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My husband is getting fat
My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!
The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is **.
I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!
Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?
Well, yes, I guess so. He dresses well and looks great in a button down shirt and slacks. His size makes him a natural leader in a group. And when it is just us he is so big and strong to cuddle up next to. Again when I was 20 I’m not sure I would have appreciated or known how to handle a bigger man but at 33 I do. Plus, the worst time in our marriage was the one time he went on a serious diet. He lost about 25 pounds. He was constantly stressed and everything I cooked, or when we went out, was either too big or not the right foods. He just looked smaller and weak. Of course you want to support your spouse but I secretly was glad when he gave up on that.
So if given a choice, you’d want him to be the college-skinny version of himself today or the 285-fat version of himself today?
I don’t like the word fat because it can be mean. I know a lot of people wouldn’t understand it but I never would want him to go back to the skinny guy he was in college. When he comes home and I stand on my tip toes to kiss him (I’m only 5’2”) and I put my hands on the side of his belly and lean forward into him and his big belly - well, it just feels right. And seeing him so happy when he eats knowing that he can relax and enjoy himself and not limit himself. So yes, I wouldn’t change him.
That’s sweet. You sound like a loving and understanding wife. Good luck!
Thanks. I know at some point he’ll need to cut back but not for a while. Or maybe he’ll just reach his natural top weight at some point and won’t have to go through that stress.