Dating my ex husband

I'm stressed out because I am hiding the fact that I have been dating my ex-husband for the past year from my mother whom i live with.

I am disabled and very dependent on my mother for basic needs, but have been going out 3 times a week or so with my ex who went to jail almost 7 years ago for abusing me.

He has since become a Christian and I've seen a major change in him, but she would never allow me to stay with her if she thought I was with him.

The stress of hiding who I am dating makes me nearly suicidal. I am trying to move away from her into public housing, but until I can I fear her wrath and losing my home if i reveal the truth

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  • Isn't it funny how we seek our parents approval regardless of our age? Your situation is a little different because as you say, you are dependent on her. But the truth is she loves and cares for you and doesn't want to see you hurt. And with good reason. Often times people in bad relationships don't see the warning signs or don't want to see them. Your mom doesn't want you to travel down that same road. Which leads to some very valid questions and maybe play a little devil's advocate. Because I'm sure when you dated him, the good times were great and the bad times were really bad. And you probably still love him and hope that the guy you fell in love with is still there. But can a person truly change? Can an abuser change his/her ways? Are his intentions really true..or does he have another agenda? He he made at you because he went to jail? Does being "Christian" or "finding GOD" mean that he will never make a mistake or get angry or is it just a cover? You are an adult. You should be able to make your own decisions and deal with the consequences. Your hiding this there something that you don't trust? Your mom has every right to disapprove of it..he has a lot to prove. And even if you move, you still would be hiding it..or would you be honest with her? Something says, if you have to keep this hidden then nothing has changed..and that puts you in a very dangerous position. Suicide is not the answer to this or anything. Hope it all works out for you.

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