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My husband is getting fat
My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!
The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is **.
I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!
Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?
Maybe there is a difference, though, between deliberate weight gain and weight gain for reasons of just life and your life changing. For instance, purposely overeating to add weight to your body in a conscious way is different than maybe having less time to work on yourself because you have a toddler or a demanding job or you fight traffic each day for hours and you just don’t have the time to exercise like you once did (and you haven’t modified your eating habits well enough).
Hmm, but if it was about demanding jobs, traffic, and young families, then you'd expect New York City, LA, and Silicon Valley to be full of fatties. You'd expect more relaxed, laid back cities like Boise and many cities of the Southern US to be full of people dieting and exercising with all their free time. It seems almost the opposite. I agree it may not be fully intentional, but it seems like people aren't using free time to fuss about it either. There's a lot more acceptance and seizing the moment.
Yea. Good point. But NYC is all walkable. SoCal has a healthier vibe. Both places are fairly vain relative to other parts of the country, and therefore, stay in shape to keep up appearances. The South has a history of fatty meals, lower wages and it’s really hot and muggy there which means it’s not fun to exercise in. That’s why folks out West are usually in really fit shape - the weather is great for getting outdoors and getting exercise.
Sure, but again correlation does not equal causation. Is someone in SoCal auto-magically thinner? Or instead, perhaps the couple that says "hey honey, let's chill out and get fat AF together" wouldn't dream of moving to downtown New York and stuffing themselves into subways. Instead they move to Alabama to be near her mother-in-law, who proclaims "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" and doesn't let her daughter rest until her new hubby's tummy displays some undeniable proof that he's in love.
Or the slightly odd SoCal girl who tells her friends "I just dream of making someone fat and happy". She feels like she doesn't quite fit in, but she comes across someone online, who says he loves home cooking in Georgia, and they're now a featured couple on OkCupid.
People find each other more easily nowadays. Even international dating is taking off. I've heard one of the most common qualities western men look for internationally is "can she cook". So the Filipina who loves to cook chats with a guy in Florida who wants to get fat off of lumpia. She's happy, he's happy, and he's definitely going to get fat.
Whatever the reason, the obesity rate is 40% and growing. That's just too high to all be accidents.
Yea, maybe you are onto something. But I think it’s probably less self-conscious than some of those scenarios. Or maybe conscious, but don’t care enough to stop it. Then, I guess, someone “purposefully gaining weight” makes sense and you saying it’s not an accident makes sense.