I Hate My Friend
I have a friend who is really beginning to get under my skin. We've been friends for over 15 years and for the most part, our friendship has been stable. She'd come over almost every Saturday, we'd chat, have breakfast, maybe watch a movie and then she'd go home.
However, in the past few months, she's become rude, bossy and aggressive. And she wants to come over every day, regardless of what I'm doing. She walks in, plops down and demands I stop whatever I'm doing so that I can entertain her. If I'm in the middle of an activity, she insists I'm doing it wrong and tries to tell me how to do it. She yells at my son constantly, even though I've repeatedly asked her not to do this. A few months ago, she even started screaming at my infant niece for making those little cooing sounds that babies make. (I immediately and diplomatically told her it was time for her to leave.)
Naturally, I've been wanting her around less and less. So I started making polite excuses as to why we can't possibly get together next Saturday...or Labor Day...or Thanksgiving...or New Year's...and hoped she'd take the hint. Except it hasn't worked out that way...
Now she calls constantly, usually an average of 10 times a day. If I answer and tell her I can't talk at the moment, she'll insist on talking to me anyway, or she'll call back in 20 minutes, asking if I'm still busy. So when I see her name on my caller ID, I'll let the answering machine get it. Should be fine, right? Nope! She leaves a message, hangs up and calls back immediately. Sometimes as many as 15 times in a row. One day, I got back from a doctor's appointment and found that my answering machine was full. There were 50 messages--all from her! From a span of a few hours! There's no excuse for it.
She pulls this crap from sunup to sundown. I can't watch a TV show, read a book, work on a research project, help my son with his homework, take a nap, eat a meal or have intimate relations with my husband without the phone ringing and then hearing her dull, dopey, stupid voice over the answering machine saying, "this is S. Give me a call." Then, five seconds later, same s***. Over and over until I have to unplug my g****** phone. Oh, and God help me if it's a nice day and I do that, because she'll walk over to my house and bang on the door with the same intensity as someone being chased by a knife-wielding maniac. It's especially aggravating when I've just put my niece down for a nap after trying for two hours to calm her down.
I don't like confrontations. But if this doesn't stop soon, she's going to force me into one. The only reason I've been able to type this uninterrupted is because I've unplugged my phone. If my family wants to get in touch with me, they have to e-mail me. If my grandma wants to get in touch, she has to call my mom, who then has to e-mail me. It's not right, it's not fair. I don't think I deserve to be stalked and forced to cut off contact with everyone just for a little peace of mind. There's no reprieve. I wish she'd get a f****** life so that I could live mine.