My husband is getting fat

I hope people know this thread was started by a man, who is getting off on the responses, most of which were written by him. Sorry! It's pretty obvious.

You think that someone wrote 2,000 comments for the sake of "getting off?" Get real... or at least justify such an egregious accusation

Yeah, it’s ridiculous and says more about the accuser than the thread.

Some of the comments are ridiculous. . . But a lot of them are very helpful to me. My husband has gained over our 10 years together and while I know I should be upset I also find it very **. It’s a real struggle in my mind between what I should feel and what I do feel.

Ok...not sure what ** you off so much about this thread, but not every comment on here is from one person. I’ve posted one on here as well. This thread, for me, is very helpful. I enjoy being heavier and my wife has a range of mixed feelings. It’s helpful to read these for some of us because it normalizes what we’re going through from both sides. 100% there are obvious fake comments, but don’t make others feel uncomfortable with sharing. That is the nature of this type of forum, good and bad.

I agree that this is a helpful forum. I’m heavy and my wife is not. Generally I like being heavy and my wife is fine with it - but there are times we struggle with it especially as I get closer to 40 and big becomes bigger. It is good to see what others think. And we can weed out the comments that are fake.

My wife showed me this forum when I was getting down about my weight increasing during this pandemic. Just stress, bad eating habits and more difficulty in finding ways to exercise. I’ve gained about 25 pounds, and it’s been noticeable in my face and stomach (I was already a little overweight). She said that after looking through Google to find how she could help me, she found this forum and wanted to show me. She said she could learn to appreciate a heavier version of me because so many other people have with their spouses, and didn’t want me to try and lose the weight now. She wants me to just relax, get mentally healthy and content and let her just enjoy me at this heavier weight for now. It was a relief and took some pressure off.

I agree that some of these comments don’t seem real. Not sure why - trolling, mocking, etc. On the other hand, some of these comments are absolutely, 100%, real and legitimate. I’ve posted on here before, so I know for a fact it’s not just one guy. So whether it’s a hater or a true feelings about appreciation and worth, it doesn’t matter to me. I personally enjoy a little extra weight on me and my wife (and so does she!), so I like coming here to read encouraging words from other people like me.

Well said. Life is hard enough. If you and your wife are fine carrying some extra weight, good for you. For us, it was so liberating 10 years ago to decide that we were done with the diets. We eat what we like. Yes, we get bigger, but we enjoy each other for who we are.

Most husbands get fat (or fatter) when they get married. At least you are supportive and not nagging him about it.

And there is nothing wrong about liking your man bigger. After a few years of marriage a bigger belly looks good. Plus, at the size he is now he can’t complain about the 20 pounds I’ve gained!

How much bigger is he now? Do you like it?

Well he was 330 at his last physical and was 150 when we met . . . But that’s over 20 years. He’s 40 and was 19 when we met. So he grew into the weight gradually, although faster the past few years as he got older. And I do like him bigger. I wouldn’t have liked him this big when he was a kid, and when he’s older I would worry about his health, but for now it looks right on him. Plus I’ve gained 35 pounds since we’ve met so we’ve both gained.

Why were all the comments deleted? That's weird

My wife has been getting “fat” during this past year. She used to go to the gym a lot, then her gym closed, and she’s lost a lot of motivation to keep herself in the same shape because of all the craziness of 2020. She says she’s not depressed, just taking some time off. The time off has now been months and it’s starting to show. She’s gained about 25 pounds, going from rock hard abs to a soft belly. I’m not complaining because I like this new version. She’s softer, more womanly looking. Curvier. Bigger ** and the ladies have grown. It’s all good in my opinion. I’m just worried she’s going to regret the weight gain when she decides to start working out again.

Big men bellies are the best!

There is nothing wrong with your husband getting bigger and you liking it. Certainly better than you not liking it! My husband was a skinny kid when we met in college - probably 150 at 5’8”. Over the last 14 years he’s put on a few pounds. Nothing crazy but he’s 285 now. So he could lose maybe 30 pounds. Luckily he carries it all in his belly so he isn’t sloppy looking. And he was a jock when he was younger so he can carry the weight. I think it is sad when you see an overweight kid but for a grown man to put on some weight is fine. So tell the haters to relax and enjoy your big man.

Oh, wow! He almost doubled his weight. Do you like him that big?

Well, yes, I guess so. He dresses well and looks great in a button down shirt and slacks. His size makes him a natural leader in a group. And when it is just us he is so big and strong to cuddle up next to. Again when I was 20 I’m not sure I would have appreciated or known how to handle a bigger man but at 33 I do. Plus, the worst time in our marriage was the one time he went on a serious diet. He lost about 25 pounds. He was constantly stressed and everything I cooked, or when we went out, was either too big or not the right foods. He just looked smaller and weak. Of course you want to support your spouse but I secretly was glad when he gave up on that.

Certainly his family and friends have noticed the serious weight he has put on - what do you say to them when they ask about it?

For me, I just told his mom that he’s fatter now because he’s happy and has a wife who takes care of him. She couldn’t argue with that. And I told her don’t be surprised if he shows up even fatter next time she sees him. But that’s just me. I’m not the poster of this original comment thread.

I get this. My man is a little taller and not as heavy, but he definitely has chubbied up on me by about 50-60 lbs. Just fatter everywhere overall, and chubby cheeks and a belly starting to stick out. He looks different and feels different, but I don’t mind. I love him so much and that’s just how he looks and feels now.

I know! I saw that belly coming out of the shower this morning and just had to - well wow.

How did he get that big? Was their a point where you thought he was just starting to look too fat?

I guess it was just eating too much - he loves his food - over too many years, and not working out the way he used to. It was more gradual. He didn’t mind the weight and I thought he looked good a little bit heavier. So he probably gained about 70 - 75 pounds over 10 years. Then about 70 pounds over the last 4 years when it got harder to work out at all. And then all of a sudden he is 285! To be honest I don’t think he is too fat at that weight, except in the belly which looks **. But at some point he’ll have to cut back.

How much does your hefty hubby weigh now? Hope you're still enjoying his bigger belly!

He’s just under 300 pounds! And I’m definitely still loving his sweet belly!!

How fat are you going to make him?

I’ve cut back a bit on his portions. I don’t want him getting too big because I want him around for the long haul. 😌

Do you also have a “hefty hubby” to enjoy?

I need a mommy dommy feeder

This happened to me. My wife packed a size 36 pants for our honeymoon, even though I was a 34. I asked her why and she said she wanted me to have a size that fit me after the honeymoon. We took a three-week cruise and had a wonderful time. She just encouraged me to eat and enjoy the cruise. Once it was over, I had gained 19 pounds in three weeks and needed the new pants...

Have you gained more since the honeymoon?

Unfortunately, yes...
Every 6-8 months, I find a bigger size in my drawers and closets. She just buys the same styles/colors in the next size up (thanks, Amazon!).
After a few years and about 40 pounds later, and an obvious belly was forming, I asked her what had happened with my physique and why I always had clothes that fit even though I was gaining weight.
She told me that she knew I liked food, wanted me to be happy in our marriage and didn’t mind if I gained some weight. She said my bigger body was fine for her and watching her married man put on a little “new husband weight” was a turn on, too.
So, there was my answer about all those big portions and new clothes!

How much do you weigh now compared to when you two met?

Probably 175 when we met. About 190 when we got married. And pushing 230 right now.

Hmm he sounds interesting but I'm not going for him I'll leave ur mans alone also weight gain can sometimes cause depression or serious sickness from to much eating be careful and stay safe 💖

He gets so much love and attention from me at his heavier weight now that I don’t think he can get depressed from his new belly.

Reading some of these comments.....I want to know where all these women with such fattening intentions are hiding. I had a girlfriend tell me once that if she got pregnant, she'd be making me get fat with her and that turned out to be a huge turn-on for me.

Would love to grow a big round belly because of my SO

Based on "relationship weight" being nearly ubiquitous, I'm guessing they're hiding in plain sight!

Ha ha! Very true! Those fat tummies are pretty good evidence of people loving the chubbiness (or at a minimum, indifferent to the added weight)!

I’m a little jealous of those ladies who put a little belly on their man. I think it’s super cute to see a new husband or boyfriend start to plump up!! :) ❤️

That would be pretty **. I wouldn’t mind my wife making me fat while her pregnant belly was growing. That does seem like a turn-on.

You ain't never set foot in the South, 'cause if you did you'd know we ain't hiding. We will serve you pecan pie, donuts and fried chicken until your belly gets nice 'n big. It's not called "feeding", it's called "cooking", and we are proud to do it!

Here in the South, Mama runs the household, and we will NOT let you forget it. Every husband learns the rules: "If Momma's not happy, nobody's happy!":
https://www.southernliving.com/culture/southern-mama-marriage-advice

We ALWAYS get our way (which includes putting a big belly on the hubby), and what's more, our men love every minute:
https://www.confessionpost.com/67401/my-husband-got-fat-with-my-help

I'm ok then ?

I’d get fat with my girlfriend or wife if she wanted me to.

The person who posted this is a man pretending to be a woman who loves her husband's weight gain. The poster reads the responses and masturbates. You've been punk'd!

How fat is he now?

My husband’s belly is getting soooo big during this pandemic. He already had poor eating habits, but now he isn’t getting any exercise. He was a little chubby to start, but now he’s gained 30 pounds this year and probably six inches on his belly. It’s just a fat belly now. I’m not thrilled with it...😒

It’s not your husband’s belly, it’s your “love belly” that he is wearing, just like he wears your wedding ring. If you want it smaller, manage his portions and help him move more to slim it down. But don’t work it all off so the women know he’s married before they can see his wedding ring.

I think the whole “fat acceptance” movement is waaay off base and not focused on health and science! Heeelllloooo, it’s not healthy to be the size of a cow!! It just isn’t, no matter what anyone wants to say. If you’re into gaining weight as a fetish or something, then whatever, but don’t make all of us confirm to your sense of what is healthy. Rant over.

A young fat boy or old fat man are both unattractive. A fat belly isn’t ** no matter how young, old or rich you are!!

Honey - Are you married, and if so, for how long? I have been married for 24 years and I know a few things. My husband’s belly is not like a ham you get at the butcher. I built that belly and if I want it bigger I will make it bigger. And if I think it should be smaller, I will do that, too. I treat my husband like the king of our family, but I run the household, nobody will contradict me on THAT. And I am the owner of my husband’s belly, and his man parts, too!

Amen, sister! I feel like I own my husband's belly and I take care of it and rub it like my good luck charm.

There's the voice of reason. Not too long ago I went up to a man with a beautiful, tiny waist and a hard belly and wrapped my hands around him and got a huge sexual buzz. Can't do that with a fat lard who lets himself go.

Turns out that a fat man and smaller woman make a more satisfied couple:
https://stylecaster.com/fat-man-skinny-women-make-more-satisfied-couple/

This was NOT a surprise here in the South. Wives have known that for generations. Before marriage, mothers have "the talk" with their daughters, about how to manage a marriage. How to make a man think he's in charge, while we run the household. A big part of that is getting the husband nice and fat. My momma recommended putting at least 50 pounds on my husband in the first two years, and another 50 if were were still fighting. My husband has put on 85 pounds in 5 years of marriage, and I can testify that "fat and happy" is definitely a thing. We haven't fought in 2 years - he's too busy eating!

I’m into bigger girls and stuff, but I don’t know about fattening up your ** purpose. Smh.