My husband is getting fat

I met and married an Englishman 5 years ago and we moved to the USA as it is where I am originally from. Early in the marriage he cheated on me and being religious I decided to forgive him. But I did not forgive his waistline. To say I put a belly on him is an understatement, with the aid of my mother and good old fashioned American cooking we have more than doubled his weight in 4 years. He was not used to the big portions and fried food from where I come from. He now sports a double belly and has had to give up golf as it was affecting his swing.

Seems like he got what he deserved. I’m sure his fat belly prevents any interest from mistresses these days.

Yea. I’m not sure his elasticated pants and back support girdle he now has to wear would impress many aspiring mistresses!

Very kind of you. Many women might have left. But instead you helped him realize how good he has it with your homecooking, and in the process, you also helped ease him into a different body type that will keep the temptation at bay.

I guess the question for many women is whether you wait until the need arises or whether you nip those tendencies to cheat in the bud from day one. Especially if you can see his appetite is going to blimp him up in a couple years anyway. Maybe better him as your fat hubby now than watching his waist spill out later with someone else patting his paunch.

My thoughts exactly. Men are inherently unfaithful because of how physical their attractions are, so you’re better off putting a belly on him fast to signal to other women that your fatty is already taken.

Exactly. Between wedding planning and the honeymoon, it’s easy to put get a husband to put on the first 25 pounds. Then you reassure him that the weight gain looks good on him and increase his portion size. By the first anniversary he’ll be at least 50 pounds heavier. Goal achieved!

Thanks for sharing. You really reined him in, taken away outside distractions, and double teamed him together with Mom to rock his world. I know he has enjoyed every bite and pound along the fat journey, which is far from over.

My wife has gained a significant amount of weight over the last couple years and is now considered obese by a BMI chart, but I love her new size and how she feels. I don’t want her to lose any weight at all!

I lot of men feel like you do and wish their wives would get bigger. How much has she gained and what weight is she now?

She was 110 pounds when we started dating and about 5’5. Very slim body. Now she is about 180 pounds and we are married. She gained that weight in about five years. She’s filled out a lot and is very curvy and a little pudgy in some areas, which is wonderful. Very **.

I've seen several techies get supa fat right after getting married. It dawns on me that some of the best coders I know, and also the fattest, and least neurotic, and still married I might add, happen to be ones that married nurturing types.

Being skinny was pointless for them anyway when their most physically demanding task was counting all the zeroes in their paycheck. But with a wifey taking care of them and making sure they never missed a meal, their waist got pillowy soft but it allowed them to focus on a razor sharp tech game.

I'm suspect their wives were quite content with a dough boy figure bringing in six figures of dough.

I’ve watched my husband get fat on me. He used to be so slim, now he has a big, hanging guy over his belt and a double chin. I’m not as attracted to his fat version.

How much has he put on and how much does he weigh now. Was it over a period of time. Maybe he has just got comfortable in the marriage.

About 60 pounds in three years. He weights about 250 pounds now.

It depends on his height but that’s a large weight gain. Have you considered putting him on a strict diet?

We haven’t really talked about how fat he’s become. I probably should, or it’s going to come out in a big way someday and I will blow up about it. I’m just very frustrated.

I feel like society has recently shifted to glorifying fatness, fat people, a fat lifestyle, plus-size models, etc. and is making it feel like being overweight is acceptable. This post is evidence of what I’m talking about.
Being overweight isn’t that healthy, but being obese or very obese is not healthy at all, which is what we are being told is now OK. I understand it can be difficult to maintain a healthy weight (I haven’t been perfect), but just because it’s hard doesn’t mean you pull a 180 and start glorifying being fat instead of trying to be fit.

A lot of guys don't know what to do with a flat belly anyway once they're married:
- Post headless six pack photos on tinder? Very bad idea.
- Impress the ladies at the beach? Sorry, not for sale anymore.
- Squeeze into basketball shorts for a game? And when's the last time that actually happened?
- Try out for mens' cheerleading? Too late for that!
- Hide behind your wife when someone's bothering her? Another bad idea.
- Seeing who can fill up on the most boring salad? No thanks!

On the other hand, with a fat belly:
- Provide a soft pillow on movie night? Sweet!
- Extra room for homecooking or dinner and movie and a dessert or MIL's pie? Yum!
- Letting her get lost in a teddy bear hug after she's had a rough day? This is why she loves you!
- Matching bumps when wifey's pregnant? How thoughtful!
- Matching the other daddy beer guts watching the game? Who knows .. if you're kind to a good cook and host, she might make you into CEO of game night!
- Fitting into a big enough hoodie that she can share when she happens to relax a bit too? How generous!
- Keeping the hoes from hitting on you as much when you're tempted? Thank you belly!
- Looking like a grizzly bear when someone's bothering her? You the man!
- Being a little more understanding and not making her so self-conscious when that baby weight sticks around? You're a keeper!
- Not making her feel like she's going to break you? More cushin for the pushin? Lasting longer? Yes! Yes! YES!

Well, there be pluses and minus, my friend .
If you stay skinny, you can run away when she try to smack you for hiding behind her in a kerfuffle.
If you stay skinny, you can impress her in the bedroom and threaten to woo other chicks with your six pack if she don't drop the baby weight pronto.
If you stay skinny, your mother in law will be less likely to eat you, in case she's really only feeding you cause she's a witch.
If you stay skinny, you got a better chance of swinging to someone 30 years younger when she get old.
If you stay skinny, you can fit into her clothes instead of her only wearing yours. More free clothes bro!
If you stay skinny, you won't need much food anyway when she gets mad at you and refuses to cook.
And if you stay skinny, when she kick you out the door, you can squeeze back in thru the window!

I’m tiny and my boyfriend is chubby and I like it for all the reasons you just explained, especially movie night and the teddy bear! 🍿 🧸

Matching baby bumps?!! Ha ha ha!!!

My husband is getting fat, too, but unlike you, I’m not liking it at all. He used to be so fit and cut with a nice, manly chin line. He now is looking more like his dad, big all around with a double chin. He’s probably gained 50 pounds, so he isn’t extremely big, but he definitely has a pot belly now, softer chest with a chubbier face and double chin. I haven’t been into the changes at all, but I don’t want to tell him that. He’s still an amazing husband and father, just a fatter one now. Am I wrong for not liking this new version of him?

That pot belly will get a lot bigger unless you address it. Men gain most weight on their tummy’s believe me from experience. Sounds like he has got comfortable in the marriage.

I like the idea he’s getting fat because he wants to stay with me, but I’m concerned because I’m not attracted to it. So, on one hand it’s kind of sweet. On the other hand, I’m just not into it physically. Not sure what to do.

Its a hard call but he will continue to gain if he thinks you don’t mind. My husband has gained over 100 pounds in quite a short time.

Wow! 😳 What happened?! Did you help him gain that much weight?

Do you like how he looks bigger? My problem is I’m not really attracted to him when he looks like this.

How do I address it? Any advice for me?

Firstly are you serious about addressing it?. If you are I would reduce his food intake by putting him on a low calorie diet. He will loose weight off his chin and face but it’s hard getting rid of a pot belly once it has formed. Sit ups and lying on his back and bringing his knees up should help with that.

I was already a bit of a fat guy when I got married at 250 lbs. and 6 feet tall. My wife was 120 lbs. and is 5’5 feet tall when we were engaged, very slim physique. Her mother warned her to not adopt my eating habits when we got engaged.
Well, three months into our marriage, my wife gains about 20 lbs. just from the honeymoon and newlywed life. We just spent a lot of time enjoying each other and relaxing, and of course, eating. I also gained 20 lbs.
About a year later, we find out we are pregnant and we are so excited. By then she had put on another 10 lbs., so she was probably 150 lbs. when we found out we were going to have a baby.
Throughout the pregnancy, I gained another 20 lbs. and she gained 70-80 lbs. She looked amazing. She was about 225 lbs. with a ** pregnant belly and massive **. She was so big and heavy that it was difficult on her body. Just 15 months before, she was almost half that size. Now, she was this big, beautiful mother-to-be, and she looked amazing.
She had a great delivery and started trying to get her body back, but got injured because she wasn’t used to exercising at that weight. She rolled her ankle and had to take three months off. And with that three months off, not only did she not lose any weight, but she gained 10 more lbs. So after the weight gain, delivery of the baby, losing a little weight and then gaining 10 lbs., she was about 205 lbs.
When we married, she was 120 lbs. and super **. Now, she is 205 lbs. and I like how she looks even more. I didn’t think I would be into her weight gain and new body, but I love it. She’s so curvy and **. And she says she loves my chubby body, too.

What do you like about her being so big now?

I like her overall figure. Everything is bigger and softer and curvier. Her cup size went up a couple sizes. Her ** got bigger and her thighs were bigger. She developed a belly. It all looks really good on her.

That’s some weight gain in a short time. She has nearly doubled her weight. What do you weigh now?

Last time I got on the scale was a couple months ago and the scale said 295 lbs. back then. It could be 300 lbs. by now. Not really sure.
Yea, it was almost doubling her weight, and she wasn’t used to carrying that much weight. She rolled her ankle doing an exercise she used to do when she was 120 lbs., not almost 200 lbs.

That is some weight gain in a short space of time. Hardly surprising given you height and starting weight differences she probably got used to your portion sizes. How much do you weigh now?

She is 205 lbs. and I’m 295 lbs.

What does your wife think of her new weight and what does her mum think of her daughter nearly doubling her weight?

Wow! Wow! Wow! She blew up like a balloon! But I’m glad you like her bigger size.

I’ve read your post and some of the comments below. Frankly, you people are killing your significant others slowly. They are at increased risk levels for all sorts of medical issues that will prematurely end their life. And then you’ll have to pay extra for the “fat casket” to stick them in the ground when they are buried.

That’s pretty harsh! I’m guessing you’re a skinny Karen who has her life all put together nice and fine. Let people live their lives. You have nothing to do with how fat or skinny people want to be. You don’t have to be the boss of everyone.

My wife is a good cook, and I have little time for myself with a demanding job. Because of that, I’ve gained about 40 lbs. in the last two years. I noticed my wife was buying less of the food I like and serving me smaller portions of healthier food. She often invited me to go to the gym with her, but usually I am so tired that I don’t take her up on the offer. She was also initiating intimacy less and rebuffing my advances about two thirds of the time.
Then one night, she invited me to the gym and I told her I was too tired and she blew up at me. She said she wasn’t attracted to the “fat” version of me at all, that she could barely stand looking at my body naked and wanted me to lose all the extra weight plus lose a little bit more and get more muscles. She said she wasn’t interested in ** anymore until things changed with my body and I started slimming down. She was going to start taking separate showers because she didn’t want to see me without clothes on.
It was hard to hear. I’ve tried to lose some of the weight, but I haven’t made much progress. And she has definitely not been interested in any intimacy since she yelled at me. I’m in a difficult spot. I feel like I’m a fat guy losing his marriage.

It can be a tricky spot. I was worried when I started putting on a few pounds, because my wife liked buff guys as I used to be. but then I noticed my she was springing for desserts a little more often too. I was quick to bring out the ice cream when she asked, and never discouraged her from a steak. Now that we've both climbed the scale, it's been a relief. I dare say she's hinted at some relief that I'm matching her as well.

How much have you both gained?

Sounds like you both have gained a little weight. What did that do to your relationship?

How much weight did you gain?

I’m sorry to hear that, man. It’s messed up for her to treat your fat ** that way. What are you going to do?

I’m a big guy now. I wasn’t before meeting my wife. But after we were married, she told me that she would prefer me at a heavier weight and asked me to gain 20-30 pounds for her. I was a little hesitant, but she made it enjoyable by fixing me my favorite meals and desserts. I’m now about 250 pounds with a big stomach and double chin, but she treats me like a king. I can’t complain too much.

You sound like you’re ** for her. Lucky girl!

If you were 220 already, sounds like you were already kinda fat. She just pushed you along to your true potential!

How do you feel about being fat?

When I married my husband 18 months ago I was 350lbs and he was 140. Now I am 280 lbs and he is 320lbs! Most of his gain is on his belly lol. His mother is not too happy with me lol

He sounds like a big boy! Congrats on the weight loss (and the weight gain)!!

He is a big boy Lol and gaining quickly! He has become addicted to my home cooking and his portion sizes are double than Before he got married

How did you lose the weight? How much weight do you want to lose?

Sounds good. If you date a big girl and don't let her fatten you up, I think you're really missing out on one of the best parts. Most really know their way around the kitchen, so it can be an experience like no other, and most won't give you a hard time when you end up displaying their delicious talent around your newly jiggling waist. Some might even be proud!

As long as the extra waist line coincides with some extra lovin’!

Oh, Wow! 😳

Yea mostly on his belly lol

Do you enjoy having your husband bigger than you? My hubby was also skinny when we were first married and now that I have fattened him up and slimmed down I feel so much more secure.

Why do you feel guilty if you both like it?

I think because the bigger he gets, the more attracted I am to him. So I’m not encouraging him to lose any weight. And he’s obviously less healthy now than he used to be. I think that’s why I feel guilty.

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for three years and she’s probably gained 30 lbs. during that time. And she looks amazing! The extra weight looks so good on her.

My wife consistently goes up and down in weight like a yo-yo. Every couple years, she will gain 30 pounds in six months, get upset, then lose 20-25 pounds of her gain in six months (and keep about 5-10 pounds). She’s done that for the last ten years. At this point, she’s probably about 40-50 heavier than when we married since she doesn’t always lose all the weight all the time. I don’t mind the extra weight (I actually think she looks better at her heavier weights), but the cycling can get emotionally exhausting for me because she gets depressed when she gains and she’s a zealot when she’s trying to lose (and that also affects the food I get to eat).