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Who ever said u had to enjoy being a parent
I'm 24. My son is 5. He's intriguing, speaks at most times well beyond his years. He's funny silly and I often see myself in him. I love him . BUT I ** HATE being a mom. I can't name one joyous , pleasurable thing about it. I didn't have him for awhile, my mom did. While I was in college and just trying to figure ** out but guilt used to eat me up like get your kid back. He annoys the ** out of me. Like I hate doing stuff for him but he's well taken care of. I'm always yelling he doesn't listen and I feel like I'm just stuck doing something I never wanted to do. His dad isn't around that doesn't make the situation any better but it's way past Me being a single parent I just don't see anything praiseworthy about being a mom i absolutely despise it and never want to experience it again . There is something called b ataraxia that I think I relate to or have because I just recently found out about it and if I would have acknowledged the feelings of dislike that I've always had when I thought about having kids maybe I would have aborted him because I'm definitely not against abortion, definitely not. But I didn't and I regret not taking the situation more seriously when I found out I was pregnant I was so nonchalant I look back like you idiot what was wrong with you, you were 19 and found out you were pregnant why didn't you cry! Yell! Get mad!? Anything!!! But I didn't and that's why I'm here now. I wish I had the answer to why I feel this way it could fix it because he didn't ask to be here and sometimes I'm doing OK with it but other times I just shut myself out from everything and it's one of those days or weeks where I feel nothing but regret and sadness because I feel trapped being something I never wanted for myself.
Yawn. Yet another "oooh, if only I'd known I wouldn't enjoy being a mommy" piece of **.
Plenty of people are capable of deciding parenthood isn't for them WITHOUT insisting on making one or several of the damned things first. And, ironically, *they're* the ones who are persecuted-- bla bla "selfish" and etc., because no one ever becomes a parent for selfish reasons... /s
I will never understand that. That's like being hellbent on smashing your thumb with a hammer before "realizing" that hey, that might hurt a little.
It's not like nobody's ever had kids before you did, although most breeder-type parents do love to act like they're the only ones who have ever reproduced.
There are just layers and layers of stupid that too often go with making babies. Don't expect any sympathy from anyone with higher than a room-temperature IQ. We knew better, that's why our lives aren't soured by needy little howler monkey sociopaths.
Let your parents assume full custody of your child. You don't appear to like being a parent. Anyone has the potential to be deceitful and deceiving, I believe most people are. I hope you aren't showing your resentment of being a mother towards your child, I hope you're faking otherwise, because it would psychologically affect your child.
Do what's best for your son and let people that love/want me, assume custody of him. It's in your son's best interests and your own, to do so.
Stop trying to save face, you don't want your child, but your parents probably do. Stop trying to force yourself to feel something, you clearly don't. Some people aren't meant to be a parent and you are one of those individuals, accept that fact and do what's right for your child. Your child will possibly thank you for it, when he's an adult.
There's no shame in knowing you aren't cut out for parenthood. But don't inflict those emotions on your child, as it may affect them psychologically and so forth, remember that.
I'm not a big fan of abortion but I'm thinking your mother should have had one. What a horrible person . I feel so sorry for your son.
The OP needs positive support and guidance, not negative rebuke and admonishment, for venting her emotions!
You're the person, who has a rotten heart! Shame on you!
No, not a rotten heart . Just someone who has had enough of young woman being completely irresponsible , getting pregnant and then complaining about how hard it is. There are countless numbers of ways to prevent getting pregnant . Yes accidents happen but its your personal responsibility to do what you can to make sure they don't. And before anyone points out the fact that is takes two to create a child, MEN don't get pregnant! If you are not on any form of birth control you have to tell him no ** with out a condom to protect yourself. The op is the prime example, she got pregnant, doesn't know where the father is, left the child with her parents, takes the child back and feels nothing towards that child other than resentment. Now you have a child who is paying for her carelessness, a child being brought up by a woman who has no love for him.
To state, "the OP's mother should've had an abortion" seems pretty rotten!
I get your point. But to state the above, conveys a lot about your character and it isn't good!
She said in her post, Maybe she would have aborted him if she had known of her dislike for children and you are questioning my character because I said I thought her mother should have had one? This woman could have prevented this child from being born in multiple ways she chose not to . The child was living with people who cared for him, she took him from that house. She has no love for this little boy she created , but yes your right I'm the monster! SMH
The op is an idiot too
Your comment implies and states "all women" It's "some women, not the majority!"
And, It's stupid to assume every mother who has a child, can't voice their emotions about being a mother, whether it's negative or positive, everyone is entitled to express their emotions. Sometimes being a parent isn't easy, a parent needs room to vent. It's healthy to do so.
I'm not agreeing with the OP, but I think you're an extremely judgemental and discriminative person.
You idiot abortion prevents this very situation
You obviously never bonded with your son as you were able to hand him over to your parents and go back to school. What I can't understand is why you just didn't leave him with people who love him and were taking care of him. There is a huge difference in just providing the necessities for a child and being able to nurture ,love and care for him. Those are skills you don't seem to have. Does his biological father even know he exists? If not its your responsibility as the child's mother to find him and let him know he has a son. Your son deserves to know who his father is and he should be responsible for helping to raise him .
Do you think your child would be happier living with your parents? Would they be opposed to adopting him and you relinquishing your parental rights. You would still be his birth mother, but without the responsibilities. It's important to be honest with him. He needs to thrive. And if you aren't able to nurture him right it's not fair to him. You risk changing who he is and can change how he views relationships etc.. Not saying you're abusing him. But when you get frustrated, don't direct that or any negativity towards him. Kids are very sensitive and pick up a lot more than you ever really know. It's good to vent, but your problems aren't going to go away. Whatever you do, do the right thing for him.
Spank spank and spank. Take charge.
Fool!
Your poor son
I couldn't agree more!