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My husband is getting fat
My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!
The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is **.
I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!
Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?
How did you tell him? My husband is putting on weight, but he’s really sensitive about it because he lost a lot of weight before we started dating. I’m not sure how to tell him it’s OK to be a little fatter.
At first I tried to reassure him that the weight suited him, but I think he just assumed I was saying that to be kind. Then one morning he was feeling particularly frustrated (having struggled to button his work pants), so I sat him down and told him seriously that I found his bigger size very attractive. And from then I made sure to cuddle up to his pudgy areas and show him extra love. After a while he started to relax and get more comfortable.
I think just make sure to keep reassuring him that you still find him attractive, and even tell him that you like his new size (even if that's not entirely true for you). Part of my husband's worry was that he was failing me somehow, or letting me down by letting himself go, which simply wasn't the case.
For me personally, it was learning to be OK with his extra fat. Once I got over being embarrassed about having an overweight husband, I could actually appreciate his new body. At that point I started to look at it differently and became attracted to his bigger version.