to show him his body wasn’t changing that much. But he has gained ten inches on his belly since I started measuring it a few years ago! His belly is so cute now!! 💕

  • 10 inches on a belly is a lot of extra belly!

  • 10 inches on a belly is some gain!

  • 10 inches is some gain lol

  • We are pregnant and my husband has been gaining weight like me. I’ve been measuring his belly each week and he’s gained six inches to my eight inches! That’s a lot of new belly!

  • How do you feel about his new fat?

  • It’s been cute so far to see him fatten up as I get bigger, but I’m not sure I want him to keep going.

  • Men find it hard to lose belly weight from experience!

  • Maybe I should tell him I want him to stop then. ✋🏻 🍩 🍰

  • Lol 😊

  • I let my husband eat whatever he wanted up until his belly started hanging over his belt. And that’s where I drew the line and put him on a diet to not get any bigger. I didn’t ask him to lose weight, but I told him I didn’t really prefer him to gain anymore.

  • Believe you me he will struggle to stick to his diet and gain more lol

  • My girlfriend is getting fat on me. She complains about it, but I think she looks better now. How do I convince her to quit worrying about her weight gain?

  • I’m not sure a woman will ever quit worrying about her weight gain. You can start by not saying she’s “getting fat” on you for starters. You can also compliment her a lot, help her shop for clothes, touch her a lot and show that you like her new size.

  • How much “fat” has she gained? (And maybe not saying she got fat on you can be a place to start...)

  • She’s gained 30 pounds in one year. From about 110 pounds to about 140 pounds. Even gain all around her body with a modest belly now.

  • I love my boyfriend’s fat belly!! 😍

  • If you're a girl who's attracted to fat, you've got it made. Skinny doesn't last, muscles go flabby, but fat hangs around for the long haul!

  • I didn’t think I was that kind of girl until I was in a relationship with a guy with a belly. But I like it now! I don’t care for him to ever lose it!!

  • My bf got fat on me with a big belly. I love jiggling his belly fat now as punishment for letting himself go.

  • That sounds kind of sexy. Are you sure it’s a punishment?

  • I would never intentionally help my husband get fat. Never.

  • I would intentionally do whatever my husband needed me to do for him, including getting him fat if he wants.

  • I think a lot of men subconsciously want to get fat in a marriage. A lot of are a bit restless and wild. We're torn between two worlds. There's this dating world we just left where an athletic body makes it easy to score a quick fling. But we also want to be faithful, good dads, and frankly enjoy some home cooking. There's a reason "dad bod" implies squishy. It's a physical manifestation of a change in priorities and goals.

    I suppose staying athletic would be healthier in theory, but if in reality, it means staying in shape to chase other chicks, that's maybe not so healthy, all things considered. Sure we should have enough willpower, but we're still human. Sometimes, we do need a little roundness, and maybe even want it, to be the man we want to be. And some of us need a little more than others to make the switch.

  • This person is probably right. It’s comforting to know you have a woman that wants you, wants to fatten you up and then wants to keep you still.

  • One day a few years ago my wife and I were talking about gaining weight during pregnancy and your body changing, getting bigger, etc. I made a comment that I wondered what it was like to get fat like that, and she said I could find out if I wanted to because she could help me gain weight. My wife said that she had always wondered how I looked at a heavier weight anyway and she wanted to see. I said that I wouldn’t mind gaining a little weight, so we decided to put some pounds on my frame. She said she wanted to go slowly so I didn’t get stretch marks, so she said she would shoot for 1-2 pounds a month and rub my stomach with belly butter to keep stretch marks off.
    The first year, I gained about 20 pounds. We both decided we wanted a little more.
    The second year, I gained another 15-20 pounds. I was ready to stop, but she wanted a little more belly on me.
    The third year, I gained another 15 pounds and told her I was ready to be done.
    By the end, I had gained 55 pounds and we both like it more. She likes how I look and feel as a fatter version of me. She is more affectionate with me now. I like my belly and having less pressure to stay in good shape. She’s a wonderful wife and takes great care of me and my appetite. It was worth it.

  • What made you agree to that?! 🧐

  • Why do you like being 55 lbs. heavier?

  • It’s less stress to try and maintain a heavier body. You don’t care about calories as much. People don’t really expect you to be fashionable when you have a big stomach. As a larger man, I look stronger now. My wife loves to hug me more and cuddle on me more.

  • What does she actually like about you being fat now?

  • She says she likes how my big stomach looks and feels. She puts her hands all over it now, which she didn’t do when I was skinny. She likes to cuddle on it and rub it. She says I look more like her own teddy bear now.

  • Well done, man. Do what works for your marriage. That’s the most important thing to consider.

  • I can’t believe you got FAT because your wife was curious about how you would look!!! You’re crazy! 🤪

  • I love her so much. I would do anything to make her happy. And gaining 55 pounds isn’t that bad.

  • My girlfriend has been gaining weight and she looks amazing! She was probably 110 pounds when we started dating and she’s now probably 140-150 pounds. She looks so good in yoga pants now that she has filled out more and the weight she has gained looks really good on her.

  • 30-40 pounds is a lot to gain during a relationship. How long have you been dating?

  • We’ve been dating for two years. Right before we started dating she had a bad breakup and worked out constantly to get over it. She lost about 20 pounds then and that was right before I met her. She said that was the skinniest she had been in 15 years. So she slowly gained back those 20 pounds while we were first dating. I told her I thought she looked better at the heavier weight, and she said she did miss her curvy body when she got down to 110. So I said maybe she should put on another 20 and see how she feels. And that’s exactly what she did, and I think she looks the best she has ever looked.

  • How does she feel about being fatter?

  • She’s not really fatter, so she doesn’t mind at all. I love the way she looks, and that’s all she really cares about. How can you be mad about being bigger than 110 pounds if your boyfriend loves how you look?

  • I don’t mind a little belly on my man. It can be cute and fun to cuddle with!! 🥰

  • My wife has been fattening me up for years. When we first met, I was a lean runner. Now, I’m a chubby couch potato, mostly thanks to her good cooking and desire to watch TV together. I’ve gained probably 50 lbs. since being with her.

  • How much did you gain?

  • 50 lbs. since being with her.

  • Good luck on the couch, McFatty!

  • Uber Eats here, sir. Mr. Chubby Couch Potato McFatty, your food is here! Ha ha! 🍔 🍟 🥤

  • That’s not very nice. 😢

  • LMAO! Wow! 😂

  • I came home from a work trip recently and my wife patted my stomach and said, “The work trip looks good on you.” I looked at her with a confused look on my face and she said, “I like you a little fatter. It’s OK.” I didn’t really know what she was talking about until I stepped on the scale and noticed I had gained 20 pounds over the last year. That night I asked her about how I should lose weight and she told me she liked my new tummy and didn’t want me to lose the weight. She said she would me rather gain 20 more pounds than lose the 20 pounds I had recently gained. I said that she must be kidding, and then she sauntered over to me, said she wasn’t kidding and shoved a cookie in my mouth. Game over.

  • Be careful, dude. Looks like she has plans to make you a fatty.

  • Did you like that she did that?

  • Ha ha! At least you realize you don’t have a chance against her! 😏

  • What did you think when she did that?

  • How much do you weigh?

  • I was about 210 lbs. Not super lean, but a BMI on the higher part of overweight. But I carry my weight well so 210 didn’t look fat. But 230 kind of does look fat. If I gained 20 more then I would be 250, and would probably look considerably different.

  • Are you going to let her keep shoving cookies in your moth until you are 250 lbs.? 🍪

  • I’ve fattened up a few men during my dating. They love my cooking and I love all their compliments and watching their bellies get nice and fat. They are cuter like that!! 😋

  • Are you fat too? So you feed em up to match? Or do you start out looking like a number 11 side-by-side and end up looking like a number 10 :)

  • I’m a curvy, plus-size woman. Not really big, but some extra weight. I’m a size 10-12, usually. But I usually gain 20 lbs. in the process of fattening up my man I’m with.

  • What’s your secret for their weight gain?

  • Food and love. I pamper them with the food they like, give them a lot of it, and love on them. They feel good, and I feel good. I don’t just fatten them up, they have a good time as that belly starts to grow and stick out, too!! 😍

  • How much do they usually gain lol

  • About fifty pounds.

  • Hehe, sounds you like mark them well. Good little reminder of fun times. Besides men who love food like that will be getting fat anyway someday. May as well give them a head start. If they repress their inner fat man too long, they run the risk of meeting up with a girl who won't like it when he eventually plops out. Nope, he can instead meet a girl who loves teddy bears or a BBW who will appreciate who they really are inside.

  • Love a man with a chubby, tubby belly. 💋

  • Are you seeing anyone right now?? If not, lets get to know each other!

    Here's my email cal9627@gmail.com

  • I’m seeing someone right now.

  • How much weight has he put on?

  • About fifty pounds. I love it! 👍🏻👍🏻

  • 50 pounds is a nice amount of “relationship weight”. It marks him as “taken” while not restricting activities too much. Just enough weight to make it hard to take off, but not too much.

  • My goodness! How long did it take you to fatten him up? He will certainly continue to gain lol

  • There is some satisfaction at looking at his belly getting bigger and softer and knowing you had something to do with that!!

  • There is a lot of satisfaction in fattening up your man!

  • My husband has grown into quite a big boy at this point. He has a big, round tummy these days. He looks a lot different that when I first met him, but I love him like crazy. And I’ve learned to love his chubby body. 😍

  • How much weight did he gain? Why?

  • My bf has gotten pretty chubby on me the last year. But he’s so sweet and nice to me, so I can live with a little extra belly on him.

  • An little extra belly can easily turn into a big belly which will be impossible to shift! Ask my boyfriend lol.

  • How much weight did you pack on him?

  • Be careful with that. They get even chubbier on you when they go from boyfriend to fiancé to husband. If he has some belly on him now, it’s only getting bigger the more serious your relationship gets.

  • I love my fat husband. I wouldn’t want him any other way. He’s fat and he’s mine.

  • How much has he put on?

  • Approximately 70-80 pounds. A lot in his belly.

  • What does hubby think of his new growing belly?

  • He didn’t love it at first, but I give him extra lovin’ now that he’s fat and he doesn’t mind that.

  • How much does he weigh now? Do you want him to gain more?

  • Almost 300 pounds. I don’t really want him to gain more weight. I’m fine with how fat he is right now. His weight is starting to affect his lifestyle, and I don’t want that. He can’t do some of the same things he used to be able to do, and he gets tired quicker.

  • 300lbs is a good weight on a man. I fattened mine up to 350lbs with my cooking lol

  • 350 sounds too fat.

  • Lol he carries it well, it’s only 25 stone

  • Wow that’s a lot of tummy weight! You must be feeding him well 😊

  • Yea, he has a large and round stomach now. Didn’t have that before.

  • I think you’ve taken him off the dating scene lol congrats. My husband has also gained a lot of weight

  • He’s my husband so he better be off the dating scene!

  • Lol my husband has put on 120 pounds in 2 years mostly on his belly

  • My hubby started putting on the pounds, especially in his tummy, and it started to bother me until one week a few years ago. That week, I was going to say something about his weight gain, but I noticed that he never had time for himself. He was always at work, helping me with a project or doing something with or for the kids. And that changed my perspective. I realized his weight gain was more about the available time he had, and I started to appreciate him more. He’s gained even more weight since then, but I now look at it differently and I’m happy that he works so hard for our family. I don’t mind his belly anymore.

  • That’s sweet! 💕

  • Yes, some of the best men (and women) spend so much time on others that their health starts slipping. Don’t hold that against him.

  • My husband started putting on weight early in our marriage. We went out one night with a few couples, and the conversation eventually turned to s** because we were all newly weds at the time. One of my husband’s friends asked me if I liked having s** more now that my husband had gained weight, and my face turned bright red because I was so embarrassed. I quickly made a joke to get the attention off of me, but it wasn’t nice or thoughtful. I said something like, “the s** is good when he doesn’t crush me with his belly and take my breath away in the wrong way.” Everyone started laughing except my husband, and I immediately felt horrible.
    Since then, I’ve tried to be more caring and thoughtful in my comments as he has continued to gain weight. He’s probably 70-80 pounds heavier than when we married. His belly is even bigger, but I make every effort to be supportive and continue to have intimate s** with him. I never want to feel again like I felt that night.

  • You’ll let him gain 80 lbs. just so he doesn’t feel bad about getting fat on yo