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Hotwifing troubles
My wife and I have been involved in hotwifing for the last five months. For me, it's been an unmitigated disaster, especially the holidays. For her, it's been perpetual spring break. I thought that allowing her to see other men -- while I kept myself for her -- would make her feel more happy and complete, and that it would enegerize our ** life at home. And that she'd go out occasionally at night, but then always come home to me and our child after she'd finished with whoever she was with. The hotwifing site we used said to let her find her way, and to give it awhile to even out, but things aren't getting better: she's just going out more often, and staying out longer, sometimes for several days at a time, without calling or coming home. When I express my reservations to her, all I get is: "You agreed to this because you SAID you love me, and you can't back out now after we've just started it". Have any of you had experience with hotwifing? DOES it get better? Or am I just a Class-One moron for supporting her while she lives her life like she's not married (except for the fact that she's living that life on my bank account and credit card) and not a mother?
It seems you have gone from hotwifing to being a bit of a cuck. Hotwifing is supposed to still be about equality in love although she would get to see other people. It is supposed to maintain or hopefully even increase respect in each other. To let things continue as they are then you are showing you have no respect for you so why should she. I feel for you I really do but the advice to let things continue and calm down would work if you were both the same age. There is 10 years of a gap between my partner and I and if with that gap our relationship went down your path than I feel my only option would be to bring it back asap. How you do that, I wish I could help but as I said if you show no self respect then she will lose any she had in you and show you none either. Good luck.
You did not mention your age.
Anyways, I thing that she will get tired of this type of life - but after a while. The 'while' depends on her age. Till she calms down you should not mind that how and what she does or doesn't.
From the O.P.:
Yes, I've been told by a friend that the age thing is an issue. I'm 42, and she's 27. The difference in our ages was NEVER a problem when we met or began dating, socially or sexually, and our ** life was always extremely active (above average). But it's certainly possible that she still had some wild oats to sow, and is using this opportunity to sow them. To the best of my knowledge, most of the guys she's seeing now are not only younger than me, they're younger than her as well, though two that I know of are in their mid-40s: so, I guess she's not discriminating.
I agree with you about maintaining some calm, and I've really tried, but the trajectory of this thing -- with her increasing her outside activity, in terms of frequency and duration -- isn't very hopeful. Do think she'll reach some level of satiation and then bring it back down? Thanks for your comment.
Exactly let her ** whoever she wants. It's a privelege to have such a wonderful woman!
I don't think are matters I'm 31 and I love older men!!!!! Most older men are experienced in ** and are open minded. Love it!!!!!!!!!!! Which is why your in this pricidiment. Just leave the ** you'll both be better off
Whoops....you forgot to set some ground rules....tell her, it's ground rules, or you will start ** around too.
From the O.P.:
It's true: the ground rules could very well have made some difference. We talked about establishing some, between ourselves and with the hotwifing site rep, and I said (perhaps foolishly) that I trusted her completely and wanted for her whatever she wanted for her. She's not interested now in changing the rules of engagement, and I', not interested in anyone else. I honestly don't want this to come to divorce, because -- as unlikely as it sounds -- I truly do love my wife, but my dilemma is trying to navigate between supporting her choices and avoiding making myself her doormat. Thanks for the input.
This isn't a "hotwifing" problem...It's a problem with the relationship as it existed prior to hotwifing. My wife ** both men and women with me and without me there. We (as use the term we on purpose), moved very slowly, having an open dialogue along the way of what we each liked, didn't like, and wanted from the situation. None of us here can know exactly what transpired between you and your wife leading up to this making the choices you both made, but is appears that perhaps there was a different agenda for each of you in getting into this lifestyle and they don't match up with each other. Good luck with wherever your life leads you.
Just do what works for both my wife cucks me and I love it
Just enjoy the privilege of being a cuckold. I would love for my woman to let me eat ** out of her **. You should feel privileged