My husband is getting fat

I had a coworker who got married and went on a month-long cruise for their honeymoon. He came back to work a month later with a little gut he didn’t have before. I asked him how the cruise was and he said it was great, tons of relaxing and entertainment and awesome sight seeing, and they ate way too much for that month. He said he had gained about 25 pounds on the honeymoon and his wife had gained 20 pounds. He said they had to wear sweats off the cruise because their jeans didn’t fit anymore.

Why did they gain so much weight?!

He said they both lost a little weight before the wedding, so they gained that weight back and then a little more. He said the food was just so good, and they were married and both were gaining weight so they didn’t really care.

Marriage makes you fat, man. It’s that simple.

My wife and I had a similar experience, just not as much. We could wear our old clothes off the boat still.

Yes, most cruises are crazy with the food. There's usually all-you-can eat for every meal plus a midnight buffet, all included. My wife and I both gained about a pound a day, but it was only a 7 day cruise. A month would be life changing :) especially on a honeymoon where you felt like you could eat with abandon for the first time in your life.

I haven’t been on a cruise yet. Sounds like a fun and fatty time! 🚢

My wife and I over indulged in our first six months of marriage on food and just relaxing and enjoying each other’s company. We both gained about 25-30 pounds, about a pound a week.
The weight gain on my wife was so noticeable that her mother thought my wife was pregnant when she came to visit us. My wife went up two cup sizes and started developing a belly bulge. So she bought my wife a pregnancy test that was negative, of course. And my wife had to explain that we just had been lazy since the wedding and she had a chubby belly now that made her look a little pregnant. My mother-in-law couldn’t believe it because my wife had always been so skinny.

That happened to my wife. She started taking some prescribed medication and a side effect was weight gain. She didn’t want to worry her mother about her condition, so she didn’t tell her about the condition, the medication or the weight gain. We showed up for Christmas and my wife’s body is obviously much bigger than she was at Mother’s Day, probably by 30 lbs. When we walked through the front door, my mother-in-law thought it was a surprise pregnancy announcement and that we showed up for Christmas to reveal a pregnancy. My wife had to take a pregnancy test in front of her mother to prove she was not pregnant, and then my wife ended up telling her about the medication anyway.

I don’t think I would want to be with a woman whose goals include making me fat and making me undesirable to other women because I’m fat.

As a fatter guy, it’s nice to hear that some women are Ok with a guy being heavier. Society constantly dumps on fat people, so it’s nice to see some positive comments here. 👍🏻

As long as I'm still desirable to her, it's all good to me. Besides her pursuit of her goals means more home cooking for me, which happens to be one of my goals.

It’s not that bad. My fiancé told me she wanted to fatten me up once she had a ring on her **. I’ve gained thirty pounds so far, and she seems to like it a lot more. She pokes my belly fat if I don’t have seconds and she teases me about trying to get skinny on her. She said she is very attracted to my soft tummy and wants me to keep it.

When I started getting serious with my girlfriend, she told me I would probably put on some pounds. She works at a bakery and bakes a lot. She’s not big, but probably about 160, with a plump figure. She is beautiful. And she was right. I’ve already gained 20 pounds while dating her.

It’s been OK for me. It’s exchanging love for looks. Although, some people look better with some extra weight. I was about 160 pounds and looked really skinny. I’m almost 200 pounds now thanks to my beautiful wife, and the extra 40 pounds makes me look older and more solid and manly. I’m OK with it. And she likes it better.

It works in a marriage that really is meant for life. I don't mind becoming undesirable, because I don't plan on desiring other women anymore. Actually both of us gained quite a bit. She has a temper and she sometimes blurts stuff out like "another man would do _blank_ for me". When she was skinnier, I remember really feeling like she might leave. But now I can joke back "not with that fat a s s!". And she can do the same to me. We're stuck with each other and it makes it easier to work things out. We have to, and we grow closer for it.

#oldnews
Women have been fattening up men for centuries. This is nothing new.

My girlfriend has put on a lot of weight since we have been dating. I would guess between 30-40 pounds. I’ve always dated skinny women before her, so being with her at this size is new. My brothers made fun of me at first because they said I was with a fat girl, but then they got to know her more and they are now super jealous because she is incredibly awesome. Even though I’ve only dated skinny women before, I really like my girlfriend at her heavier weight. She looks really ** and I like how she feels now with some extra fat on her. I didn’t think I would, but I really do. I don’t want her to lose any of the weight now.

Welcome to the world of plus-size women! They are everything a woman is plus more. It’s amazing!!

Plus-size women are A+ in my book! 😍

No offense if skinny is your thing, but plus-size women are incredibly **. Most men are embarrassed what other guys think so they don’t ask bigger girls out, but once you’ve dated a few bigger girls, you’ll probably only want that.

I’ve had a couple women plump up on me. It’s been nice every time. No regrets. Love it!

I worked out with another lady almost on a daily basis. We did yoga next to each other for about two years, and usually she would do some cardio or weights before or after our yoga class. She was in decent shape, and I thought she looked good.
About every 3-4 months, I would notice an extra 5 pounds or so that she had gained. I thought that was odd because I had an idea of how much she worked out.
Then one day we were talking about eating right, health goals and our target weight and stuff like that just after our class ended. I told her that I had been able to stay around the same weight thanks to the yoga and workouts at the gym. (At this point, she had probably gained about 20-25 pounds since we first met.) She smiled and asked if I noticed she had not maintained her weight over the last year. I told her I noticed she was a little bigger, but nothing too crazy.
She told me that when I first met her, she had recently started dating a guy she really liked. He was really handsome, super sweet and professionally successful. She said she Facebook stalked him as they went on a couple dates and saw that a lot of his past girlfriends were heavier women, not skinny women.
She told me that because she liked him so much and that he was such a good catch, she started trying to look more like his past girlfriends and their sizes. She said she was a 6 when we started doing yoga, and she was probably a 12 now. And most of his girlfriends were sizes 14-18.
She said she had been slowly gaining weight to get up to the size he seemed to prefer, never mentioning to him that she was purposefully putting on weight to look more attractive to him.
Well, the plan must have worked because about six months later she had an engagement ring from him. And he was handsome. And she still looked beautiful, even as a plus-size woman.
She was probably about 170-180 lbs., and had gained probably 40 lbs. to snag her man. 💍

Awesome story! Happy for her! 💕

Oh, happy! Beautiful for her!! 💗

She got so chubby on him that he couldn’t let her go! #relationshipgoals #reallove

A fat husband is a sign of a good cooking wife. Nothing is wrong with a little extra lovin’ with food and a tummy to show for it.

When my husband and I married, he was probably 160 pounds and I was 120 pounds. Both of us were very slim and we look great in our wedding photos. That was more than ten years ago. We’ve now had a few kids and other time pressures that make it difficult to be healthier and we both have put on a significant amount of weight. He’s probably 240 pounds now and I’m about 210 pounds. Every time we try to commit to losing weight, it seems something big comes up (like a job change, pregnancy, illness, etc.) and it derails our progress. We both want to do it, we just haven’t been successful yet.

How do you both feel about being heavier?

We’ve been this big for probably three years now. It’s not normal for us, but it’s become our new normal. We had to buy all new clothes to fit our bodies better. We bought a King bed so we can fit in it better. We both can’t fit in the shower at the same time anymore, and we get more tired sooner than we did before. It’s not horrible being a little fat, but we are a little past that now. I think if we both could lose 20-30 pounds this year, we could sustain that.
He says he still finds me attractive. He is also still attractive to me, so that hasn’t changed much. Even though we are both bigger, we both still make a good effort to look good for each other and dress well.

That’s good that you both are still attracted to each other.

You both kinda got fat.

My wife has gleefully and slowly been fattening me up over the years. She always jokes that she wanted me to have a dad bod, or that she made my favorite foods to make me too fat to run away. But after about ten years, I’m definitely too big to run for exercise and my body has fully transformed to dad bod status. I’m about 60 lbs. heavier than when we met, and my pants size has gone from a 32 to a 40. The other day we were cuddling on the couch and she mentioned how ** she finds my big belly and that she wants me to keep it. I don’t know what to think about all this...

It’s not rocket science, your wife loves you and loves the fatter version of you. End of story. Stay fat for her.

Sounds like she’s into the new you. And sounds like you need to decide if you are Ok with that.

It’s not that bad. My girlfriend’s men in her family are all heavier, like her dad, brothers, uncles, cousins, etc. Their grandma is such an amazing cook, and she’s taught all the women how to cook well for their husbands, even the daughters-in-law who married into the family. I was much smaller when we started dating, and we’ve been together for two years and I’m probably 50 lbs. heavier now. At Christmas, all the women were telling her how proud they are of her for learning to cook so well and take care of me. It was embarrassing because they obviously were talking about how much fatter I was since the last time they saw me, but it is was it is. I ate the food, she didn’t force me to. As long as your woman can still love you at your fatter size, life isn’t that bad.

Sounds like me. I’ve gained forty pounds since being with my wife and she is always touching my belly now and tells me to never lose it. She says it’s her belly to love on.

60 lbs. seems nice. Wait until you hit 100 lbs. more, then 60 won’t seem so bad. 180 lbs. when we started dating. 280 lbs. today. She went to culinary school...

She went to culinary school and you should have gone to a gym.

How fat is she going to make you?!

Should I ask her?

I love my tubby hubby and all his chubbiness!! ❤️ ❤️

That makes me happy to hear that! 🙂

Yea for chubby hubbies!!

Fat boys are the best and sweetest boys!!!

I definitely prefer a man with some fluffiness around his midsection. Not beer belly fat, but some squishiness to cuddle on.

Any tips on how to get that softness? I've got the beginnings of a belly but it seems a little firmer than i'd like, and not sagging yet

You probably aren’t chubby enough yet for a belly hang. Men will get a soft belly sooner because they store fat in their stomachs faster than women. Most women tend to gain weight all over their bodies, but more in their thighs and hips. Men tend to gain weight first in their stomach area. So if you don’t have a belly hang yet, it means your fat is more evenly distributed throughout your body or you just don’t have enough fat yet.

Eat more. Less exercise. The pounds will start slowly coming on. Don’t go too fast or you can get stretch marks from your belly expanding too fast.

It’s pretty simple. Bring in more calories than you expend, and do that day after day. If you want to gain weight fast, bring in even more calories.

You are seriously OK with how fat he has become?!

Yes. I fell in love with him as a person, not his body. I want him to be happy, and if he is OK with being a heavier weight, then I’m OK with it.

How big did your husband get? How much does he weigh now, and how do you feel about it?

Someone else asked earlier down in another comment.
He was 170 when we started dating and slowly gained 50 pounds to become 220 pounds. Probably over a five-year span. Three of those years we were married, one year engaged and one year we were dating. He plateaued at 220 pounds for a few years and didn’t go up or down in weight by more than five pounds.
He then got a new job, more commute time, less exercise time and more meals out with new coworkers. He’s been at that employer for six months now and that’s where the next twenty pounds have come from, mostly. So we bought him some size 38/40 dress slacks for this new position, and with the extra twenty pounds, he now thinks he needs a size 40/42. He was a size 32 when we started dating.
I have mixed feelings about it. I think he was ** and attractive at 170 pounds, 220 pounds and now 240 pounds. That is no problem. But I feel he used to be more confident as a slimmer person, so I feel the extra weight has changed his personality a bit. So that breaks my heart that he feels like he can’t be himself, even though no one cares that he’s a bigger guy now than he was before. I try to make every effort to help him feel loved, appreciated and **. He’s definitely getting the most ** of his life now, which he isn’t complaining about!

It’s hard to complain about more **!

I make my tubby hubby walk around without his shirt on after his shower so I can see his belly bouncing. I love it!

You like that he is fat now?

I don’t mind that he is fat. It’s just how his body has changed since we’ve been together. But I do try to look at the positives, and I do like his belly. Sooo, might as well have fun with it.

Ha ha ha ha!!! Love it!

I tease my husband all the time about his new, growing tummy. It’s starting to hang out a little past his chest. It’s not a full, round belly, but it’s on its way! But I think it’s super cute on him!! 💕

What is cute about being obese?

Become obese and maybe you will see.

It just is cute! I can’t help it that a little extra tummy looks good on him.

Once it starts to hang there’s no going back lol. Believe me from experience!

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Hmm, I wonder how many of these guys go into the relationship *knowing* they are going to be fattened up vs. not having a clue until they see themselves in a mirror 2 years later. I bet it's obvious pretty early on in most cases.

My guess is most men don’t think it will happen to them, then years down the road they realize they aren’t the same size as they used to be.

I’ve read the post and some of the comments below. I don’t think this confession would have ever been OK to say if it was a wife getting fatter. You wouldn’t hear all this support for the husband and encouragement for him to “keep her in line” with weight gain. Just sayin’.

Maybe that's because house husbands, stay-at-home dads, and dependent men are statistically a little less common than among women. But there are plenty of partners to choose from. A modern male jock can easily find a girl who's going to encourage him to workout every day if that's what he wants.

But many couples want a traditional, old-fashioned relationship. I don't think it's particularly forced on either end. You don't see that many guys complaining below.

Instead when such a guy finds a girl who cooks dinner every night and offers him too many cookies, I suspect he knows what he's signing up for. And she knows the advantages and disadvantages of feeding him a little extra. I doubt it's an unwelcome surprise on either end.

Perhaps the main surprise is that so many couples, at least on this site, seem to go for such a traditional relationship. But hey, that's cool with me, live and let live.

All good points here. I think as much as we want to say we are progressive and different, men still want to go to work and provide for the family financially and women still want to work in the home and provide a wonderful life for their family. And it’s OK if women want to work and men want to stay at home, but 90% of the world will have the wife stay home to care for the family over the husband. Which means that a lot of women show love by cooking great meals for their families, especially with their husbands in mind. They find a lot of value and pride in being able to do that for him. And a lot of women like to see the round spare tire as evidence of their gifts in the kitchen.

I think that is true. Women would be jumping down men’s throats if this was reversed and the wife was gaining weight.