My husband is getting fat

My wife and I have three kids (and one on the way). She was very slim when we started dating, were married and through her first two pregnancies. Her third pregnancy she relaxed a little (I did, too), gained a little more weight than before and she didn’t lose any of the baby weight after the delivery. She kept it on for years and even got a little bigger. And then we got pregnant with No. 4, and then she weighed more when we got pregnant than she did at 9 months of pregnancy with the first or second baby. We had to buy all new maternity clothes for No. 4 because she went from a size small to a size large, and none of the old clothes fit her anymore. I don’t really mind because I’ve gained weight, too, and I didn’t even have any kids. And she is still incredibly beautiful and extremely ** to me!

How much more does she weigh now than when you married?

She was 115 lbs. when we married. Gained 30 lbs. with our first two kids. She was probably 125 lbs. when we got pregnant for the third time, and in that pregnancy she gained 40 lbs. By the time we got pregnant with our fourth baby, my wife was between 180-190 lbs. since she didn’t lose any baby weight. She’s in her third trimester now, and she weighed 217 lbs. last doctor’s appointment. So she has gained more than 100 pounds during our marriage.

217 pounds with a cute pregnant belly sounds incredibly **!!

You sound like a very lucky and blessed man. Four kids. Attractive, plump wife. Enjoy! 👍🏻

I wish my wife would gain weight like that!

My bf has grown a little paunch belly and it’s so cute!

My boyfriend has a paunch belly now, too!! He didn’t have that until he started dating me. Last time we were with his parents his mom was teasing him about his new tummy. :)

That's the kind of girl you take home to mom. The one that is starting to make you fat. You get a little teasing, but mom and dad know you're happy now, and that way their jaws won't drop too hard when they see their son showing up again a few months later looking even rounder.

Exactly! I hope he wants to keep me around. His mom and dad are really sweet to me. Last time we saw them, his mom poked his belly and said a serious girlfriend looked good on him.

It can be awkward when you show up 20-30 pounds heavier. That was my last Christmas...

How did that go?

Paunch Burger!!! 🍔

My hubby developed a little paunch belly which quickly developed in a full grown one which he will never get rid off!

My wife made no secret about her planning on growing my man belly. She told me early on in dating that, “I’m going to take such good care of you. You will love my cooking and have a dad bod in a couple years.” She was right.

Sounds like she had plans to make you hers! ;)

Hehe, she took it easy on you. I've seen a few guys already busting out of their tux on their wedding day! The craziest is when they're dating a girl who loves to bake! They pass by dad bod at 65 miles an hour, or should I say 65 lbs a year!

A woman who bakes and bakes well is a sure sign you will eventually need bigger pants!! 🤪

As long as she kept her promise and took care of you, I don’t see any problem with her being honest! 😋

My hubby has always been lean and in shape. He had abs when we got married. I told him that I was impressed by all his hard work, but I wouldn’t mind him having a little paunch belly instead of abs. I told him to work on his arms, back and shoulders for him, but leave the tummy for me. And he did! :)
He’s strong and cut on top with a little belly for me! It’s so cute on him.

Why did he agree to do that?!!

Because he loves me!! 😍

My wife said she had to go to Target to buy a bigger bikini for the summer. She said her one from last year was too small.

Are you happy about it or sad about it?

Yes!! I can’t wait to see her little pot belly in a bikini this summer. 👙

Oh, yea! Women with that soft layer of belly fat that just sticks out a little are super **!!

Some soft belly sticking out of a bathing suit is beautiful!

I feel there is a double standard here. If this read “My wife is getting fat” instead, you wouldn’t see such supportive comments throughout this post. You would just see women attacking that husband. Change it to husband, and everyone seems to think it’s cute and caring of his wife/girlfriend to get him fat.

Meh, there's probably many reasons. There's likely deeply rooted biology at work.

In the animal world, the alpha male eats first and the beta waits for scraps. The paragons of masculinity in the animal kingdom like the grizzly bear, the gorilla, or the bull are impressive both for their strength AND their bulk. The male lion seems to defy the image, but upon close observation, even he mostly lays around while the lioness brings food and has him eat first.

On a different note, women are forced to gain as a natural part of pregnancy. Maybe there's a fitting justice in seeing a man carry a belly too. Plus, women are statistically more likely to be in vulnerable circumstances. Using her culinary talents to discourage a husband from straying is kind of a gentle show of strength.

So yeah, there's a double standard. But there's a double standard in the world too. And from the male point-of-view, I'm sure it balances out. That hanging gut helps keep him from chasing after other chicks, but it also shows he's being treated like a king.

I don't know about all that, but I know I'd love for a girl to want me fat. It's tough maintaining a gym bod. I'd trade in my six pack of abs for a six pack of beer if I knew she'd love a fatty all the same. So yeah, fatty lovers are hot. Wish I could find one!

I think deep down, any woman wants a loving and caring man first, and then be physically attracted to him second. I’ve seen a lot of guys with beautiful women way out of their leagues, but those men are typically incredibly good partners. And I’ve seen men who were absolute pigs and their relationships were horrible, even though they were gorgeous men. Plus, the better partner and person you are, the more naturally attractive you become.

Good points about the pregnant belly for women/ gut for men and women using it as a little leverage to keep an unstable situation more stable (men can have wandering eyes...). But I wonder if the big gut is a turnoff for women or if it’s just a sign that he’s off the market?

I think there is some self-conscious that equates heavier men with strength and heavier women with fertility. I don’t mean overly obese, but a plump man or woman triggers some security in our self-conscious.

How quickly did he go from a size 32 to a size 40?

About three or four years.

My husband keeps saying his body and back ache a little when he gets up. Wake up, Sherlock! You’ve put on 30 pounds in one year. Your body isn’t used to it. Hit the gym or quit complaining.

Ha ha! Yes, not being used to your new body and how it feels and moves can be hard with weight gain.

There might be other things he can do to help. A firm bed with a thin layer of memory foam has worked wonders. Natural supplements like Turmeric can help with joints too.

Tell that fatty to start running and doing strength exercises for his back! 🏋🏽🏃🏽

Lots of references to making them "too fat to cheat" below. It reminds me of this cute couple I knew a couple years ago. Pretty wife and handsome man. She was a great Southern cook, but kept the portions in control so they could both stay in shape.

One day, he admitted that he had an online affair with another woman. Apparently it never got physical, so he felt like it was safe to admit even to friends. But I'm guessing, despite her continuing pleasant smile, she didn't take it too well. Suddenly, month after month, he kept getting bigger and bigger and bigger.

At this point, she's more than ensured he won't be thinking about taking anything to a physical level. I half wonder if she intends to keep going until he's too fat to even ** off.

Was it noticeable how much weight she helped him gain?

Yeah, very much. Have you had American Southern cooking before? Fried chicken, mashed potatoes, cornbread, meat loaf, chess pie. That deliciousness can easily be weaponized. It looked like a bomb had gone off in his belly the way he was exploding out of his clothes.

Did she gain weight too with all that cooking or just him?

My husband and I both made a pact that weight gain is not a reason to divorce, only infidelity. So far, we’ve avoided a gain by supporting each other and exercising!

Definitely wouldn't work with her :) It's a like a special pact. She's a college-educated stay-at-home-mom that is intelligent enough to climb a career ladder, but chose to forgo that and be a full-time wife and mother. He clearly wanted that too, since she quit for him. She treats him well, dotes on him, takes care of the babies, and did initially support him with lean portions and exercising together. But he needed to be trustworthy for her.

Again, I think she made him fat because *he needed it*. It was basically an act of love. He went into marriage wanting a stay at home wife that was all gushy for him and full of romance and other frills, but he couldn't control his urges and live up to his end of the bargain. So for him to maintain the kind of relationship he wants, she has to help him out, do him a favor like the good wife she is.

He gets to enjoy all the amazing food he wants, and he carries around a helpful reminder that he's a married man now.

Ha ha! Very succinct points! :)

How much would you estimate he weighs now?

A lot of guys can't handle staying in great shape in an old fashioned relationship. They can't resist the onslaught of continued interest from other women or the temptation to flirt.

If their in a ** (Dual Income, No Kids) relationship, maybe it's not a big deal if they hang out and then part ways. But if he's really desiring an old school, 1950s-style thing where wifey stays home and takes care of the house and kids, and if he finds a woman willing to drop everything else and take on that vulnerable role...

Well, wifey might just need to fatten up hubby to make fidelity a little easier for him. Relieve the poor guy of parading around that restless dating-site-ready body.

Sometimes a dad bod is good. But some guys need a little more help than that, and if she's serving up his plate, she's got just the tool to make life a little easier -- old-fashioned style just like he likes it. He'll be so loud bragging to his buddies that he's living like a king that he won't even here the hot chicks giggling now when he goes jiggling by.

My wife has definitely packed some weight on me since we got married. I’m a little self-conscious about it, but she seems to like it. I’ve gotten a little bigger in my tummy over the last six months (had to buy new slacks for work) and she suggested that she should start rubbing Palmer’s Cocoa Butter on my stomach each night to prevent stretch marks.

Oh, wow! She is definitely into your belly then!

My guess is she is planning on getting you even bigger for her if she’s trying to keep stretch marks off you. How much weight have you gained?

Probably between 40-50 lbs. in the last two years. She’s a really good cook and I don’t go to the gym as much as I did before we were married. I’ve had to buy new clothes for work a few times and a couple new belts. It’s a little depressing.

You realize Cocoa Butter is for pregnant women, right?

Yes, I can guarantee you that you will not be losing any weight soon if she intends on rubbing your belly with pregnancy cream each night!

Sounds like she’s been planning on making you fat for awhile now and she wants to keep you that way!

Having my wife rub my belly with cocoa butter sounds **!

Are you sure she's not pregnant or researching it? That would explain knowing about cocoa butter. A lot of pregnant women like their man to get a tummy too. That way he can relate to changes in body shape, outgrowing clothes, the need to take things a little more slowly, and maybe even indulging cravings. She also perhaps feels a little less self-conscious. And afterward, she either has a workout buddy or a matching partner depending on whether her body bounces back or not.

Is this serious? People actually want their significant other to gain weight??

Yes! A few reasons why, that I have noticed:
- General married laziness: you quit trying as hard to impress the other person.
- General married contentment/happiness: even people who stick to their routines still seem to gain a little weight once they tie the knot because life is good.
- More sedentary nights: it’s fun to Netflix and chill with your new spouse!
- Change in routine to accommodate your spouse: less gym, more meals, more time eating together, etc.
- Too much love: you care for them so much you just want them to be happy, and it doesn’t bother you if they gain some weight in the process as long as they are happy.
- Attractiveness: some people like the weight gain on others, some people like to feel the weight gain on themselves and some people look better when they are bigger. You have some more freedom to explore this or not be so healthy because you have a loving and caring spouse.

Yes!! :) I think all of those reasons are summed up very well. And I would also add less time in life with jobs, kids, activities, etc. we make ourselves really busy and that being busy gets in the way of more important things, like our health.

I admit when we got married, my wife and I both agreed we would absolutely NOT be one of those typical couples that gets fat. But, then she gained a few pounds almost overnight with the craziness of first semester grad school finals. I was kind of annoyed at first, but then pleasantly surprised, and almost shocked, that she felt a little nicer in bed. There was this softer, fuller, more substantial feeling. I couldn't admit to it though, and I'm ashamed to say, even teased her some.

Because of other issues, the weight kept coming and I kept strangely finding it more and more delightful to the point that I finally had to admit it. She's always been a bit of a foodie and my newly admitted love for her softness freed her to start making more elaborate meals, which in turn started pounding my waistline. That seemed to make her more comfortable around me. It's almost like her attractions changed to seeing a big guy as more dominant and manly, like she refers to my "bear hugs" and expects me to eat bigger portions. She'll sometimes remark about little skinny guys almost as if they're boys.

So here we are a decade later, and I'd definitely love it if she got even softer and she seems keen on having a big man in her life.

How much weight have you both gained?

Kind of obvious isn't it? Something like 40% of people are obese. There's no way that's all by accident. Even if it's 95% accident, which I find hard to believe, that still means millions and millions of deliberate weight gainers. It's basically the huge white elephant of a secret that no one talks about publicly. But the evidence clearly speaks for itself!

If you really want evidence, consider that NutriSystem was the most popular mens' weight loss until they got bought out. Their new company Tivity health has been losing, practically an emaciated, since early 2018. Meanwhile obesity rates are blowing up. So, weight loss companies are thinning and people are gaining. Correlation does not equal causation, but when it's this extreme, something is up!

Maybe there is a difference, though, between deliberate weight gain and weight gain for reasons of just life and your life changing. For instance, purposely overeating to add weight to your body in a conscious way is different than maybe having less time to work on yourself because you have a toddler or a demanding job or you fight traffic each day for hours and you just don’t have the time to exercise like you once did (and you haven’t modified your eating habits well enough).

I wouldn’t mind if my wife gained some weight. She looks better when her body is full and curvy. She’s more womanly to me at a higher body weight.

My wife definitely feeds me like she wants me to gain weight...

Good for him! He's off the meat market now. He doesn't need a chick magnet body anymore. Health trolls will complain, but I'm sure a wife sexing up his blubber in the bedroom will keep him younger than any treadmill could.

Very true!

When did you start to realize you were attracted to a fatter version of him?

I’m not really sure. We were just getting ready one day and I noticed his belly was a little bigger in his undershirt, and I thought it was cute. But I didn’t say anything or think much of it. It was maybe 10-15 pounds at that time. Not a lot, but enough for an observant spouse to notice.
A few weeks later, I saw him again getting ready and noticed it again and decided to lovingly tease him about his new, added weight. He said he thought his pants were a little tight. I told him I thought he looked fantastic and handsome, and that I could get him dress slacks one size bigger for him if he wanted next time I went to the store. But then I started thinking more about it throughout the day and I realized I just found him very attractive a little heavier.
I paid extra close attention to how his new size looked in his clothes and what I thought about it and I just found myself really being attracted to him more than ever. He just looked more manly to me.
Soooo...the first 15 pounds we’re all him. But after I realized I was more attracted to him at a heavier weight, I was curious if he would look even more attractive to me at a heavier weight. And I helped him with the last 35 pounds (at the time of this original post) and the subsequent 20 pounds over the last six months. Just good cooking (I’m a fabulous cook) of all his favorite meals, keeping the house stocked with all his favorite snacks, buying him bigger clothes, upping my game in the bedroom and telling him how much I love him.
And I’m very much attracted to him at his new size!! :)

Very sneaky!

I suspect he knows you didn't mind his weight gain one single bit :)

A husband asking his wife "are you trying to make me fat?" is like a wife asking her husband "do these pants make me look fat?"

There's usually enough evidence for them to answer the question themselves, and if they do ask, they know there's no way their spouse will be honest anyway.

I think it’s different for men and women. It’s very easy for a woman to know she’s gained even a little weight because women’s clothes are so much more form fitting and unforgiving. They get tight fast with just a few pounds up the scale. Men’s clothes are much more loose and you don’t notice as quickly that they don’t fit as well. And, I don’t think men care as much, don’t get on bathroom scales as much and don’t focus on their weight like women tend to do. So, a husband might not notice his weight gain like a wife might notice hers (or his, women pay attention more than men). So a man might not legitimately realize he’s getting fattened up until he’s 20 pounds bigger.

I’ve straight up asked my girlfriend if she is trying to get me fat and she said, “Yes! Of course I am,” like it was no big deal.

This is so cute!! 🥰

I like reading all the comments from these women who still love their chubby men. It’s really cute!

"Keep 'em round and they'll keep around" as I always say!
Or if a skinny lad somehow catches your heart, no problem ...
"Turn a stick round and they'll stick around"
"Make 'em wide and they'll stay by your side"
"Turn his ab to flab and your relationship will be fab"

You know they've decided to stay once they've let themselves go!