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Hotwifing troubles
My wife and I have been involved in hotwifing for the last five months. For me, it's been an unmitigated disaster, especially the holidays. For her, it's been perpetual spring break. I thought that allowing her to see other men -- while I kept myself for her -- would make her feel more happy and complete, and that it would enegerize our ** life at home. And that she'd go out occasionally at night, but then always come home to me and our child after she'd finished with whoever she was with. The hotwifing site we used said to let her find her way, and to give it awhile to even out, but things aren't getting better: she's just going out more often, and staying out longer, sometimes for several days at a time, without calling or coming home. When I express my reservations to her, all I get is: "You agreed to this because you SAID you love me, and you can't back out now after we've just started it". Have any of you had experience with hotwifing? DOES it get better? Or am I just a Class-One moron for supporting her while she lives her life like she's not married (except for the fact that she's living that life on my bank account and credit card) and not a mother?
I feel your problem. Calm down. Remember why you started this? It was for Her. Remember that. Keep remembering that and remind yourself of that, even when you face bankruptcy. She's not an emotionally obsolete worm. She's human for starters, and she loves you. your child is testimony to that. She won't let you down like you fear.
You know what the problem is, right now? I hate to be the one to break it to you but your problems is selfishness than jealousy, although jealousy is not out of the question. Face it. You're selfish. What did you think the right to please would only be for you? What about her? Come on, let her quench her thirst. I'm a married man, deeply in love with my wife so I don't mean the word Quench in any disrespectful way. But man man, it's all about being generous man. Besides, talk about money, you're her man, and if you are a ** christian d it the ** christian way! support your wife, goddammit! BAHA!
F********christian stands for fabulous Christian yeah!
Your an idiot...you are as much a useful man as a limp ** is to a room full of whores...useless. so many spineless sissies..no wonder society is so screwed up.
I feel your problem. Calm down. Remember why you started this? It was for Her. Remember that. Keep remembering that and remind yourself of that, even when you face bankruptcy. She's not an emotionally obsolete worm. She's human for starters, and she loves you. your child is testimony to that. She won't let you down like you fear.
You know what the problem is, right now? I hate to be the one to break it to you but your problems is selfishness than jealousy, although jealousy is not out of the question. Face it. You're selfish. What did you think the right to please would only be for you? What about her? Come on, let her quench her thirst. I'm a married man, deeply in love with my wife so I don't mean the word Quench in any disrespectful way. But man man, it's all about being generous man. Besides, talk about money, you're her man, and if you are a ** christian d it the ** christian way! support your wife, goddammit! BAHA!
This problem happened to me right from the start. I realized early on she was loosing attraction for me because this lifestyle by its very nature portrays the husband as a beta male. A woman's biology is not wired to want impregnation from a beta male, her running off with other men is just her sexual nature getting the best of her. To get my wife back in I just start being alpha male both physically and mentally, but this paradoxically reduces my attraction to her, and her attraction for hotwifing.
You're first mistake was supporting her financially in the relationship.... Once awhile a gift can be nice, but you will never truly know how she feels about you since you let her marry your wallet first and foremost ....
Her selfish answer to your concerns is all the answer you need. Unfortunately having a child makes it Much harder to get up and walk away to never see her again. A real wife that respects and loves you would pay attention and respect your concerns... " don't u love me?!" Is the BLACKMAIL statement of choice by master manipulators of the female persuasion.
I don't think you were being honest with her and more importantly yourself. I've been with swingers and the worst thing you can do is not be honest. Going into it you had to know you gave your approval to her to sleep with another man. Something about it had to have turned you on for you to agree to do it in the first place, right?
As a new ** i think she really needs to be honest and tells you about it . You should at least tell her to tell you which person is it that way you can trust that person
Dude are you crazy ?
I am a woman and I've seen a few of these types of hoes in my day!
Ask yourself this - are you Truly happy?
Is you kid truly happy?
No ** is worth this type of abuse, also do you want to contract a disease - hep-c, aids, herpes (these are for life)!
RUN - RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN & Take that child with you and go find yourself a Good woman who will love your child and appreciate you!
I found out my wife wanted to ** other guys the old-fashioned way - I caught her cheating. Know what I did? I KICKED HER ** ** ** OUT OF THE HOUSE AND PROCEEDED TO RUIN HER FINANCIALLY WITH A DIVORCE. I kept the house, and the kids, and she got her clothes and her "freedom". She is quickly turning into a lonely, desperate alcoholic crone, and I'm doing fine. The moral of my story? Be a man. Don't even entertain the notion of your wife ** other guys. It's a one-way ticket to disaster AND it'll wreck YOUR chances of coming out even in the inevitable divorce that will follow. Don't fall for the whole "It'll make our marriage stronger!' lie. It's just an excuse that greedy ** use to try to get extra ** without needing to cover it up.
It's black guys. Not sure if she had black guys before you married her, but I can guarantee that she is probably banging close to her weight in black guys now. I wouldn't even be surprised if she comes home with a little black bun in the oven. You worthless cuckold. This is what you deserve. It's because you don't earn enough and your ** is too short to satisfy her.
I agree with previous comments,
1.You have become more of a cuck than a hotwifer
2.There should have been ground rules
3.Will she be willing to reconsider ammendments to previous discussion?
4. If not, is she still concerned about you?
I would suggest setting ground rules or break up.
Let me get this right mate. You have a child together, and you let her ** around with other dude while you take care of the kid, and pay for it? (if you will take it) My advice to you is: Face her, then turn 180 degrees and start running away. Take the child with you too. She clearly has no interest in your personality, your **, your child or anything else you have except money. She's not even willing to do the bare minimum to try to fool you into thinking this is a real relationship.
I feel bad for beating up on you for posting this, but let's recap. You are a man, and have millions of sperm. She is a woman and has one biological egg. You are sitting at home watching the children while she is out having ** with other men on your dime. Here are my closing thoughts. Just admit your bisexual and have a 3sum and both play with the guy or be a ** man and lay down the law. With love, the type of guy out ** your wife.
Unfortunately, the only thing I can take issue with among your observations is the bisexual thing: I have no interest in getting with another guy, under any circumstances. I honestly could not do that, even if she made it a condition of her returning to the marriage and parenting in a more engaged way. The rest of it, I'm afraid, may be right on the nose. The law needs to be laid down, and I've tried that more than once, but it only works for very short periods, and then she comes into heat again and is gone again, looking for **. If she were involved with just one guy (or two or three) it would be different, and better, but she's ** almost anything that moves, and there is no telling whether or not she ever uses protection: I guess I should be grateful that she hasn't turned up pregnant (yet). I think it's probably also true that you would love to hook up with her, and would gladly do it (she is really incredible in bed: ** of the century stuff). And it's probably also true that you would at least have the honor to tell me you were doing her, because I know she wouldn't tell me, especially if she knew that you and I knew one another. All of this would be easier if I didn't love her completely. Unfortunately, though, I do love her completely. And so would you, if you ever did hook up with her.
Amen haha
Don't know when you originally posted (or why they don't show dates) but I'd be interested to hear an update.
It seems that she has gone from hotwifing to simply cheating. An integral part of this kind of relationship is trust and communication between the partners. Working on a deeper emotional connection, not just the fleeting sexual thrill, which it sounds like you got in the beginning. If she isn't willing to listen to how you feel and work with you on it, your trouble is more than hotwifing, it is between the two of you personally.
It will very soon be a year since we started the program. It was fine at first, exciting really, but that didn't last long. It's now worse than ever, and I'm in the process of divorcing her, though nothing's final yet: I keep hoping she'll come to her senses and realize that nobody else will give her this freedom, much less keep paying her bills. She moved all her things out one day in August while I was at work, without saying a word, and a week later I turned off the credit card and closed the bank account, and she called screaming. When the screaming didn't work, she "moved" home and pretended to be a wife and mom ........ for a grand total of 96 hours, and then was off again as soon as she had access to money. A week later I told her it was over, and told her I was filing divorce papers. All she said was "You don't have the **", and "You'll never find somebody my age to marry you", and "** you". I guess some husbands have good experiences with hotwifing, but I'm not one of them.
She totally is not a good wife . people who do hot wifing both already agreed on terms . She just went the limit and tried to used you for your money for her own sexual lives.
You are supposed to have her f**k a few different people in front of you and make it solely about ** first off ...not give her a ticket to party and dodge her responsibilities. Rules.Rules.Rules this should be about You and Her becoming closer! Get her to stop the bs or you are going to loose her one way or another.
Fom the O.P.: That was the original deal, yes, and she went with a few different guys while we were out together at different times, kissing and making out with them on the dance floor, or giving handjobs in a booth at a restaurant, going down on them in the backseat of their cars in the parking lots, or slinking off to the ladies room with one of them for a quick **, and it was all thrilling. Really thrilling. But then with the fifth guy she met and connected with, while it began similarly, she soon started leaving the bar with him right after we'd get there, and then would just meet him alone. It was still kind of a charge even then, because she'd tell me what was happening, but that stopped. She met him for a weekend romp at his place, and then would date him without telling me about it. This was all a rather rapid evolution, and soon she was just going out alone on the prowl looking for men wherever she could find them. I didn't go into all the detail originally, and even this is much shorter than it was and excludes facts, but it gives you an idea of how it happened and where we are. Things are about the same since I first posted this, and I've tried and threatened several times to reinstitute the rules, but she's refused to comply: she's having too much fun and getting too much ** to stop. So far, only maybe three of our friends know what she's doing, but it's only a matter of time before everybody knows what's up. I dread that day.
Ses a tramp you need to dump her nasty ** and go find a nice lady someone who can be a wife and a mother your ignoring the damage this ** is doing to your kids you just need to man up and end this **
I think this has gone way to far she is a nymf who according what i read has cannot be satisfied by one **. the hot-wife lifestyle should benefit both your ** life whereas a third party the "bull" should have the function of living ** to pleasure you and your wife.When you are done with the "bull" it should't cross her mind until the next time you enjoy each other again. when you use a ** during ** thereafter you forget you even have that toy in the bedroom! this should be the same way with the "bull".
she sounds like a selfish **.
She doesn't deserve you.
You should leave her... also make sure u use a glove.
btw, care to post her number?
Haha