My husband is getting fat

Hmm, stumbling across this. Looking at my own 75 lb gut. Wondering if my wife has been on here

Sounds like a lot of belly to carry around, has the wife been feeding you up? Does she like your big belly?

Ha ha! What happened that you gained that much?

Sounds like you used to be a skinnier man...

My 100 lb gut is wondering the same thing.

It’s not bad, man. Life with a wonderful woman who loves you and takes care of you is worth some extra weight. Every time I try to lose weight and go on a diet, my wife says she loves my size and how I look and makes me a dessert. But I can’t complain because she treats me like a king. A fat king, but a king nonetheless.

Sounds like a nice life! How much do you weigh? How did you two meet?

Do you resent that she made you fat?

Maybe just ask her. I just posted above about my BF’s mini belly. If he asked me, I would tell him to not try and work it off.

Why would anyone want their partner to be fat?! I don’t understand this post!!

Exactly. This makes no sense to me, either.

People who say they don't like being fat usually give superficial or external reasons -- they're embarrassed, clothes don't fit, etc. Those that are less constrained by what others think often get to experience the nicer aspects of both the process of becoming fat and being fat.

There is a freedom in enjoying food as much as you want with your partner. There's a bond in the commitment shown by letting go and relaxing. Fat is soft and warm for cuddling. There's bear hugs that can drown out any problem.

Haters will scream about health problems and point out some episode on TLC. But there's much more diversity in fat relationships. Sure, some couples do go for hugeness. But in most, it's just about being so into each other that a little relationship weight is expected, maybe even welcomed as part of love. And if you have a parter that loves to cook or enjoys feeding you or eating out, then maybe it's more than a little "happy fat".

Yes!! This comment! 100%!! ❤️

For me, it started with being more into who they are instead of what they looked like. Or I guess you can say that my physical attraction follows my mental attraction. I was never into big people before. But soon into our relationship, my partner gained a bit of weight, and it was clear they were basically a fatty, but trying to limit themselves for me.

But I wanted the real them. So I was like hey, don't pretend to be someone else around me. Be yourself and enjoy what you want. When the belly started spreading, it was like magic. Suddenly I found myself liking a bigger belly. I wanted more of it, at first, it was because I felt like I was reaching a deeper level of connection with who they really are. But again, my physical attraction follows and soon I found that softening gut downright hot.

Are you still with the person?

Can you explain a little more of how you came to that conclusion? I think I prefer plus size women, as in I’m more attracted to them, but I’m not sure. Society belittles bigger women.

Meh, a skinny man is like a d*ck on a stick. But a big man has a million other parts to play with, jiggle, fondle, rub, pinch, and squeeze. He's someone you can get lost exploring. If I can't pinch an inch on you, you better love to eat big, cuz we're going to fix that.

Have you always liked fatter dudes?

I gradually fell in love with my best friend’s son and with her blessing we started dating and eventually he moved in with me when I was 38 and he was 22. I know he has always struggled to maintain his weight which left him depressed so I encouraged him to relax his diet. Then he started to eat! A year later he has formed a substantial pot belly and a big chubby face. Initially he tried to hold his belly in but he was fighting a losing battle as it was hanging over his jeans. I rub it and call it his big love belly and pinch his big love handles.

I now have just found out I am pregnant so his big weight gain didn’t hinder that. We are eating for 2 now so there will be 2 big pot belly’s in the house, though I have some catching up to do lol

Congrats on the pregnancy. You worried about your two bellies in the bedroom?

Thank you. Very funny. I have been thinking about that actually lol. Mine will be a natural pregnant belly, whereas he is just getting fat. Will have to use my imagination to keep my young man happy! Any suggestions?

How does your friend feel about you fattening up her son?

She accepts that he is happy and not restricted to any diets. Shocked at the speed of his gain and that her 23 year old son is too fat to play football now.

Your age difference is disturbing to me.

Nothing is said when it’s the other way round! My parents had a 15 year age gap and were happy for many years. We are legal, and totally in love. What’s wrong with that.

How much weight have you both gained since you’ve been together?

Why do you want both of you to have big bellies?

My wife is over 280lbs and has told me she would like to try for a baby. I gently advised her to lose some weight which really upset her. She is having none of it and wants to start trying now. What should I do?

What was her weight before or has she always been 280 pounds?

She has always been over 200lbs with me and has steadily gained over the last 3 years. She has 2 kids from a previous marriage and I hear she had gained 60 or 70 each pregnancy. We are in our late thirties so she would be an older mum this time round.

Do you want her to slim down because you aren’t attracted to her at 280lbs?

Yes, it would be nice if she could slim down a little, but I’m happy enough with the weight she’s at as she still turns me on. But she’s only 5 foot so anything over 300lbs would be too fat for me.

I think you are totally within your rights as a husband (and possible father) to ask her to be healthier for you and the family. Are you in shape?

Yes I’m 5 10 160lbs.

What did you say to her? Was she upset because you are correct or because of how you said it?

What do you think you should do?

Has anyone here ever dumped someone for gaining weight? Or has anyone been dumped for gaining weight?

I was dumped for “getting fat on him.” It was 20 pounds over 18 months. It took a year to get over it, but I slimmed down and lost 30 pounds and started dating again. I found an even better and more successful boyfriend.

My wife left me when I was 45 years of age and weighed 270 lbs. I was devastated and thought I couldn’t meet anyone else at my age and weight. A year later I met and started dating an overweight widow in her 50’s I met through work. We dated for a year and food became a central part of our lives. We have been married for 3 years now and we have both grown fat and happy in our relationship.

How much do you weigh nowadays? How much does she weigh?

I’m up to 390lbs now, and was over 300lbs when we got married. My wife retired when we got married and has piled on the weight since then. She’s 60 now, weighing 360lbs with 3 big belly rolls she calls her retirement belly.

My boyfriend said he wanted to end our relationship and said the weight I gained was part of his decision. It was about 25 pounds over two years, but that was the first time he ever said anything about me being heavier. And I guess he probably gained 35-40 pounds while we dated, too. But I guess I was the problem...

Many years ago I dated a tall woman (6') who was around 200 pounds. At the time I was very thin (140). She felt uncomfortable about the weight difference and asked me to gain. I refused, and we broke up. A few months ago, I bumped into her. She has lost a lot of weight (she looked around 140), and I have gained a lot (250). I told her she looked great. She got a wry smile on her face, said "You too. I always thought you'd look better fat" and poked me in the belly.

You guys gonna get back together, you think? How did you feel about her poking your tummy?

She mentioned that she went through a messy divorce two years ago, so I don't know how available she is, but she lost so much weight that I didn't recognize her at first. I didn't think she recognized me either right away, but then her eyes lit up and she came over and greeted me with "Hey Chubbs!". She used to call me "Chubbs" back when we dated, even though I was stick thin, after I gained a few pounds. She would play with my tiny tummy roll and tell me how she was going to fatten me up. When I didn't gain much more weight (I was running 20 miles a week), she told me that it meant I wasn't comfortable in the relationship. She even offered me "protein shakes" which probably contained weight gain powder, but I didn't like the taste. She came from a traditional Italian family so my inability to put on weight made her reticent to introduce me to her parents, unless I got bigger. When I saw her again, she seemed genuinely pleased to see me and when we hugged, she let her hands linger on my belly as though she was sizing me up. She had a big grin on her face when she poked my belly and I have to admit it was s e x y as **. Her parents have passed on, but her two brothers have taken over her father's clothing store so I see them from time to time. They're both around my size. Maybe I'll go by the store to get fitted for a new suit and ask about her.

Happy for you guys!! I love a big boy myself. 💕

He has gained 160lbs since marriage with 60lbs in the first year adjusting to his new diet lol. I took my mums advice to ensure a happy husband is one who enjoys 3 huge meals a day and making sure his stomach was full before he left the dinner table.

That’s a lot of belly! 😳

Sure is, 320lbs of hanging belly. Haven’t finished yet, his brother is married to a tiny Filipino girl who has fattened him up to over 400 lbs. I have never seen a man get fat so quick lol, she had a belly on him in no time. His belly is so big he has to arch his back when he is walking next to his 90lbs wife

You're the Caribbean woman, right? Just how fat do you plan on making him? 320lbs is big for sure. But seems like you have a bit of competition between you and your sister in law on who has the fattest husband! Lol

Yes, I’m the Caribbean woman. I would like to fatten my husband to over 400lbs like his brother. It’s not a competition as she would wins hands down, she has even offered to help me fatten him more lol. When my brother in law was dating her she had put 50lbs on his belly in a matter of months before their marriage. My husband and I went to their house last week for a meal and I swear I thought my husband’s belly was going to burst with the amount of food he put away, both brothers could hardly move lol.

I've heard that about Filipinas. Also most believe in marriage for life, so you don't need your six pack body ever again anyway. She'll treat you like a king, but you need to stay faithful to her. A 400lb gut will make it easier for you to avoid any temptations.

Yea, my sister in law is some feeder lol. She told me Filipino women are obsessed with loyalty and hate lies. The size of the belly she has put on my brother in law will not be attracting attention, but she clearly loves him. She is bossy and possessive with him but he is too fat and tired to argue.

We are a mixed race couple and due to my Caribbean culture of cooking and entertaining my English husband’s weight has nearly doubled in 5 years. Since our marriage he has grown to love my Caribbean cooking and I am used to the culture of large portion sizes and plenty of fried food and rich deserts. My husband’s weight ballooned in the first year we were married lol, and it has increase each year. Due to me he now sports a huge stomach which is a testament to my cooking skills lol.

How much weight did he gain? Did you do it on purpose?

Oh, wow!! Congrats!!

Congrats for what! Lol

How much does your husband weigh now? Have you gotten him to 400lbs yet?

What is everyone’s favourite big belly shape on a man or woman? And why?

On a woman, a slightly preggo look is super ** for her belly. Like, where you aren’t quite sure if she is preggo or not preggo kind of belly.

Just a little chubby with a widening, flattened belly button.

A belly with some jiggle to it!!

I personally like a plumb belly. Not really fat, but not skinny. Just enough belly to be sticking out and rounding.

Fat belly for me, please!! It’s cute on a cuddly man!

A woman with some wide hips, big **, nice things and a smallish amount of belly fat is so **!

This is a stupid post, and you people are stupid. I prefer a healthy, slim and non-diabetic woman. That is all.

Pregnant is hot. The more weight she gains, the better.

How big is too big? He already is a size 40 in pants. That’s probably like an XL or XXL waist.

Well, that was more than a year ago. Hubby kept gaining and he’s just below 300 lbs. and he’s a size 44 pants now. He’s big and husky. I’ve told him we both need to be healthier and he needs to watch his weight better. I don’t really want him bigger than he is now. I still love him and appreciate his body, but he’s almost too heavy now.

Yes. 44 pants/300 lbs. is getting too fat. Have you put on weight, too, with him gaining that much?

Anyone ever tell their BF or husband that they are getting fatter and that you like that they are getting fatter? Not sure how to bring up that his belly is turning me on.

Gotcha. Been there, too. Just start touching it more or grabbing and holding onto it when you cuddle. Don’t make him feel bad for eating junk food or desserts or overeating. Just do all this stuff more often and subtly and eventually he will ask about it or he will just keep gaining because he likes the attention from you. Good luck with it!

Just rub it and tell him you like it. It’s that simple. That’s what my wife did to show me she wanted my stomach to stay around.

That’s what I used to do with my husband’s little pot belly. Now 5 years and 100lbs later I’m rubbing his huge pot belly lol

Yep, loved it. But I kept my belly under 100 lbs. You have a pretty fat boy by now.

How did he gain his weight?

You could just tell him you prefer him a little chubbier and see what he says, right?

Just tell him to gain a little weight just for you because you want him beefier. He will probably do it.

I just told my husband one day that I might like him fatter and asked if he would gain some weight for me. That was 34 lbs. ago!!

No, I don't think so. You'll be fine :)

Some people look better as skinnier versions of themselves and some people look better as fatter versions of themselves. It’s just one of those weird things that not everyone looks their best at the same weight, size or shape. I’m glad we can all be different and still look good! And I’m glad you can find joy, happiness and contentment with him being bigger!! Good luck to you two! 💕

I gave birth to our first child in January and during the pregnancy my hubby matched me pound for pound both of us gaining 60lbs. Since then I have lost most of my pregnancy weight naturally while hubby struggled to shift a single pound. In fact due to lockdown he has gained another 30lbs at least! He has a belly on him that looks fit to burst, meaning his energy levels have dropped and he is unable to help me much with the baby. He would sleep and eat all day if I let him. Anyone in a similar position?

I can relate. That happened to us, too. My husband didn’t gain 90 pounds, but he gained about 50. Our joke was that we both looked about five months pregnant together. I lost all the weight except about 10 pounds. He kept on all the weight and still looks pregnant. I don’t mind his new tummy (it’s cute!!), but he is definitely less active now and gets tired quickly. I don’t love that.

50lbs is still quite a gain, but at least you husband only put on 50lbs, could you imagine another 40lbs on his tummy? How is your husband enjoying his new tummy?

Yep, been there and done that, too, ladies. He’s still fat. But I love him. He’s still the man I want everyday, even though he’s my chubby hubby now. Can’t imagine my life without him (or without his belly)!

Isn’t it funny that while us ladies have lost most of our pregnancy weight our husband’s have struggled to loose a single pound of their sympathy weight. How’s hubby enjoying his new fat belly? Has he got used to it?

Wow!! I was there, too. By month five, my husband had gained more weight than me (more than 20 lbs.!!). So I rented an Empathy Belly one weekend and made him wear it and said I didn’t want him to know what it was like to be pregnant, but I wanted him to know what it was going to be like to be really fat, which is where his weight gain was heading. He was on pace to gain 50 lbs. I said he needed to slow down on the extra weight or he was going to be a similar size in a year. He wasn’t happy about the Empathy Belly, but I insisted and he wore it Friday through Sunday. He was miserable, and I was miserable listening to him. But, that weekend motivated him to start being more active with me and watch his weight better. He gained only three more pounds the rest of the pregnancy and lost all the weight with me as we shed our baby weight together!

Sorry to hear about that, love. That’s a lot of weight and not extremely healthy or helpful to you as a new mother. Unless you like his big tummy, I think you need to help him. He sounds like he can’t help himself on his own.

We had the opposite problem in our marriage. He was just slightly overweight by 20 lbs. and I was a good, healthy weight. I got pregnant and that motivated him to lose weight like a boss. He ended up dropping 48 lbs. during my pregnancy and was in his best shape since high school. I went the other way. I gained 42 lbs. and only lost 7 lbs. of the baby weight. It’s been two years and I’m about 35 lbs. bigger than I used to be. 😔

Yes!! It happens to a lot of men, although maybe not to that big of a degree. My hubby gained about 15 pounds with each pregnancy. So three kids and about 50 lbs. later, he is still my main squeeze!! 💕

My wife has always been fit and slim. During this pandemic, her fitness routine has been off and she’s starting to gain noticeable weight for her. We went shopping this week and she had to go from a size S to a size M for her dress and for her shirts. She was feeling bad about it but I told her she looks great. The honest truth, though, is she looks so ** with some fat on her. She was always so slim and defined, and now she’s getting soft and I love it! She’s probably gained 20 pounds and I hope she keeps going.

Seems nice, bro! Good luck on her gain.

Thanks, I guess. Like I said earlier, I’m not like trying to get her super fat. I just thought the extra weight looked cute on her.

Just be careful. She might be on her way to becoming a fatty. How much gain is too much for you?

Yea, not into her being a fat girl. Just liked the extra fluff. But this site is weird and I regret even posting anything on here. And to answer your question, more than another 20 pounds would be too much. I’m not into fat gain and stuff like a lot of the people and comments below. I’m normal.

Sounds like it’s working out for you. Keep growing her.

“Growing her?!” What does that even mean, dude? I just said she’s gained some weight and I didn’t mind it, and that I was surprised I liked it. I’m not like a feeder or something!