My husband is getting fat

Does anyone have a hubby who is as wide around his middle as he is tall? If so what do you think about it?

I’m not sure that is possible. He would be a circle at that point.

I’m not a chubby hubby, but I am a wobbly wife. I’ve put on more than three stone since we married. My husband says he still fancies me and doesn’t mind the extra chubbiness, but I’m quite a bit bigger now all around, but especially my **. It’s harder to lose weight than it looks...

My wife has an 70 inch ** hence 4 babies in 6 years lol

It’s not too bad a gain, how much do you weigh now? and hubby has said to you he still fancies you which is the main thing.

I was 10 stone. Now I’m 13 stone with an even gain around my body. Although it seems he’s noticed the ** more than anything.

I feel terrible for saying this, but if you showed a 2020 pic of the man I married in 2006, I would not have gone through with it. I married a lean, beautiful man and I now I live with a bloated, unattractive couch potato who hasn't even so much as taken a walk in the last three years. And it's getting more difficult - I am noticing young men at coffee shops and elsewhere, and am dreaming about a muscled man on top of me, a strong man. I have kept myself in shape and actually weigh 7 pounds less than when we married. I just can't get into his fat...it grosses me out.

How much has he gained and why?
What are his obstacles to losing the extra weight?
What would ultimately make you happiest and what would ultimately be an OK compromise for you?

I don’t think you have to feel bad about not appreciating his weight gain. You don’t have to be happy about that. But when you married him, you likely promised that in good times and bad times and in sickness and in health that you would work together as partners.
From your perspective, you’ve kept up your end of the bargain but he has not (based on just physical health). I think reasonable people would agree.
But you both will get older, will eventually lose some youth and beauty and might struggle with health. Most couples do.
So the key is probably to curb that as much as possible. But from your comments, it sounds like you are more uninterested in him sexually because he’s gained weight (and that’s your preference), but if everything else has stayed the same (attentive, good partner, works hard at his employment, etc.), then maybe you just need to have an honest conversation with him (not too honest) and ask how you can help him regain some of his youth and strength by slimming down.
I think you also need to explore why he has gained the weight, like no time for himself, too tired, stressed out at work, doesn’t exercise at all, doesn’t eat well enough, etc., and figure out how you can help him.
My husband became quite big and it became difficult to be intimate because of his tummy. So I told him how I felt and better ** + his health was enough to motivate him to make some changes. He is still working on it, but his mindset is different.
I also think some women in the comments below have gotten past the extra weight and see it as endearing. Maybe review what they said and see if there is anything that you resonate with. I know reading some other experiences have made me more accepting of my current situation.
Not trying to preach to you! Just trying to help as someone who is also going through a similar experience!

That’s good, solid advice! Thanks for sharing.

I understand where you are coming from. I’m not waddling around with 50+ pounds of post-pregnancy weight, so why does my husband get to lug around a 50+ pound beer belly?

50lbs, you’re lucky, more like 80lbs for my husband and his big beer belly. Most men think getting fat after marriage is a given. Mine comes home every Friday night, belly full of beer and makes love to me. Not pretty with his big belly on top of me, bed springs protesting, 4 or 5 minutes of out of breath panting, then snoring. And they have the cheek to criticise any pregnancy weight gain!

Unfortunately, I have been waddling around for two years with an extra 50 lbs. My husband says he doesn’t mind, but I don’t believe him.

I get you and how you are feeling. We women sometimes let our minds wander and think about things that maybe would be best if we didn’t. Sounds like you need to chat with him (and maybe put him on a treadmill 🏃🏽).

It must be so frustrating for you, he needs to get moving or he will just get fatter and fatter. My hubby has put so much weight on his tummy he can place his huge plate of food between the top of his tummy and his moobs. He needs to get active too, as it’s concerning me that it takes him 2 or 3 goes to get up from the sofa!

I love a fat boy! They are the best! 💗

At 36 I’m 10 years older than my hubby and I am his feeder. Just before we got married 3 years ago and set up home I explained to him what my feeder fetish was. I told him that once we were married I expected him to gain a considerable amount of weight to please me. He just nodded and I don’t think he took me seriously. 3 years and over 100lbs later I think he is beginning to take me seriously. The best part for me is his new moobs and big pot belly are in a race to see which sticks out more lol.

What's his current weight at?

Do you have a goal weight in mind for him?

How does he feel about being your tubby hubby?

He is 270 lbs from being 150 lbs. we are looking at a goal of 420lbs. I have increased his calorie intake of late with bedtime milkshake stuffings. 2000 calorie 2 litre whole fat milk, peanut butter, whole cream and ice cream. He loves it, make love, he lasts 3 minutes if I’m lucky then it’s lights out for hubby.

Don’t overfeed that fat boy!

Lol. Aiming now for a 14lbs gain per month. Only concern is gravity is affecting his pot belly in that it’s starting to hang. If he only gains weight on his belly and moobs he will have an apron belly hanging down to his knees lol

What’s the best thing about a fat husband with a big tummy?

You know he's not going to run away! Also, it's nice to snuggle up to. And, it's true, other women find him less attractive than when he was fit and lean and hot.

Security. Most fat boys aren’t dogs trying to find their next bone.

Coming up behind him as he's standing at the kitchen sink and wrapping your arms around his big belly, and squeezing his love handles! I think it's adorable. And even more adorable when he just lets you do it and isn't self-conscious.

I would say that becoming overweight usually takes the edge off of someone, like diminishes their ego. So they end up treating people nicer than maybe a less attractive version of themselves would. In marriage, the fatter a man gets, the nicer he seems to become.

I honestly like the way it looks, especially with the shirt off. I always had crushes on fat boys in grammar school, they just seemed smarter and more sensitive. I love when my man turns to the side when he's in the bedroom at the closet and OMG what a big tummy full of jelly! Or when he sits on the bed to take his shoes off and you can see the rolls. I LOVE the feeling of being crushed (not TOO hard!) when he's on top of me and I feel his fat covering me and he WANTS me, that really makes me happy, being wanted by my chubby honey. (Hope this isn't TMI!)

I like to snuggle up to him while we are going to sleep or waking up and just run my hand and arm up and down and around his big tummy. He was so skinny when we got married. Now, I can barely get my hands all the way around him for a hug. I just love caressing and stroking his belly, and he loves the belly rubs, too.

A big tummy means security and happiness for me. Some women view it as letting himself go or getting lazy on the relationship. I view it as he is happy in his relationship with me and isn’t looking to leave. Based on that perspective, I’ve become attracted to his larger size rather than resentful. When I see his tummy it reminds me of us and his commitment to us, and that makes me very happy, and very excited for him in a romantic sense.

I’m just attracted to a fat belly. Not really sure why, but I just am. Not too fat, but modestly fat with a nice belly bulge that’s soft and cute and squishy. Once you get to 300 lbs., that’s too big for me.

I’m not a wife with a husband getting fat, but I am a pregnant lady getting fat (and my husband is dealing with it). I’ve gained 57 pounds in 6.5 months. I’m just always hungry and too tired to exercise! 😢

Wow! That’s a lot of weight gained, you’re heading for a 100lbs weight gain the way you are eating. How is your husband dealing with it? What weight are you now?

I hope I don’t gain 100 pounds! 😳
I was about 130 pounds when we got pregnant, so I’m almost 190 pounds now.
At first he was OK with the weight (and a little turned on, actually), but as I have gotten bigger, he has been less interested in ** and physically touching me. He was really into all the bodies changes (bigger **, growing belly, more **, etc.) until about 170 pounds, and he’s acted differently these last 20 pounds.

Honey, that’s a lot of weight this early. What has your doctor said?

That’s not all baby weight, baby. You’re gonna be real fat once that baby comes out. 👶🏻

I was a similar age and weight when I had my first, gaining over 80lbs. I never recovered from that weight gain. 5 years later I’ve just had my third and I’m hitting the scales at 350lbs. Husband adores every pound of me, so relax, eat up and enjoy your fat journey!

Bye bye 130lbs😀

Don’t worry love. There are some nice tent style dresses you can wear to keep hubby interested lol

Don’t worry about all the haters. Be big and pregnant and fabulous. It’s really the only time where you can just relax. You have your whole life to be skinny and in shape. Enjoy your pregnancy!

My mother has admitted she is responsible for my hubby gaining over 40lbs in just over a year when she moved in with us. My hubby works from home and my mum likes to cook and bake, so while I’m at work she has been over feeding him with home baked treats, fried breakfast, mid morning donuts and heavy lunches. He has now got used to being pampered and he now has quite a belly on him lol

Do you like his new belly?

How does he feel about his new tummy?

How do you like his new belly? More, less or about the same attraction level as before?

Does your mum feel bad for doing that to your (chubby) hubby?

Wow, that's a lot of fat in just one year.

Sounds like perhaps your feeder mother could use a replacement man to fatten and feed. Does your husband have a brother, per chance?

If he does not, and you wish for him to not grow as huge as your late father, yet your mother would still like someone to feed, fatten, pamper and stuff with food as she pleases then I offer myself.

I'm a man actually looking for a dedicated feeder such as your mother, as odd as it is. Yes, I know the associated risks, and am fully prepared to accept them. At least it would be mutually beneficial to us all; your husband could get out of being your mother's pet pig and not end up like your father, your mother has someone new that she may feed and pamper and fatten as she pleases without limit, and I finally get to have someone as my feeder. I hope that you will at least think on it and get back to me with an answer.

My info, in case you accept my offer and wish to discuss details: feedthefatty2748 [at] gmail.com

Sounds like perhaps your feeder mother could use a replacement man to fatten and feed. Does your husband have a brother, per chance?

If he does not, and you wish for him to not grow as huge as your late father, yet your mother would still like someone to feed, fatten, pamper and stuff with food as she pleases then I offer myself.

I'm a man actually looking for a dedicated feeder such as your mother, as odd as it is. Yes, I know the associated risks, and am fully prepared to accept them. At least it would be mutually beneficial to us all; your husband could get out of being your mother's pet pig and not end up like your father, your mother has someone new that she may feed and pamper and fatten as she pleases without limit, and I finally get to have someone as my feeder. I hope that you will at least think on it and get back to me with an answer.

My info, in case you accept my offer and wish to discuss details: feedthefatty2748 [at] gmail

Hope you've convinced your mum to stop enabling and over feeding him. I feel for you and your husband.

Could you update us on the situation?
Is your mum still feeding him?
What's his weight now?

I would love to put a big belly on my boyfriend, but I am struggling to put weight on him. Has anyone any tips or ideas?

Get to know his favorite foods. Feed him more than usual. Decrease his exercise. Make him new, fatty dishes. Rub his belly as it starts poking out. Be loving and physical with his shape as he progresses from skinny to chubby. Compliment him on his belly.

It’s really about more calorie intake than calorie burning. Men’s bodies gain weight in very predictable ways. 99% of men will get fat bellies before the rest of their body starts adding weight.

You could just tell him you want him a little chubbier and see if he’s willing to get a little tubby for you.

Usually drinking calories is a little sneakier. Feeding him a little more, but exchanging water for higher-calorie beverages immediately adds more calories into the diet. Sodas, juices, alcohol, milkshakes, etc. - they don’t really make you feel full, but it’s extra calories that you aren’t eating. Just be prepared to gain a little weight with him so it’s not so obvious. You’ll have to increase your drinks (just not as much) if you want him to not notice as much. My BF gained about 25 pounds this way (and I gained about 10 pounds).

Just keep feeding him so that his belly is full all the time. First thing in the morning and especially before going to bed at night. Aim for five big meals a day and his belly will adjust to that and expand. Believe me!

If you really want to get him BIG, make him eat until he can't take another bite, then rub his belly and reward him with s e x. This will cause him to associate food with arousal and over time his capacity and appetite will grow enormously. Do this and I guarantee he'll get HUGE within two years.

This is so adorable - as long as he doesn't feel bad about his body and his blood pressure and cholestorol are not acting up, I say feed your fat boy and love him up! :) A fat man doesn't stray, either.

This sounds really Wrong

Has anyone on here gained a significant amount of weight on purpose?

I’m not sure if we purposefully gained weight, but after our wedding my wife and I said we would spend the first year just doing what we wanted and enjoying each other. The result of that was a lot of relaxing and good food. At our anniversary, she had gained 28 pounds and I had gained 37 pounds. That was all in one year. We decided to be a little more thoughtful with our habits after that. But she still was ** to me.

My wife gained about 50 lbs. with her first pregnancy. She kept about 25 lbs. of it, and then I gained about 20 lbs. in that same year from indulging in her cravings and having a baby turn our world upside down. We lovingly refer to it as “our fat year” when we talk about that time.

I gained about 50 lbs. for my now wife. We were dating and she said she liked husky guys so I packed on 50 lbs. and we got married a year later. Still happily married and still fat.

My BF has dated a lot of plus-size girls in the past, so I’m letting my weight creep up a little as we date. Its been about 15 additional pounds in 6 months. Had to buy new jeans so far.

My husband asked me to keep on my baby weight from my pregnancy. Your body naturally loses some of the weight, so I indulged my sweet tooth a little to get some pounds back on and keep on the weight. He loves the extra chubbiness!

I had recently left a somewhat emotionally abusive relationship where my boyfriend always made me feel self-conscious about my size. I’m not skinny, but not really fat. More like borderline, almost plus-size. You wouldn’t look at me and say I was fat, but your first thought also would not be that I’m skinny. But he made me feel huge.
Anyway, I met my current boyfriend soon after breaking up with the other guy, and he was always so complimentary on my size and looks. He would always say something like, “my friends can’t believe how beautiful you are” or “you’re an incredibly ** woman.” Stuff like that. And he meant it.
One night I told him about some of my insecurities and his response was that I’m beautiful inside and out and losing or gaining weight won’t change that.
So a year later we are still dating and he has stuffed me like a turkey! He’s amazing and handsome and wonderful. I’m still the same person, with a little more confidence in myself thanks to him (and an extra 25 pounds thanks to him!) and I’ve never been happier with my dating life.

I have been married to my husband for 3 years and have a mixed weight relationship. On marriage I was 310lbs and he was 130lbs. A year into the marriage I asked him to gain 28lbs as I felt he was underweight and it would do him good, so he started to eat the same portions/food as me. 2 years later the weight difference between us has reduced dramatically as he has nearly gained 80lbs. His belly has swollen up like a basketball and he has love handles around his waist. Love to watch him snoring on the couch content as a cat lol

I did! I had a new medication and weight gain was a side effect, so I said just ** it. It was overall a healthier option than some of the other medications I could take, so I went with the fat one. I was curious to see how it affected my dating life. I gained 30 pounds (size 4 to size 10) and men were still interested at a heavier weight, so I might try and lose the weight when the medication is finished or I might just stay this size. It hasn’t been bad for me to be bigger.

I want my wife to gain weight. She’s about 5’6” and 120 pounds. I would really like if she gained 30-50 pounds and became fat and more curvy, but I don’t know how to tell her that.

I think you can be honest and up front with her and just say that you think she would look ** at a heavier weight, too, and then she can decide what to do with that information. Maybe she gains weight, maybe she doesn’t. That’s up to her, though.

Do you not like her body the way it is now? She seems very fit.

I like her body now. I’m just very attracted to a plump body with curves, and I think I would be even more attracted to her if she was bigger.

"She seems very fit?" She could be 5'6 and 120 pounds and have pneumonia or cancer. You know no information besides her height and weight. *Dumbell of the Year Award*

I don’t understand why all these women want a fat husband. Please explain it to me.

I will speak just for myself. Not sure how other women feel, but they can provide their own input.
My husband was skinny and is now fat. And I love it. I love him and I love his large body. I love trying to put my arms all the way around him when I hug him. I love how powerful he looks and feels. I love how his body looks. I love he likes my cooking. I love his big belly and watching him grow fatter during our marriage. I love that his weight gain has made me feel really secure in our relationship.
I’ve loved everything about him going from skinny to fat with me.

For me, as a woman, who is plus size, there is nothing to beat putting a substantial belly on a young husband or boyfriend. It is a signature stamp that effectively takes him off the market and proves he is willing to get fat with/for you. It brings security to a wife or girlfriend to watch him eat your food till his belly is fit to burst, and boy those tummy rubs are great!

I’m also a plus size woman, a little on the chubby side. It looks better when a chubby girl is with a chubby boy. When my husband was skinnier, we would often get disparaging looks from others because of our weight differences. Now that’s he’s a little fat, people don’t look at us the same way.

It’s hard to explain. I find fat men do as they’re told. I dated a skinny guy and as soon as he moved in with me I told him bluntly I liked fat men. I started to feed him more than he was used to and within 2 years he has gained 70lbs and quite a weight problem. I married him and we are both happy and he has adapted to his new size.

I’m very petite. 5’2” and 105-110 lbs. A small woman. My mom is, too. But she fattened up my dad and I just now associate a fat husband with a nice and happy husband now. They have such a good marriage. So I think I just look for huskier men because of how good of a husband my dad is. My mom attributes it partly to his weight gain. She said he became nicer and more gentle the fatter he became.

I just like a hefty, round belly. Not really sure why, but I’m just attracted to a rotund figure. I like to have some belly on my man to hug and cuddle on. Fat bellies are more intimate and fun.

I’m into big bellies. I’ve dated guys who were skinny and guys who were fat. Generally speaking, the fat guy was always a better boyfriend. Almost always. So I will date any body type, but I get secretly more excited if he’s a little pudgy because I sense more potential in him for me.

Have you been with a big belly boy? If you have, then you would understand how ** some extra chubbiness can be on your man.

I just told my boyfriend that I wanted him fat when we started getting serious. Just told him that’s what I find **. Three years later, he’s 50 lbs. heavier and I love it! 💕

It's definitely a good check to find out if he's really into you. Who else is he trying to keep that boyish figure for, if you're not into it? Erasing those abs is like erasing the exes phone numbers. Won't be needing them any more sweetie!

Omg this is so accurate! The fatter they get, the less the exes come around when they are lonely. My husband answered a PM on Facebook with nothing but a current pic of him from a picnic where he wasn't wearing a shirt and was eating a sandwich. He is 5'9 and waist 44. He never heard back from the ex!

I would consider putting another 50lbs on him. I was responsible for my hubby’s initial 50lbs gain, but then I got carried away and encouraged him to more than double his weight in the next few years. Overfeeding, overeating, cooking and baking, I put a tummy on him so big he needs help putting his socks on, and has difficulty turning in bed lol. He is sitting at 350lbs now too fat and lazy to diet. All he cares about is me and putting food into his big fat tummy.

You like him that big?

Yes, I do. He was 5 foot 4 and 130lbs when I met him and now he is as wide as he is tall. I love the way the extra weight has mellowed him and made him lethargic. I was always big anyway, just under 300lbs myself lol.

😳 That’s a big boy!

If your husband was skinny, then 50 pounds may only be enough to bring him up to normal weight. You’ll need to put another 50 pounds on him to put a stamp around his belly, and also to curtail his aggressive impulses so he will do what he is told and be more considerate of your needs. The third 50 pounds is for “plus size” gals like me who like their husbands to be bigger than us :)

How did you put the extra weight on him?

When my now wife and I first started dating she told me one night that she is attracted to heavier men more than skinnier men. I really liked her and wanted to be with her, so I slowly started gaining weight while we continued to date. In the first year, I put on 20 lbs. She definitely cuddled on me more and touched me more with the extra weight. So the second year, I gained another 20 lbs. for a total weight gain of 40 lbs. and she told me one night that she was so attracted to my new body. She said that she always thought I was handsome, but really loved that I was stockier with a belly bulge now. We got married a year later, and I’ve gained another 30 lbs. in our five years of marriage (and I have a full-on, belly-over-my-belt stomach now).

I think you have a fat future ahead of you lol

70 pounds in 5+ years is definitely a fat future for this dude!

How big does she want you?!

I think she is OK with my current weight, although sometimes she teases me about getting bigger for her. I’m about six-feet tall and weigh between 260-270 lbs., depending on the day of the week. If it was completely up to her, I would probably be just about 300 lbs.

It is up to her and you will continue to gain under her supervision. Enjoy the ride🐷

Be careful that she doesn’t over-fatten you!

How do you feel about it?

Overall, satisfied. I loved her and wanted to be with her so adding some extra weight was worth it if it meant her interest would increase. And it wasn’t that bad because it was only 20 lbs., which isn’t too noticeable on men.
The bigger difference was the second 20 lbs. because that’s when my body went from a little weight gain to noticeably bigger. I had to buy new pants and shirts that fit better. It was harder to exercise. I could feel and see a belly starting to form. But she was very complimentary of how I looked. She was much more physical with me (hugs, kisses, cuddling, etc.) as I got bigger.
The last 30 lbs. have just made me look fat. If you gain 70 lbs. it will start to show on your face. My fingers are fatter. My legs and thighs are fatter. I know have a big belly that is really pronounced when I sit down or try to exercise.
I mentioned that I wanted to lose weight and she told me that she didn’t want me to. That she loved my size and wanted me to be her fat husband forever.