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Hotwifing troubles
My wife and I have been involved in hotwifing for the last five months. For me, it's been an unmitigated disaster, especially the holidays. For her, it's been perpetual spring break. I thought that allowing her to see other men -- while I kept myself for her -- would make her feel more happy and complete, and that it would enegerize our ** life at home. And that she'd go out occasionally at night, but then always come home to me and our child after she'd finished with whoever she was with. The hotwifing site we used said to let her find her way, and to give it awhile to even out, but things aren't getting better: she's just going out more often, and staying out longer, sometimes for several days at a time, without calling or coming home. When I express my reservations to her, all I get is: "You agreed to this because you SAID you love me, and you can't back out now after we've just started it". Have any of you had experience with hotwifing? DOES it get better? Or am I just a Class-One moron for supporting her while she lives her life like she's not married (except for the fact that she's living that life on my bank account and credit card) and not a mother?
Why are you not seeing people also? I don't get why you would agree to just her doing this. I just heard of all this, so excuse my naivety, but what was in it for you when you agreed?
Because a woman should be able to ** whoever she want whenever she wants and a real man should support her needs
And a man should be able to f*** whatever woman he wants too!
Man or should i say girl..just bend over and check to see if u have a ** cos u sure sound like a fckin sissy to me
Yes, I have experience with this. I felt the EXACT same way. My wife and I did set up ground rules. But it became something that couldn't live with and something she couldn't part with. We had so many arguments over this exact thing. I felt so guilty because it was my fantasy turned reality. I started to not feel special, as if not only my TIME and ** with her were secondary. I voiced this many times, but we always ended up in the same spot with her guilting me and me feeling bad about having created this monster so I let her continue until I was done. I started having major self-esteem problems and gained a lot of weight. The truth is that it became all about her and not about us. I learned that in order for this type of lifestyle (not just swinging but hotwifing especially because there is a HUGE difference when only one partner steps out) to work that the couple must remain the primary focus. That, of course, is true not only with hotwifiing but in all things including having children, house, jobs, ect. The marriage and couple must held as sacred if it is to survive. Once that has been broken, there is little chance for recovery. My advice to anyone who endeavors to seek the hotwife lifestyle is to make it about your marriage first and that is extremely hard to do. It must start with a healthy marriage with great communication with 2 people who are very much in love. Anything else and you probably can kiss the marriage goodbye. Btw, today I'm so much happier. True, we are no longer married, but I respect myself again. Hmm, maybe it took hotwifing for us to see that the marriage really wasn't working anyway. Good luck my friend. I've been there, it **...
Absolutely great advice! Hotwifing must be practiced around the marriage and relationship, not around hotwifing. The couple must be very strong in their love and respect for each other and their family. Ground rules are good, but they will change as the couples adapts to the lifestyle. It can enhance the relationship for some couples, but be warned, it can also destroy it! My wife has been a hotwife for four years. She has had younger, older, white, and black lovers. She has fun and I love for her to date. Our ** life together is still great too. I am a cuckold. How else could I want this for her?
You are so cool, with an awesome marriage and wife, kudos, Itoo am a cuckhold.
Why is the hotwifing done outside the house. How on earth is that beneficial to you? You mentioned it was your fantasy at first. But wouldn't you want it done in your home so you could watch or something? I just don't get how you thought it would fulfill your fantasy.
It’s choice. It’s the way my wife and I do it. We both prefer it so long as she doesn’t clean up before she comes home.
Vice provokes regrets. It's in the nature of the thing.
You definitely screwed the pooch on this one. Before any type of "extra curricular activities" take place you should always set ground rules. The Mrs. and I have been swinging for several years and the first thing we did was set up rules which both of us agreed on, and abide by. To help reign things back in you should probably point her in the direction of a swingers club or house party (that you can go to), so you can have some type of experience to make you feel a little more evened out, try to move her into another area of this type of lifestyle.
Awwwwww.... you sound like a used up Co-dom here my love... you should not have gotten into this if you were never sure about your insecurities.... hotwifing is pretty in these days and am glad you thought about your wife's pleasure.. but not to forget it was your fantasy in the first place to see your wife be this way while that pleases you (isnt that right??).... being a woman and have been experiencing this brilliant thought of mankind (hotwifing) you ust speak to your wife and find out what is it that making her crave for it more and be with you less..
Lots of love..
Rupali :)
Love u too rupali from arjun
Haha Funny as ** you Fool.
Yes tell us all as the couch awaits. .."Tell us bud Tell about your relationship with your mother when u were a lad"?
She has found her inner ** and you, being the liberal girly man that you are, are her punk. What a fool, and, what a **. What a pair, LMAO!!!
How on Earth do you know he's liberal? My hubby and I are conservatives and we live this lifestyle.
How Horrible- i am a widower and 65 and if my wife ever ever wanted to do this we would be divorced before she could blink 3 times.A conservative- i eill never be a conservative now
Why are you being so mean? Something has made you angry.
Right could b a script for a sitcom on cable hey wait 😎🌴
Hotwife G can't repair a weak relationship. Maybe she will find a way, maybe not.
Yes, you are just a "class-one moron". But don't worry, she'll come back for awhile, after some other man knocks her up.
I'd like to ** the ** of her. May I?
If you don't stop complaining you will lose her. If you accept things better it will settle down . My wife and I were both young virgins when we married. She was seduced by another man on the second day of our honeymoon. She asked me to prove my love by letting her spend the night with him. I agreed and she spent the next 19 nights with him while I paid for a single room on the same floor as our honeymoon suite. She allowed me to perform oral ** on her each morning and I suppressed my jealousy and frustration because I love her so much. When we got home she said that she still loved me but would never be sexually faithful to me and offered me an annulment. I begged her not to leave me and she said that she didn't want to break up but that she would divorce me if I ever cheated. I agreed. That was 32 years ago and we are still happily married
You're a b****. There is a difference between hotwifing and being a floormat.
She probably with you For the money Only and knows your A sucker thats why she said she will leave you. 32 Years of guy Boning your Wife at work in public and you Lick up the **. No Thank You
Listen if it works for you and you consider yourself happily married.....good for you, but most heterosexual men like to **, have real ** and feel that their partner of the moment desires them. You're just....different.
Kind of not fair that you can't cheat. Why would you agree to that?
Incredible!
You should have got the annulment
I love that story lucky man
Aww bulshit just spread more internet hipster midlife crisis nonsense just kick back let her have few kids u pay for em n 2yrs later b like wat happen to my life haha god it ** sharing space with excrement with legs 😎🌴
You are losing her as fast as you are losing respect for yourself. Put an end to this nonsense or get a divorce. No one in their right mind shares their wife with another man.
I suspect you may have a problem with masturbation, causing you to be unsupportive of the role you asked your wife to play in your relationship. Ask her to place you in chastity and take control of your ** if she is not already doing that. Once masturbation has ceased, you should become more supportive of her in order to gain your sexual release. Other men are clearly taking good care of her sexual needs. She is finding her way, now you need to find yours.
Fantasies are just that a fantasy not to be realized. The realization here is some other ** is in your wife instead of yours dumass
I feel your problem. Calm down. Remember why you started this? It was for Her. Remember that. Keep remembering that and remind yourself of that, even when you face bankruptcy. She's not an emotionally obsolete worm. She's human for starters, and she loves you. your child is testimony to that. She won't let you down like you fear.You know what the problem is, right now? I hate to be the one to break it to you but your problems is selfishness than jealousy, although jealousy is not out of the question. Face it. You're selfish. What did you think the right to please would only be for you? What about her? Come on, let her quench her thirst. I'm a married man, deeply in love with my wife so I don't mean the word Quench in any disrespectful way. But man man, it's all about being generous man. Besides, talk about money, you're her man, and if you are a ** christian d it the ** christian way! support your wife, goddammit! BAHA!
BS. yes for her. But yes limits if it doesn't work for the both of them. If one person doesn't respect the limits of the other, then its selfish and a disaster. Just because a couple "tries something" doesn't mean its forever if one doesn't like it and wants it to stop. She should consider herself fortunate for his graciousness to ever have happened. If she won't stop for the marriage, divorce her.