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Who ever said u had to enjoy being a parent
I'm 24. My son is 5. He's intriguing, speaks at most times well beyond his years. He's funny silly and I often see myself in him. I love him . BUT I ** HATE being a mom. I can't name one joyous , pleasurable thing about it. I didn't have him for awhile, my mom did. While I was in college and just trying to figure ** out but guilt used to eat me up like get your kid back. He annoys the ** out of me. Like I hate doing stuff for him but he's well taken care of. I'm always yelling he doesn't listen and I feel like I'm just stuck doing something I never wanted to do. His dad isn't around that doesn't make the situation any better but it's way past Me being a single parent I just don't see anything praiseworthy about being a mom i absolutely despise it and never want to experience it again . There is something called b ataraxia that I think I relate to or have because I just recently found out about it and if I would have acknowledged the feelings of dislike that I've always had when I thought about having kids maybe I would have aborted him because I'm definitely not against abortion, definitely not. But I didn't and I regret not taking the situation more seriously when I found out I was pregnant I was so nonchalant I look back like you idiot what was wrong with you, you were 19 and found out you were pregnant why didn't you cry! Yell! Get mad!? Anything!!! But I didn't and that's why I'm here now. I wish I had the answer to why I feel this way it could fix it because he didn't ask to be here and sometimes I'm doing OK with it but other times I just shut myself out from everything and it's one of those days or weeks where I feel nothing but regret and sadness because I feel trapped being something I never wanted for myself.
She said in her post, Maybe she would have aborted him if she had known of her dislike for children and you are questioning my character because I said I thought her mother should have had one? This woman could have prevented this child from being born in multiple ways she chose not to . The child was living with people who cared for him, she took him from that house. She has no love for this little boy she created , but yes your right I'm the monster! SMH
I have to agree , there is no love in this woman's heart for her son. Every day this child lives with her he feels that resentment . Kids know when they are not wanted and even though she said she provides for him , she hates doing it, he will pick up on those feelings. It is mental abuse everyday for him, he will end up with low self esteem feeling unloved and in the way. The OP either needs to get mental help or see if the boy can move back in with her parents . People in situations sometimes snap and it ends tragically for the child. The abortion comment was cold , but understood.
I agree with some aspects of your opinion. In regards to children, I believe they're perceptive and underestimated, by some people. Just like some people are more perceptive and intuitive, than what some people may think.
But don't assume the child feels the resentment, you aren't the child and don't know the Childs feelings personally.
I don't think you have to be the child to reasonably think he feels the resentment and lack of love this woman has for him. Read her post , by her words she tells of her dislike for him. Your response contradicts itself.
I can understand your point of view, but I don't agree with it. I stand by my opinion :-)
I stand corrected - I didn't read that part of the OP's confession. However, you can't treat "like for like!" Don't be "cold like the OP" x
If you didn't read the whole post you probably shouldn't have made a comment about someone who did read the WHOLE post.
That's your opinion. I respect it, but don't agree with it :-)