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Maybe I’m not a lesbian???
I have identified as a lesbian since high school. I’ve never had sexual or romantic feelings towards men until now. I’ve been in relationships with men before coming out as a lesbian, but they were unfulfilling, I never felt anything like love or list towards my previous boyfriends. I’ve been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years now. Recently I’ve been looking at my male coworkers differently. I wasn’t necessarily attracted to them at first, I just didn’t pay them much attention. But I started getting to know them personally and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about them for months. Wonder what a relationship with them would be like, what ** with a man would feel like. I’m so curious, and so intrigued, and so guilty. I love my girlfriend, and it’s not even a possibility that I would cheat or even entertain the idea. But I hate my thoughts for fixating on them so much. I hate my body for reacting to them the way it does. I feel disgusted with myself, and tormented everyday I see them. Even on days I don’t, I can’t get them out of my mind.
Jul 11
Ok, so I grew up as a tomboy, & far preferred to hang around with boys, who were much more fun than girls. I still prefer the company of guys, but adult relationships are far more complicated, & I identify as bisexual. It partly depends on how important ** is to you, & the fact is that ** with a guy is rarely fulfilling. Issues like erectile dysfunction, & the long male refractory period can mean many encounters can be disappointing, & you can generally feel yourself lucky experience a single **. ** with a girl, as you know, will never fail to give both partners as many powerful ** as each requires. No hangups, no delays, no disappointments, just pure pleasure. So you have to ask yourself what is attracting you to guys? Could it be a very natural urge to have kids? That problem is easily solved these days with IVF, as long as your partner also wants to be a mum. If it’s sexual curiosity, just get protected, go to a nightclub, grab a guy you fancy, & do the deed: just don’t expect fireworks. It’s just a shame you didn’t go the normal route & dated a few guys first before you went with a girl: then you would probably never have looked back. Good luck & have a great life with no regrets **
Why don't you talk with your girlfriend about your feelings. It has to be a natural emotion, I am sure she has them also on occasion. It may be time to experiment a little with a man or two. If you do, simply take precautions about becoming pregnant. Good Luck.
Try one on, or in, and see if you like. Maybe you just going through a bi phase. No harm in it.