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My husband is getting fat
My husband is getting fat. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds!
The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I feed him well, he likes to snack and his fat belly and mushy chest are a turn on for me. I prefer it much more than the flat stomach he had years ago. He has a slight double chin now that I also think is **.
I hope he still gains in the coming years. I had to buy him size 40 pants (used to be a size 32), and I was so happy to watch him try them on. He complained about the new size, so I walked over to him, patted his bulging tummy, grabbed his love handles and told him how attractive he is to me. It’s not a lie, though, because I really do enjoy his new size and I love his fat belly!
Hopefully he gains another 50 pounds! I wouldn’t mind a chubby hubby! What’s better than eating what you want and getting your wife excited to be with you in the bedroom?
How does he feel about his new tummy?
I think he is embarrassed about it, but he can’t resist all the treats. My mum has been teasing him about his gain joking that she will put another 40lbs on him. My late father was a very fat man.
Sorry to hear about your father. Was his death related to his size?
Yes. My mother is a feeder
How big was your father?
I think you need to talk to your mom. The teasing and belly rubs after over feeding are going to reinforce your husband’s gains. The 40 more pounds she says she will put on him aren’t a joke, it’s a promise from an experienced and successful feeder. He’ll be over 300 pounds and on a path to 400 if you don’t intervene.
I spoke to mom the other night and she told me a fat husband is a happy husband and that she’s only having a little fun. Well I put him on the scale and he’s gained another 10lbs since my first post! She has increased his appetite in that he is always hungry and he has no willpower.
Your hubby is going to have to make a major lifestyle change even to stay at the same weight. As it is now, his rapid gains imply that he is consuming at least 1600 calories a day more than he's burning off. If he were to continue to gain at that rate, he will be over 300 pounds by fall and in a year, he will be over 400.
Only a change in diet can help get this under control. Even if he were to add vigorous exercise for an hour every day (1000 calories burned), your husband is consuming so many calories that he'd be over 300 in a year.
Maybe you can work out a meal plan and get your mom enlisted. More vegetables and lean protein most days can cut the calories down. She can still make dessert but only once a week.
It’s not really about willpower. Sugary foods are addictive, increase appetite and lead to insulin dependence. Your husband is probably already pre-diabetic. If he can spend 3 days on only lean protein, the sugar cravings will dissipate and blood sugar swings will level out. One of the most powerful tools for weight loss is a food diary; it will help him be more mindful of what he is eating.