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My husband is getting fat
My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!
The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is **.
I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!
Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?
Totally get that! I love my husband’s new big and chubby belly. I find it cute and **, and I love to grab it, touch it, poke it, rub it, etc. He used to be so lean, but his belly is comforting to me now. Like he’s not trying to get other women’s attention.
Oh, yes. Nothing to beat taking a lean man away from the clutches of his mother, marrying him and putting a big belly on him. They will eat anything you put in front of them to please you in the first few years of marriage. My husband used to be lean too but I have secretly like larger men!
If you don't mind me asking, why do you ladies like your husbands big? I'm just curious, as a man who tries very hard to stay in shape :) Do they know you're making them fat?
Just speaking for myself, it’s physical and emotional.
Physically, I think the average woman is into a lean size and shape. Strength. Power. That kind of thing. I am, too. But getting into a relationship with a man, and changing together and becoming closer, his actually physical fitness is much less important as the relationship builds. I’m now drawn into him emotionally.
At that point, the pounds coming on his frame are reassuring, which makes me care about him even more. It’s like the physical manifestation that he is comfortable, happy and isn’t interested in “catching” another woman is his waistline getting bigger. The bigger his belly becomes, the more I feel secure in my relationship with him. The more secure I feel, the more love and care I want to invest in the relationship.
So, when I see a nice, squishy, fat tummy, it represents love and care for me as his partner. Especially if he’s gotten fatter while being with me because I know I put that belly on him.
I know some other women are just into that physical look. Like a guy might be into blondes, butts, long legs or tattoos. She’s just into husky, fatter men. It’s just a personal preference.
I know some other women who have dated around and say that bigger boys are always kinder, more caring and are more sensitive in their relationships than men who are gym rats. Not sure exactly why, but they said it’s a fairly constant theme in the men they have dated.
Hope that makes sense!
Happy to answer that as well :) (I'm the first poster, who's hubby hovers around 240). I personally don't think as much about the 'nesting' aspect / being more emotionally drawn to his size as a symbol of settling down (though maybe it plays a subconscious role). I just find his beefier body really attractive. He looks more manly to me (bigger, wider, takes up more room, eats what he wants etc), like a bull. And I suppose (like the other person said) there's an element of pride / satisfaction in knowing that he got big and beefy because of you.
To answer your other Q -- he knows I like him bigger, which is part of the reason he's so carefree about his food and portions. He doesn't want to gain past 250, but so long he's healthy below that, he's happy being a chubby hubby.
Ummmm, for me it’s a couple things. I just like to seem him happy. And let’s be honest, we are all happier when we are full and eating the foods we love! So if being a little chubby is the result of him loving what he eats, then that is fine with me. Secondly, it’s kind of cute to see him aging and looking older, gray hair in his beard or in his hair, a double chin developing, a small belly hanging over his belt, etc. It is fun to reminisce about the younger days, but it’s also enjoyable to grow old with someone and change. Lastly, it’s something to get the mood going. Whether I’m laying on him, rubbing his belly, tickling his belly, grabbing his belly, etc. touching his new tummy is usually part of starting something more fun...
I’m just kinda into fat guys. I always have been. I just like them and find their bodies powerful and attractive. Usually when I start dating a guy, I warn him that he will probably gain weight. And he always say it’s OK. And he always gain weight with me as his girlfriend.
I have a fat fetish. I like it. I like men to get fatter when they are with me. I like to see their belly grow. I like to be the reason their belly is growing. It’s all fun for me.
You’ll probably have a million different answers since women all think a little differently, but I think the main theme will probably be that companionship is more important than appearance. Me personally, I just find that skinny guys are generally more self-absorbed than bigger guys. Maybe it’s because the bigger you are, the more you feel you have to compensate in other areas, so you are nicer, sweeter, etc. Or maybe bigger guys are less vain. Not really sure.