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I have this step daughter that absolutely hates me! Her father always takes her side and makes me feel like what i say and what rules that i make doesn't mean anything! that they are good kids and just teenagers. Okay well good kids dont sit their and treat their step mother like **! i get that she wants her mommy and daddy together but seriously they have been apart for years now. i get that she is Ur mom and i am not trying to take her place or talk bad about her when frankly i have a lot to say about that ** but regardless i do love my step daughter but i wish she would treat me wit a little more respect because i am here for her 24/7 i do everything for her unlike her mom that gets her every other weekend and then ships them off to a friends house when she does have them
I have spoke with the girl's father about the situation regarding the punishment but he has full custody of them and I have been in their life since they were 8 years old they are 13 now they go over their moms and she has no boundaries set for them she lets them do whatever they want she tells them to disrespect me and they do I tried to tell their father about things going on in the house and he keeps saying quote you're just picking on them they're just kids mean while she's getting in my face screaming at me being totally disrespectful I try to set some boundaries and punishments but of course their father never goes along with it he says I am too ** them because I said that I wanted to punish them for a week that they had to come home do their chores eat dinner take a shower and go to bed because they keep ** and ** in their underwear and hiding it in their bedroom which is pretty disgusting when there are 13 year old girls but then again he says they're just kids you can be ** them I'm honestly starting to feel like those are his Precious Angels that can do no wrong in his eyes I made a comment about the girls picking up dog ** out fried hard as their punishment part of their chores and his response was oh no I'll do that I was thinking to myself why your precious little girl can't get her hands dirty but she can sit there and be disrespectful and not listen to my rules the father is never here he works early in the morning and comes home after the kids go to bed so I'm with them 24/7 I don't know what else to do I can't deal with the disrespectfulness anymore
I try not to say much and bring the situation up because it always starts an argument whatever I say anything about the girls he gets a really overprotective and gets an attitude with me I guess he thinks that if he that's too many boundaries and yells at the girls and punish him for the things that they are doing the girls are going to want to go live with there mother because he has full custody of him I guess they want to do what they want don't get me wrong they go to school they get good grades and stuff it's just a disrespectfulness I get from the one girl it's uncalled for and totally unacceptable
I have spoken to the mother before and I said to her the girls can do no wrong they don't get punished in her response was well they are Daddy's Girls and then she called their father and said why is it that me the step mom is getting mad that he's not punishing the girls what does she want them to get hit or punished or whatever
I had too continue here from last post hun. But leave her in lounge bottomless for an hour and tell her shes grounded for two weeks with early bedtime for the two weeks hun and a spanked bottom every second evening before early bedtime. Trust me when your partner sees the diffrence in his little angels behaviour he will back you. Be firm with her and dont let her dictate too you. Please follow through with wath im telling you hun. We did it with our girls as told you. But it is worth it and if you love your partner and them girls like i beleave you do hun then follow through. Please post back hun for anymore advoice and even if you want too know how too spank her. The girl is craveing discipline and needs boundaries. My heart goes out too you hun and please stay strong and firm and look forward too hare from you hun. I send you love and huggs from a step mother also hun...
Meant too say hun. Dont forget too tell her you love her and even hugg her after words. We do it with our girls and will create a bond between yous and make her feel safe. Talk soon hun **..
That is certainley not on and you are more off a mother than their mom and in their lifes since they are 8 years old hun. You realy have too put down your foot here and tell your partner you will walk out if boundaries and discipline in not brought in and ** and peeing their ** is totaly un acceptable hun. The way that child speaks too you is a disgrace and my oldest stepdaughter started pooing and peeing her ** last year when she was 9 and we tried everything includeng doctors and he said it was nothing medical and shes was just being lazy. We asked her so many times why she done it and she allways told us it was an accident. Then one day i was sitting in lounge and watched her on purpose ** and pee her **. That was it and my husband was at work and so rang him too tell him what happend and we bought agreed she needed too be punished. I brought her up too the bathroom and stripped her and explained too her that what she was doing was not acceptable and she will be punished. I bathed her and then dried her and brought her too her room and told her we loved her very much but shes getting a spanking and its what she got. She was grounded for two weeks and put too bed at 6 evening and spanked every second evening before bedtime. She done it again few times after words and resulted in same results for her and has not done it in lt since. I personaly would wait till she came home from school and confront her about her behavior and tell her she will be disciplined in futore for bad behaviour and would not give her chance too get in my face or throw tantrum. Take her too lounge and off chorse she will scream and struggle and from what you say have few curse words. But her skirt and ** would be off her and give her the spanking she needs and dont let her up till her bottom is glowing red and tears are for real and is promiseing too behave herself. That child needs a sharp shock too her system.or she will be in alot off trouble when she gets older...
I totally agree with you she needs an ** beating but I have been told over and over again that she is not my biological child and he does not give me permission to discipline or smack her I will go to jail for it but yes the situation with the underwear is ridiculous I had walked into the room and it smelled up like a straight-up boys locker room and I had found her ** underwear hidden in her clothes on the floor I asked him what the problem is and why they're doing it and they tell me oh I didn't wipe properly or I didn't know that I ** my pants excuse me but you do know when you ** your pants and when you have something down there and then there was a comment made that oh I was playing and I was too busy doing something and I just didn't feel like going to the bathroom they will stay that way all day with ** and ** in their underwear I don't know what to do things are out of control I keep telling their father that this isn't normal they should not be ** and shittin in their underwear at 13 years old their girls they have their periods they're going to get infections but like I said time and time again he baby them too much as long with their grandmother she baby them too she actually scrubs their underwear out I refuse to they can do that there's times where I'm taking their clothes to separate them so I could do their laundry and turds with a Fallout on my dining room floor I will put my hand in the basket to grab something and I would get ** on my fingers this is totally unacceptable I taken time out of my day to wash their clothes and I come upstairs to find their clothes on their floor and their bedroom when they were supposed to be hung up it's just little things they don't appreciate anything that I do and I'm the one here with them all the time this whole situation is beyond frustrating and I don't know who else to talk to so I'm glad I found this confessions post
You there hun. Hugg you and you can even talk too me about anything thats on.your chest..
Just too remind you hun. Im here if you just want too let off steam or just for chit chat. Your on my mind hun and like i said i honestley know what its like. Keep in touch here if you like hun and hugg too you. From a step mom who knows....